Is this ever going end? World of Warcraft?

Question

I keep waiting thinking he will get tired/bored of the game.
I met the most amazing man a year and a half ago, I have/had never
been so happy in my whole life.
I'm so afraid to go further in our relationship knowing he might not
choose me over the game.
This man is well educated, successful and outgoing, so what gives.
WoW was a xmas gift from me of all people, I had no idea.
He works and then plays the game and sleeps a few
hours. No more going to the gym, cleaning dishes, grocery shopping,
sex, he's become a slug. I'm feeling left out and
ignored most of the time, and then he overcompensates and tries to
reconnect only to leave me cold again. It hurts so much when I'm
going about and he pops in to what I think is to spend time with me
or genuinely say hi and check on me but no, in all actuality he's
just getting a snack or drink to bring back up to his game.
I would like to know in all honesty is this ever going end?

Answer 1

My husband hasn't gotten tired of it yet and it's been over a year and a half. He plays it every chance he gets and is resentful of anything to do with real life that takes him away from his computer. Thank god I have my own computer or we'd have some real problems.
I also was the one to bring this insidious evil into the house. My husband has played and discarded many video games and I had no idea this one was any different. It has no ending, that's the problem. You can't die permanently, you can't win the game. You just play and play and play. If you get bored with one character you can start a new one. There is no end.
The expansion's coming out soon so it will only get worse.

Answer 2

My boyfriend LOVES that game. For a while there, he played it all the time. Our situation never got as bad as what it sounds like yours is, though he played it a LOT. I guess it never bothered me all that much because I'd be sitting right next to him on my computer surfing. "you're the boss", and "aye, master", whatever it is they say was the most annoying part about it to me. LOL..
For my boyfriend, it passed, and for yours, it will too, I feel sure. There's only SO many strategies he can choose before he gets bored with it.
I definately wouldn't make him choose you or the game. Perhaps you could find some other way to occupy your time while he's playing, though I do agree he doesn't need to let him house chores and life in general slip away.
Can you broach that subject with him. Say "honey, I know you love to play it, and you know how I feel about it, but what if we come to an agreement. If you'll do X amount of things around the house, and spend X amount of time with me (quality time), I won't say anything about you playing the game.
and then while he's playing, you can go shopping!

Answer 3

WoW and games like it are addictive, more so for some people than others. I've been married to my husband for 11 years and he still won't get off the computer for me most of the time. Of course, he grew up with games and never really invested much time in anything else.

Your guy, though, sounds like he is neglecting things he enjoys for game play. This is a sign of addiction. Talk to him about it. Ask him why he stopped doing the things he enjoys. He has to understand if he is addicted before he can do anything about it. He may be able to stop playing on his own, but there are psychiatrists and therapists worldwide seeing a significant number of people coming in for this sort of addiction.

As far as getting the game for yourself, well, we tried that. I was addicted for a while and things at home got neglected and eventually we realized we weren't really spending any time together. Even our kids started relating to us as animated dwarves. I realized I had to give it up, but he just can't stop playing these types of games.

The first game we played like this was Everquest. Ever heard the term "EQ Widow"? That's what we are. We are EQ Widows, losing our better halves to a virtual game world.

Answer 4

sweetie i been there and done that theres only one way, you got to start playing WOW yourself, buy the game, load the discs, and get him to teach you online how to play, then if you get good enuff maybe you'll kick his butt and once you have done that you'll earn his respect!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!