have an overwelming lonesome feeling when you are not with your spouse even if you're out with your girlfriends. If so give me some pointers on how to let him go free, what things do you take interests in when he isn't doing something with you. How do you overcome this feeling. Note: Serious relationships, monogomous
2006-07-21 17:10:50 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I agree with Stormirosebud, I've always loved to read, and I love to clean and I LOVE, LOVE to cook!
So, whatever, you loved to do Before you met, him take up that hobby again, girl! and if you don't think it will interest you anymore, then find something else, Volunteer with children or the elderly or the homeless or the local abused/battered women's shelter, and try baking him his favorite dessert or learning to cook a favorite big Sunday dinner or if you don't like that type of stuff, go out by yourself get a Pedicure or Massage or BOTH and I know you will love that, and then make an appointment to Treat yourself, AGAIN in the near future!
If you think of him while you are not with him or feel lonesome, it may not mean much but that you really care about him, but if it's a deep dread of abandonment every time you cannot be near him, you may need to think of getting some counseling (NOT therapy, just a person to get counseling for a session or two). That can help you find out why you fear abandonment or whatever may be the cause of that anxiety, but it's okay to love and be loved, isn't it great that you have someone like that in life to share your joy and divide the pain?
2006-07-21 17:27:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
I totally understand Ur feeling..Me and my husband been together for 3 yrs, and we have NOT been apart not one day!!!I mean when he is working and stuff like that, But me and him do everything together and we love it....so when he is not here with me, I don't go out 'cause we both agree on that...(like to clubs or stuff like that) But yeah, I spend some time on the Internet, I decorate the house so when he get home he will see a different view, I clean. ...mmmh! I sometimes walk, like for a workout!! There are plenty stuff to do...just don't let Ur self get fat....you know spend time for U..like clean your face...make yourself look even prettier, Hey go shopping..LOL!!!! and when he get home. listen to him ask him "how was Ur day" make some good sex . so he will look foward to see u again..don't ever complain about stuff,OK? Good luck! and that's so sweet that u miss us husband!!!
2006-07-22 06:06:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you have lost yourself in his world --- that's not good --- you sound depressed too(overwelming lonesome feeling) --- he isn't your whole world.... get into some therapy and get yourself together
2006-07-21 17:16:45 · answer #3 · answered by jaimestar64cross 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he is your spouse, he already IS yours, so stop worrying about what he's doing or whether he'll be there when you get home. you've been so connected to him, so now it's hard to let go. but you HAVE to. try yoga or doing something to stay active
2006-07-21 17:15:08 · answer #4 · answered by italianchick44 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No.......I can honestly say that when we are apart for an evening, I usually have a great time with my friends........He does, too.....I believe it's about trust, and after you are married awhile you will be glad to get away on occasion. (We go out seperate about 3 times a year).........Take care!!!!!!!!!
2006-07-21 17:14:38 · answer #5 · answered by mizzzzthang 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just think of some things your girls can do that your boyfriend can't. Example: your boyfriend wouldn't want to watch you try on clothes or watch girl movies.
2006-07-21 17:14:25 · answer #6 · answered by effing.rawr 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah i do and i think it is only natural. however, i was pushing female friends away. i just had to start thinking of it this way-- i have the whole rest of my life to spend with him and it is ok to be away from him for a few hours. good luck!
2006-07-21 17:16:19 · answer #7 · answered by KrissyB 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
join the club!!! married for 4 years and still miss him when not around, he travels a lot but boy,the reunions are something thats worth waitng for!!!!!! lol
2006-07-21 17:14:52 · answer #8 · answered by asoka d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just realize that you're doing a healthy thing for your relationship- you both need space so find satisfaction that you are doing something good
2006-07-21 17:14:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well im donr have a husband but try carrying a pic. around and every time u feel lonely just look at it.
2006-07-21 17:16:41 · answer #10 · answered by Groovy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋