Same old, still looking for right ans? How to tackle friend?

Question

My friend of almost 3 yrs, we keep fighting, screwing up our moods and others at times as well. My friend and I drifted apart when my mom starting disliking my friend's presence and her coming over and staying too often with me and constantly being around her and her friends. Anywayz everytime we fight, I manage to sort things out with her by hook or crook.. but she does say some of the meanest things when she is angry..i know some things she doesnt mean.. and is like that with most people.But, her hurt over the insults my family has thrown on her.. rubs out on me. I can't loose her as a friend..cause she is important to me and at the sametime..cant choose her over my family..so am a sandwich. (M afraid what am I gonna do with my boyfriend...I cant stand figthing with my bestfried :).... is it ok for me to calm her down...and not be egoistic..i find it hard to remain.. (I also get angry and tell her...ok fine get lost if u want too and regret it later. Please help. Thanks

Answer 1

You both need time away from each other. It is normal for friends to grow and change. What you once liked about a person may be gone and as a result the friendship is gone. If after a break from her you end up being happier without her (and you need to get involved in other activites that you enjoy doing) then stop seeing her so much. You can still be her friend, you are just going to be a distant friend.

Answer 2

In my experience my relationships (friends/boyfriends) always seemed to dull or fall apart once my family began pointing out the negative aspects in my friendships. Often in relationships whether just friends or romantic we fail to see the faults because we are (1) having too much fun, or (2) are blinded by our feelings. As I get older it becomes clearer to me that friends come and go, but family is constant. It is obvious that you care about your friend and that you care about your family's feelings too. I think it is time to step back and re-evaluate the friendship. Take a good, long, hard look at your friend. It sounds like she can be pretty hurtful. Are you the same way to her? If you are hurting each other, maybe this friendship has run its course. You will always make new friends. If you do discover that her friendship is worth keeping then you should talk to her. Tell her what you're thinking and that some of the things she says really hurt you. You will find out if she is true friend. Keep smiling. Your family will always love you - no matter what!

Answer 3

WOAH...TOO MUCH INFORMATION!

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