im engaged to a guy i dont love and my x-fiance wants me back but he kicked me out. But i love my x not this new guy. But my family doesn't accept my x
2006-07-21 16:41:31 · 26 answers · asked by amanda_shay_bauer 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Listen to your heart.
What does your gut instinct tell you? You may feel that your ex-fiance is the step in the right direction but are you prepared to put yourself through dissappointment again?
And what of the new man in your life? Are you ready to tell him the truth?
After all, you've mentioned he was the one to walk out on the relationship. Think it through before making any decisions.
Plus if your family disapproves, they must have a point there. Family are always your backbone to support your decision, so go with that.
Good Luck.
2006-07-21 16:57:40 · answer #1 · answered by ViRg() 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well u defiantly need to tell the fiance before u both make a comitment u dont want, r u just scared ,or is it that the ex is back in the pic, u must of loved the fiance at some point in time cause ur engaged, my hubbys family doenst relaly accept but u know what " i live with my hubby and he lives with me not them " if they care theyll either accept him or not u have to worry about ur happiness if they love u theyll come around or maybe not make urself happy but he kicked u out hmm r u sure hes just not being jealous if he cared he would never put u out on the streets u must not care to much
2006-07-21 23:47:59 · answer #2 · answered by gloworm760 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call off the engagement and spend 6 months single. No dating. No sex except by yourself. Take up a hobby. Gain brownie points at work.
After 6 months, really begin to evaluate what you're looking for in a guy, especially a husband. Maybe ask yourself what the rush is to get married and why you'd ever consider marrying someone you don't love and/or who doesn't get along with your family.
Chances are, if you don't love the new guy it won't work. Getting back with an ex never works. Take some time to get to know yourself and then find someone new.
2006-07-21 23:47:10 · answer #3 · answered by mom2babycolin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give the ring back and break up immediately. You should have never gotten engaged in the first place if you don't love him. Sounds like the new guy is actually a gentleman who would treat you well. The ex sounds like he wants you back because your with someone else and you sound like you want him back because he kicked you out. Your current fiance deserves better.
2006-07-21 23:56:43 · answer #4 · answered by stseukn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
STOP...
really you sound confused. Take a minute take a deep breath and think I mean really think about what you just asked, the other guy is your X now remember why that is.. OK now this new guy; you got with him knowing you were in love with your X still, you need some alone time so that you can sort all of this out..
If he kicked you out once, he'll do it again
If he hit you once, he'll do it again..
take some time for your self get over the first guy and then you'll be able to see what you want as apposed to what you don't want..
SLOW down.
2006-07-21 23:51:00 · answer #5 · answered by Honey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do NOT fall in love with the man that kicked you out. if he's done it once theres not much stopping him from doing it again. As for the man you engaged, tell him nicely that you made a mistake. As for you, do NOT say yes if you don't mean it. No is harsh but keeps you from being miserable.
2006-07-21 23:49:04 · answer #6 · answered by effing.rawr 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, find out what do your family sees on this guy that you might haven't, and in another way, if he kicked out, he might thought that you was not going to get anyone that care and love you. I would say that he's selfish. You need to know why he want you back now.
2006-07-21 23:48:36 · answer #7 · answered by flowermieses@verizon.net 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Family matters, but this is the man that you have to be with for the rest of your life, he will be the one at your family's funeral, he'll be home when you're mad or depressed, he's in your face 24/7, go with the one that you enjoy. Sometimes you need to think of yourself.... I say go for the x if he's the one that makes you happy....only if you talk to him and recouncil everything (kicking out is a no-no, tell him that)....
2006-07-21 23:46:16 · answer #8 · answered by Babee cakez 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, I think you need to be re-programmed. I think that you need an attitude adjustment in the area of how passive you are in regards to men. All the " wrong turns " you've taken in your relationships with the opposite sex implies that your " mind-set " is counter-productive. I mean that you seem to be in mental entrapment mode.
You appear to be fuelling a lot of anxiety, the signs are all over what you posted. Not only in the fact that your family seems to set conditions on your partner choices but also the fact that you seem undecided on men. I believe that you need " time-out", give the relationships a rest and focus more on ironing out the negative aspects of yourself. Try to be more self reliant and not so much leaning on relationships, I mean its not impossible to try it on your own for awhile, just to get your priorities straight before diving into any kind of commitments.
2006-07-22 00:50:56 · answer #9 · answered by trieghtonhere 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if I would trust a guy that kicked me out. What assurance do you have that he won't do it again?
However. if you DO decide to get back together with him, your parents really don't have much to say about it if you are over 18.
Whatever you decide to do with the ex........don't marry the new guy if you're not in love with him. It will only end in disaster.
Trust me on that one! Been there, done that.
2006-07-22 00:05:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋