how would i deal with it?? any one similar to my status?
2006-07-21 15:59:08 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I think you have to really take a serious look at your boyfriend and focus on the truth as to why they might not like him. No matter how old you get, your parents will always want to protect you and keep you safe (and they can't possibly be thrilled with the fact that their beloved daughter is having a baby with a man she is not married to.) How old is he? Does he have a good job or solid future career goals? Can he support you and his baby? Is he kind and respectful to you... and to them? Is he polite when he's in their home? Will he be a good father to your child (this is a permanent job) and step up to the plate and marry you? Does he REALLY love you? I can only hope that you have positive answers for all these questions... and that you see the answers clearly (love is truly blind). If your parents have supported you and been good to you these past 18 years, then I'm guessing there is something about your boyfriend that you aren't picking up on. There is no love stronger than a parent's love for their child - as you will soon discover.
2006-07-21 16:10:41 · answer #1 · answered by mJc 7 · 7⤊ 0⤋
I am a mother of an 18 year old girl and we have a hard time liking her boyfriend. The reason is because he doesn't treat her right (that's mine) and my husband's is because he can't change a flat tire! Even though we have a hard time with this, I am just accepting him. I don't want to lose my daughter, so, this is what I have to do. Your parents should respect who you like. If its a mistake, then thats on your part, not theirs. They should let you go and learn on your own. They might be right, but, they also might be wrong! Have they thought of that? Besides that, you are pregnant, and they should have to respect that now. God bless you all!
2006-07-21 23:20:32 · answer #2 · answered by Xena 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how did you deal with it when you got pregnant? may it added to injury when you got pregnant... you'll just have to live iwth but you and your boy friend needs to show to your parents that you deserve each other and you will have your own entity... parents do really questions who are friends are but this is forour own good as well.. they just don't want us to be lost or be stray... and in your case getting pregnant did really worsen things.. but if you could stand on what you have done the choices that you had made in your life and show them that you were right and they will also see that you have struggle and made a better life i dont think that you'll parent will never change the decission they made previously... it's really upto you to work on it.. you did madethe decission toget pregnant, you did choice your boy friend, and now you must also show them that you did made the correct choice.. time will also tell how your parents will accept your boy friend and another thing your up coming baby... take care of your precious gem within you and pray for HIS guidance and help for you to come out victorious in this part of yourlife.. God Bless..
2006-07-21 23:31:20 · answer #3 · answered by rudolph d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I was not pregnant at 18. I would just finish school and go to a local college. Maybe one with a daycare. Go finish school. If your bf is not capable of supporting you then just leave him. If he is just going to be a slob, BLAH, don't deal with him. Try to live with your parents as long as possible and then when the child must go to school I would find a nice little home and go to school. Maybe start dating and live a normal single mother life. Be normal and Good Luck!
2006-07-21 23:04:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
my older sister got pregnant when she was 15 and he was 18. and my parents weren't happy. but two years later they forgot all about what had happend because her husband made her finish school.so they will get over it once the baby is born. just try to live with them and everything will be ok in the end
2006-07-21 23:11:39 · answer #5 · answered by leila p 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes girl I'm going through it right now! My mother hates my boyfriend and I'm pregnant by him now!! She pressured me to get an abortion last year and I did. And let me tell you it's no joke. I regret it sooo much! I'm not getting one this time. I'm 20 years old I have a job, I make my own decisions. As for you even though your younger then me, it's your life your going to have to make your own decision! If you want your baby keep your baby, don't let nobody pressure you into doing something you don't want to do. Babies are alot of responsibility but alot of young mothers do it and make out fine!!! Abortions!! I don't recommend but to each it's own!!!!!! As for your mom not liking your boyfriend she isn't the dating him you are!!!!!
2006-07-21 23:08:58 · answer #6 · answered by kiki 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh boy! Been there.. well first of all do they have a good reason to not like him other then you are pregnant by him? If so, then you may want to listen to what they have to say.. .. i hate to say it, but parents are usually right.
Now, if they don't have any good reason to not like him.. then just wait it out.. once the baby comes it will all blow over! just be honest with yourself!
2006-07-21 23:05:33 · answer #7 · answered by ♥cutemamma♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your parents are probably disappointed that you are becoming a mother at such a young age....AND your boyfriend didn't use protection. Although you are only 18 you are still a teenager, and as long as you live in your parents home, what they say, goes.
2006-07-21 23:18:51 · answer #8 · answered by D L 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
they are going to start having to like him because yourcarrying his baby. Brake down what you see in him so they won't have a grudge against him.
2006-07-21 23:03:09 · answer #9 · answered by Andrea M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you need to tell your parents to stay out of your life and if they dont like dealing with the ones you love then tell them to deal with it and if your not moved out.....well.......move out!
2006-07-21 23:05:23 · answer #10 · answered by iJess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋