I'm confused. This man was a good friend for a long time. He was there for me when my husband and I were having problems. I love my husband and I want my marriage to work. How can I end this affair?
2006-07-21 17:15:02 · 19 answers · asked by danielle26 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
To be honest with you I'm in the same situation ur in I think that he is using ur weakness for his gain so u just need to cut off everything including the friendship because if the sex is good by being friends the affair will keep on going on and ur marraige will fell PLEASE USE MY ADVICE
2006-07-21 17:32:57 · answer #1 · answered by Dinesha G 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Are you still having problems with your husband?
Really think about it, are you in love with this other guy the way you're in love with your husband. Do you even really love him as more than a friend. Maybe he's just someone you see there for comfort. Distance yourself from him, make him see and understand that you're very much in love with your husband and that's the man for you, nobody else.
And when you feel like you're getting a little weak, think...is this really worth losing my husband for?
If your husband is truly the person for you that you're in love with you will slowly and carefully be able to put this to rest without a bad ending.
2006-07-22 00:20:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes , you can love two men at the same time , but tell yourself why is that other man in your life? does he care for you? guys can be strange in the sense that they tell you what you want to hear so they can conquer what they were out to get think about it its lust . also put some thought into it did your husband ever make you wonder about his love? just know this the other man may have someone else and when you think your in love he may want the wife , this man is using you for his ego your just a vulnerable person looking for love with the wrong man realize your love is in your hands NOW YOUR HUSBAND!
2006-07-22 01:23:18 · answer #3 · answered by curious 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's not an affair. you want your husband to be there like this guy is for you. you're rebelling against your husband and trying to show him what he needs to do, even without knowing it. if you love you husband, then you don't need anyone else. maybe these feelings you have for this other guy are because you don't really love your husband. in that case, you have a big problem
2006-07-22 00:18:18 · answer #4 · answered by italianchick44 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hope that the guy that is your friend will bow out graciously. as long as the two of you did not share intimate moments you should be fine but if this good friend of urs wants more then that with you count your friendship gone because he will feel used and might want to take revenge on. the best thing to do is to talk to him and tell him that you want to make your marriage work and that you appreciate everything he did for you. that you hope the two of you can remain friends. other then that there is nothing more you can do.
2006-07-22 00:21:12 · answer #5 · answered by wedjb 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you can love two men at the same time but its impossible to be IN love with two men at the same time. Find out who you really want to be with. Follow your heart and go with the person that you know you wont have any regrets about later on down the road.
GOOD LUCK :-)
2006-07-22 00:30:44 · answer #6 · answered by Fearfully & wonderfully made 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when you have problems in your marriage avoid revealing that to your male friends....it often leads to affairs. End the affair - tell the other man it's OVER!
2006-07-22 00:21:13 · answer #7 · answered by jaimestar64cross 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell the other man gently & nicely that u appreciated him being there for u in ur hour of need,that u love him for that,also its difficult for u to give attension to 2 men at a time so u're asking him in all his kindness to allow u focus on your marriage & make it work.That he'll always be special to u.
Ofcourse,if he's mainly interested in the booty he wouldnt give up so easily.Just tell him when he's sevices R needed u'll give him a holla,but that might take a while.
2006-07-22 00:29:20 · answer #8 · answered by Yomif 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is possible, obviously, to have feelings for two men at the same time, but the result is that all three of you get hurt. Remember your marriage vows and just do what's right.
2006-07-22 00:20:06 · answer #9 · answered by The First Dragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you can love 2 men.. but you can only be in love with one.. you know that feeling that only that one person can make you feel...girl I know you know.. and if you don't..then you have not been in love. I have been married for 13 years ..been to hell and back.... if you love your man ..stop talking to TROUBLE..yeah him that so called FRIEND!!! If your friend really loved you back . you would of been with him only.. if he is with you knowing that you have someone else...girl drop him he is a DOG.... oh desperate to have you..he can't get no one else..
2006-07-22 00:26:45 · answer #10 · answered by violet 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋