In the past month or so, i have had to deal with the death of about 4or5(i loose count now) close Friends and Family members...dang it is tuff..
about 3 weeks ago...somebody choose to steal my DOG!!!
iam trying to work this out...
anger
denial...
acceptance?!!!
iam trying to keep sanity!!!
2006-07-21 17:37:32 · 9 answers · asked by rlharris59 3 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
Well, first and foremost, I feel bad for you not only for your current sequence of events, but for the many bozos who answered your question.
Your topic is complex and deep. Bookstores are filled with material on it. The thing I have learned, though - which is contrary to the book answers - is that you never do "deal with it". Death is, and is "intended to be" (if I may use that phrase), bigger than what your mind can grasp. You can't work it out. It really can't be dealt with.
So ... I would say just keep going. You'll find that 3, 4 years from now you will stop and be hit by how horrible death is, and how horrible the loss of your family is - all over again, like you've never felt it before. Also - just as randomly - you'll find you'll see a sunset or see a rainstorm and suddenly Death doesn't seem that bad, like its passed through you and touched you and changed you.
Just keep going. Death works its way through life. He has his way. He will have His way with you ... learning that makes the rest easier.
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2006-07-21 18:11:03 · answer #1 · answered by robabard 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I undertsand its tuff....even with just 1 death...Everyone is different...some will surprisingly turn to faith.....others to booze. One thing I can recommend is that you just take 2 days off to sit around and do nothing...turn the cell off, and just relax...watch TV...whatever.
If and when you start to cry....dont stop thinking about it, just get it out....but then think about why you were crying afterwards, and remember that those that you have lost are in a much better place now.
One thing that has always helpped me understand is that ie...I lost my grandfather, and hopefuly I won't meet him again for 50-60-80 years from now in the afterlife, but when you compare that to an eternity, that isnt a long time even on the other side. It's kinda like having an 8 hour dream and you wake up and its been 20 minutes.
I found that learning that death is an absolute...and that nobody can escape it regardless of age, was helpful. Its not a BAD thing, its part of living.
But remembering those that you can no longer see physically is always nessesary.
Time will heal all, and it will get easier the further from the date you get. Life will bring you reminders, like Christmas and anniversarys, and old photo albums, but once you learn to accept the fact that really......"its not big deal" and that we will all be together again, it becomes a lot easier.
Hope that can help you.
Last year I lost my 1st grandfather, and my best friends Dad, and I still have 3 grandparents to go. They will all "go" quick and most likely one after another, I am trying to perpare myself for that but you will be amazed by strength you all of a sudden find one day. Especially when you make a point of being there for those who might have been closer to the person than you were.
2006-07-21 17:56:48 · answer #2 · answered by DREAK 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Drop your ego as you had friends and dog. Those things lived around and you foolishly thought as your's something disappeared, and the so attached mind of yours to those physical forms troubles you. You never had anything and will never have anything as anybody in this world. Work towards freeing yourself from the very foolish attachment stuff......but look at everything with compassion rather than passion that is the process of freeing.
2006-07-21 17:54:38 · answer #3 · answered by r_govardhanam 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Death is never fun..Life is sometimes not fun.. Hopefully where the loved ones are they are feeling good and having fun with each other looking down on you each time you think of them and sending you an angel feather for not forgetting them and bringing you closer to their home.. About the dog.. Hopefully he's being taken good care of and he bites the hand that feeds him and he get's lose and comes back to you..
2006-07-21 18:08:26 · answer #4 · answered by Sweet Baby 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its tough, but acceptence is first. Death is natural.. and they are in a better place. It kinda corny. Im sure who ever stole your dog will be punished.. the tough times will pass, i've been in ur situation before, personally i looked to God for peace, but that's me.
2006-07-21 17:48:23 · answer #5 · answered by slacker45 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let's face it we all die. Some sooner, some later. I've had many friends and members of my family die, but I'm still here. You just got to hang in there.
2006-07-21 17:42:11 · answer #6 · answered by KingCucamonga 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that time will help. Just remember that no amount of grief will bring the dead back. Jesus said "Follow me and let the dead bury their dead."
2006-07-21 17:50:46 · answer #7 · answered by David S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WAHHH! Poor you.
Maybe you'd like to be an Iraqi or Lebanese or maybe be starving in Somalia or something?
Get over it. People die and bad things happen People are born and good things happen. Welcome to life.
2006-07-21 17:42:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
WHAT THIS IS CRAZY
2006-07-21 17:47:07 · answer #9 · answered by A 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋