We have a child together and I have 2 from a previous marriage and he has one. I treat and love her as my own but he doesn't even like to hear about mine.
2006-07-21 16:17:18 · 5 answers · asked by lilly04202000 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I thought this of my husband too,so I asked him? From that point on he has shown me he cares deeply about my children. Maybe yours will too if he knows it hurts you and he needs to let you and your child see how he cares. But on the other hand if he is outright mean to my child I would leave before my child notices.
2006-07-21 16:32:39 · answer #1 · answered by livlafluv 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because you two are married and share a child together doesn't mean that one partner should be an ***####!
Two people who have chosen each other to share a commitment must respect each other and accept each others contribution to that marriage and that includes children! Your children deserve better than this. In fact they deserve two parents and not one, after all did you not marry the guy considering the children?
Try to encourage your husband to talk about this issue and try to see where he's coming from. Sometimes talking about the problem will clear things up and find solutions.
Pick a quiet time away from the kids and when you are both relaxed.Be open and honest as to your feelings about this issue and I'm sure that by communicating you will be able to work this out.
2006-07-21 23:51:25 · answer #2 · answered by trieghtonhere 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By becoming involved in a serious relationship with you, he has implicitly agreed to treat your children as his responsibility. Didn't you discuss this with him before you became involved enough to have a child together?
Whether or not your own two children still see their natural father regularly, your partner has an absolute responsibility to help you care for those two children. That is what he has implicitly agreed to in taking you on as a partner. Your kids are not a detachable feature. They are an endless part of your life and now they are part of your partner's life too. I am really surprised that you didn't sound this out before you had a child together. It is his privilege to be involved in the lives of those children and it is his responsibility to make sure his involvement is positive, supportive and provides good roles for parenting and for partnering. Discuss this with your partner and reach an agreement; state what you feel needs to happen and discuss ways to achieve this. Remember, in negotiating with people, the more you give them what they want, the more they will want to give you what you want.
2006-07-21 23:24:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, you don't get married, please. The only one that will suffer will be your child.
Second, how do you stay with someone who doesn't care about your child. How can a non-caring person give your child what he/she needs. Don't you think you have an obligation to your children to at least try to surround them with nothing but love and comfort, and how will your child ever be comfortable being around someone who doesn't care about them. Children know when they are loved. Please don't put your needs and wants before theirs.
2006-07-21 23:30:45 · answer #4 · answered by sleepingbeauty123 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a problem and the only way to solve this is through serious counseling. If he won't go, go yourself. This does not bode well, however. . . and you two had a child together. Poor child.
2006-07-21 23:20:43 · answer #5 · answered by snddupree 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋