ok i really need help. my mom is a mother of 2 (me and my little brother) and has been dating this guy for about 2 years. i got along with him for a while and now im not. just recently i got in a fight with him which he started, just verbally though. im starting to not like him any more cuz of this. its defiantly not the first time we were fighting over something to little. im glad my mom is happy with him but im not. ive told her that im not liking him any more and she didn't do anything about it. and its not like i can live with my father because i don't get along with him either.what should i do?
2006-07-21 15:56:54 · 19 answers · asked by Butterflykisses 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If your mother loves this man, and he treats her well. that is good. He should treat her children with respect,and follow your mothers house rules. If he lives with you, then it would be their rules. As long as he is not abusing you, it is normal not to agree with an adult. As an adult, your mother probably loves this man. I don't know your age, I do know that some day, you will reach the age and day, you go out on your own. If your mom is happy with him, please try to get along with him, as when you leave home, she will then be there without him, if you run him off.
2006-07-21 16:05:14 · answer #1 · answered by G. M. 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
explain the whole thing to ur mom, telling her the details of the fight, and why u don't like him. sometimes, it works better if u give reasonable, understandable answers that are thorough. maybe, first give him another chance. maybe u arent liking him because u don't want to. so try to get along, see if u like him, and if not, tell ur mom. u and her might be able to come up with a solution together. maybe she didn't do anything because she thinks u should try to get along with him, or she doesn't have enough specifics on it. or maybe, she did ask him to be nicer, and it takes time for some people to change. so just give him a chance, and if it still doesn't work out, tell ur mom all about it. good luck!
2006-07-21 23:02:36 · answer #2 · answered by hockeychickstagecrew 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What did he yell at you for? Consider your behavior in the whole relationship too. Honestly a step parent or boyfriend should never, ever be the one disciplining a child, it is just not his place, but that is for your mother to let him know. Get your mother a book on step parent relationships (dr phil writes some good ones) or print info off the net and give it to her. She probably just doesn't know what to do so is just doing nothing. There really isn't much you can do and he yelled at you, he didn't beat you or molest you or anything like that so you have no way to force any change in the situation. If kids got to switch parents everytime they got in trouble for something there would be a never ending wheel of revolving children. You pretty much have to deal with it.
2006-07-21 23:06:33 · answer #3 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even though you may not like him, what is important is that she does. As long as he is not harming you, whether or not you like him is irrelevant. I know that may not be the answer you wanted. Some day you will go out on your own and your little brother will go off too. He will be there with her and the one she spends the most time with. I know it is hard to understand, but someday you will. I don't know how old you are, have you tried talking to your mom about him? I mean in the sense of trying to get to know him. Ask her why she likes him, maybe there is a side of him she sees that you don't. You might actually find out that you have something in common. I have 1 ex-step mom and my dad is engaged AGAIN! I know I am gone out of his house, but from past experience, that is what I have learned.
2006-07-21 23:05:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Humm dont u think its kinda of odd that u dont get along with either "male" adult figure, your mothers bf or your father???? Sounds to me that u dont like male authority figures.. So what u got into an arguement with him.. do u get in arguements with ur mom and ur brother? If your normal u do, but dont u forgive them and love them even when they make u mad?? Sweetie unfortunately it sounds like your the one that has the problem not him.. sounds like u did something that upset him, (ALL KIDS DO) and u and him got into an arguement about it, and because he didnt give u , ur way now uve turned against him.. thats not fair, he may not be your father, but he is your elder and u need to respect him, now if he was really hurting u.. id definately take you side, so dont get me wrong, but it sounds more to me that ur just angry with him because he well.. punished u.. and thats not fair for u to turn on him because he felt he was right about something.. I dont doubt that he cares for u,.. and its hard to be a parent or in the position of acting like one, we make mistakes too.. and sometimes as much as we would love to be your "buddy" all the time, sometimes we have to do whats right and sometimes that isnt fun.. so try to get along with him.. u may find out he's not so bad as u think ...
2006-07-21 23:15:25 · answer #5 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you have a problem getting along with older men. I though maybe your moms lover liked you but it could be just you.
Try not arguing with him. You don't have to go to every argument your invited to. When things are cool between you and him again have a heart to heart and let him know that your glad that he makes your mom happy and that you want to support that. Ask him how you can help make things better between you and him.
personally I think he's mad cause he wants you and can't so he pics fights to help himself cope.
2006-07-21 23:02:40 · answer #6 · answered by A man ready to commit. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should be supportive of ur mom its hard to get back on the datin field after a divorce, u dont have to like the guy thou, if u want ur mom to be happy then try get along better with him what did you fight about was it over something imature and stupid that kinda depends on alot to and why ur mom did nothin about it maybe is it that u just want ur mom back with ur dad or possibly jealous that she has s1 else in her life and isnt spendin as much time with u and she use to
2006-07-21 23:04:06 · answer #7 · answered by gloworm760 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry for you being caught in the middle. It must be frustrating for you. I just hope when you grow up and get married, that you realize that it takes some work to get along with your spouse. You shouldn't be against marriage because it leads to divorce. I hope you can work this through. Tell your mom and see if she can be sympathetic towards you.
2006-07-21 23:05:25 · answer #8 · answered by dianne b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound rebellious, sweetie.....shape up and try to have a better attitude. Grow up and start being a nice person and doing what your mother and her boyfriend ask of you. When you start acting more responsible and mature without fighting and complaining and whining.......you will find that your life will improve.
2006-07-21 23:02:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chill out and learn to get along with him. Good luck.
2006-07-21 22:59:35 · answer #10 · answered by heidielizabeth69 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋