I am coming up on my high school reunion and have been emailing back and forth with old classmates some female. She is feeling insecure.
2006-07-21 16:29:10 · 19 answers · asked by Berzerker 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
She may wonder if you harbor feelings for any of these ladies. Why don't you show her the pictures and tell her a story about each lady? She would feel more involved with the process and would see that things are really OK.
2006-07-21 16:50:24 · answer #1 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, she's not being illogical.. turn the tables. How would you feel if she was emailing old male classmates. Take her to the reunion and let her meet them. And maybe let her read some of the emails just so she doesn't feel like you have something to hide. These days, it seems like everyone knows someone who has left their spouse or significant other for someone online.
2006-07-21 23:33:50 · answer #2 · answered by Mary J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No your wife is not being illogical. As you said, she is feeling insecure and as a husband your job is to assure her without sacrificing your communication with your old friends. Get her into the picture and assign her to help you answer some mails for you. Let her read some of the mails particularly from the female friends if you are comfortable with that.
2006-07-21 23:48:54 · answer #3 · answered by maville 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is being insecure,yes.BUT does she have a reason?Have you ever cheated?If no and she is still insecure,it's probably the fact that the old classmates,know a part of you that she didn't have.Sounds silly,but I can see where she may feel that.Make her feel better.DID you ask her to be your beautiful,gorgeous date???SO you can show her off and let everyone see how lucky you have become to have a sexy wife????If you didn't ask her to accompany you,then YES!!!She has every right to be insecure!The reunion will come and go,your wife(hopefully-if you honor your vows)are forever.Do NOT put anything before her.
2006-07-21 23:48:47 · answer #4 · answered by missyandgordon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a wife never likes to feel left ed out. She is not a part of your high school days. So it's best to include her in your emailing are just stop.It's best to stop emailing these women. even though it doesn't mean anything to you to her it's hurtful and disrespectful. Because women think different then men and some of those women make think you want something more are that you don't care about your wife. your days and nights can be filled with arguments if you don't stop It's not worth it.
2006-07-21 23:58:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are the only one who knows whether or not she has reason to feel insecure. If you have a clear conscious about who you are talking to, and what the nature and intent of the conversations are, then reassure her and offer to let her look over your shoulder to see for herself. If you can't do that, you are possibly not being honest with either yourself or your wife. Sounds like your marriage may be in trouble. Are these women worth risking losing your wife?
2006-07-22 00:07:13 · answer #6 · answered by KayaKate 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many times we compare relationships with the best of the 'old' relationships we had. She may just feel insecure because this is a part of your life she didn't share. Women value the feelings of being the 'one and only' in a man's life. If she continues to act jealous, reassure her that you love her and that SHE, not the old flames, are the most important thing in your life.
2006-07-21 23:44:58 · answer #7 · answered by daddysnurse 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
illogical ---no --- too often those reunions are about getting with old flames --- I have attended, seen and heard enough of those "reunions" --- She's probably heard the same thing --- if she feels insecure then don't do anything to feed her insecurities --- do things that make her feel you aren't going to be checking out old flames --- try surprising her with an intimate interlude --- just the two of you!
2006-07-21 23:43:56 · answer #8 · answered by jaimestar64cross 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Feelings never usually logical. So she is insecure, and yet since you know, you are obviously both in a great relationship where you can understand and communicate with each other.
Since no one is perfect, and youSince you are probably not discussing anything that inappropriate with your old girl friends then, maybe you and your wife can discuss teh conversations online together or you can get together and do something that you both love or have always wanted to try.
2006-07-21 23:43:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your wife is a bit insecure, as opposed to being illogical. You need to charm her (remember when you were dating?) with flowers, a loving card, dinner or a movie date. And include her in on the conversations you are having with your old friends in high school (don't be secretive about it). And, please, tell her she's beautiful! We need to hear that from our husbands from time to time (even if it isn't really true anymore).
2006-07-21 23:36:38 · answer #10 · answered by mJc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How long have you been married? Do you tell your wife you love her on a regular basis? She should be secure if she is told that out of all the girls you knew you CHOSE HER! I hope you buy her a new dress and take her to your reunion and show her off! Then, she'll feel better.
2006-07-21 23:43:55 · answer #11 · answered by Wiser1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋