My wife is upset?

Question

My wife and I were discussing our fantasies. I didnt want to but she said she promised not to get upset, that it was her fault for asking if i said something she didn't like. So, I told her that I had always thought her 17 year old sister was hot and would love to use her like a little vvhore while my wife watched. Now my wife is totally pi$$ed at me. I didnt even say that I would actually do it, its just a fantasy. Why do women ask questions like this and then get upset when you answer truthfully?

~religious answers will be ignored~

Answer 1

Gee, I can't imagine why your wife would be upset with the fact that you told her you'd like to use her 17 year old SISTER like a whore while she watched...are you SERIOUSLY that clueless?????

a. you fantasize about her sister
b. she's 17
c. you want to treat her sister like a whore
d. you want you wife to witness it.

I'd be upset if it was ANY 17 year old you were talking about, but the fact that it's your sis in law is just plain creepy!!! Get a life dude!!!

Answer 2

Never, Ever, EVER bring anyone that she knows or has ever laid eyes on into a fantasy that you discuss with her!!! Leave age out if it, too. Now she will always be thinking that you want a younger woman.

Women have very long memories. She will never be able to get the image of you and her little sister out of her mind. She'll even be mad at her sister!

That's just the way we are. Discussing fantasy's is great, but you have to use very general terms. No names, no faces that will come back to haunt her next time you are with her, no references to younger girls.

It should have gone more like this..."I would like to think of having sex with a sister, but yours is way too young. I've always had a fantasy of having sex with some girls sister and using her as my little whore". Then you would make a joke about how it's too bad she does not have any sisters as hot as she is.

Actually, it's best to just lie when a woman tries to get your fantasies out of you. Better just to say, "I have lots of fantasies, but they are all about you!"

I don't know if you will ever be able to repair the damage done by that conversation with her. It will take a long, long time. Maybe you will get lucky and her sister will put on 100 pounds. That's about the only way your wife will ever get that picture out of her mind!

Answer 3

That's like a woman asking her man if the dress she has on makes her look fat. It's a land mine thrown out in front of you to see if you'll step on it. And boy did you step on it! Some women use this kind of gamesmanship to test their man to see how devoted/ faithful they are. You may not have done anything wrong, but you did just tell your wife that a younger sexier version of herself is more desireable to you. Something she can't compete with. I don't know how you're going to fix this one, but groveling and begging are probably on the list. Do the things necessary to show her she's really the one and only. Flowers, dinners, time alone together, special places, attentiveness, special presents. Then next time you're asked about your fantasies, make sure they revolve only around her, and no one else

Answer 4

She said she wouldn't get mad because she had faith that your fanasies would be more benign. She might have expected you to have a fantasy of you & a young woman while she watched, but the fact that the young woman was her 17 year old sister was probably something she would never have imagined.

If your fantasy was something as sick as violent sex with a 6 year old, would you have blamed her for being upset?

Answer 5

How many times are you going to ask this question in the course of a month?

...she should be upset, hurt, angry and ready to haul you into counseling for even viewing her little sister which by the way is still a minor in such a way,
she no doubt thought you were going to ask her for some thing hard core in the bedroom NEVER thinking you were thinking about her sister, you just made her feel all sorts of bad things and maybe even lowered her self esteem. why weren't you THINKING?
we get upset when someone that loves us supposedly wants to sleep with someone else we women tend to do that.

Answer 6

Vic, Vic, Vic - c'mon man, your making the rest of us guys look bad! It's a sucker question that must be handled very carefully. You can never answer those type of questions with so many specifics. You give her a very generic answer that includes something very positive about her. If she wants to explore further, she will ask for more information. Specifics on a family member (underaged at that) - what were ya thinking? Maybe Missy will reconsider. I hope she does, because she made me very curious as to what story she gave the other person to get out of the dog house!

Answer 7

This is an issue men and women have searched thier souls for over the live of human kind. It is clear you are not wise enough to tell your wife a fantasy that only involes you and her. You will be paying for this for years to come and twice at family gatherings. You truth need to learn to THINK before you Talk.

If she asked you, "Honey, now tell the truth, do I look fat in this dress?" Are you going to tell her she looks fat or will say that she looks hot in that dress?

This is the problem of the ages. We ask for the truth but we want you to say the right thing!!!

Answer 8

Are you serious? You really should have kept that to yourself. Now she is wondering if maybe you could be a pervert, and have that fantasy about all teenage girls and not just her sister. Bad move buddy. She has a right to be mad. Never tell the whole truth to a woman when talking about wanting to have sex with another woman. Hope that couch is comfortable.

Answer 9

I answered this q from another user recently.He told his wife the same thing,but her sister wasn't 17!!I was going to tell you what I told him,which worked and he got out of the dog house,and I got voted the best answer,BUT the fact that she is 17,makes me ill!!!!That is just so wrong,in so many ways.You do NOT deserve to be married!!{APOLOGIES >>>>go out to Joe!!I am so sorry}Ok...Joe,I told him to never answer such a q that way.Tell her he answered a silly q,with a silly a.That that was the silliest thing he could think of.The truth is she is/was his fantasy and he has hwat he wants!!Hw told her this and she let him get him out of the doghouse...lol.The whole q&a,is under my q answered ,but I have a few q&a's so it may be far under the list.BUT....you VICTOR need some serious help from perverted-justice

Answer 10

We always ask that question because we want to know the truth. Saying we won't get mad is only a way to get it out of you. Though I would have made that come true for you if I was your wife, I can understand most women would get upset over it.