If you get raped, do you think it is best to report it or keep it a secret?

Question

If the man threatens you, that if you tell someone, he will kill you, what should you do?

Answer 1

report it

Answer 2

Why would you want to keep it a secret? To protect the guy?! Even if he threatens you...so what! That is just his way of being in control of you so you won't say anything. Puleez! He sounds like an idiot! Report it immediately whoever he is. And also tell the cops of his threats, I'm sure you'll get some kind of protective order. If you do not report it however, you will be letting him repeat this behavior with other women or girls for that matter! If this happened to you, would you really want it to happen to someone else?? How about to a child? I doubt you would. Anyway, if he wanted to kill you, he would have after the rape. Chances are, that wasn't in him. So, plain and simple, report it now!

Answer 3

Well, take it from me, don't keep it a secret unless you want it hanging over your head for years and years. I finally had to get into counseling, because a rape that happened years prior kept haunting me. Because keeping it a secret, destroyed two marriages, & sent me into a deep depression, where I became suicidal. I think deep down, I figured all men were the same. You need to report it to the authorities (police) and identify the man(or men) and then ask for an advocate (from the police dept.) to talk to. It will be your same sex, ya know, males get raped, too. This advocate should be able to set you up with counseling. You can get free counseling at the YMCA, I think Catholic Charities, and many other non-profit places. You DO need counseling, though. You may not think so, or may not feel like it right now, but, do it. Also, know that NOTHING you did caused this. It is a power thing, and so is the beast telling you he will kill you. He now has power over you, because you want to call someone, but are afraid too. He is doing the same thing the terrorists tried to do to our country, People in America didn't let the terrorists take our freedom away, why should you let this beast take yours away? Report him, get help, and keep on doing whatever you did before. If you don't know who this man was,and can't turn him in, just rest in the fact God knows him, and he WILL be punished! Best of luck to you, have courage, stand up for what YOU think is right, don't cower, because that's what this beast wants you to do!

Answer 4

Thats very serious and u do have to really think about it if he threatens you. But the best thing to do is go to the police right away and report him, and tell them that hes threatening you and they could put you in a safe place or something like that where he cant find you. Rape is very very seriouse its a crime and should be reported!!!

Answer 5

The decisions really lies in you.

Do you want to protect yourself from furthur harm?
Do you want him to be punished for it?
Do you want to stop him from doing it to other women?

If you answered yes to any of the above questions, it would be best to REPORT it to the police.

If you tell the police and he gets caught, there is an 'ending' to the situation and you can be slowly on your way to recovery emotionally and physically.

However, should you keep quiet, it will be a nightmare that never ends. Would you prefer that?

Most of the time, threats to kill are empty threats. Should you have reported to the police, by the time he is caught, he probably wouldnt know what hit him. And he would certainly be in jail where he could neither see nor touch you. So how can he kill you in that case?

If all you need is some support, encouragement and courage, then *hugs* go for it, girl! Just do what you think is best for yourself.

Answer 6

Report it. Disappear till he is in custody. Stay with someone who can defend you if he comes around. You must report it immediately so they can collect evidence of the crime. If time has passed, I would just tell everyone he knows and the police and tell and investigative reporter. If he thinks people are watching he won't try anything. Don't keep it a secret because it is bad enough it happened. You keep it a secret it can happen again. Too you or someone else. Your call though.

Answer 7

If you have already washed away the evidence. Then it would be hard to prove it in a court of law. But you still can go to the police to get an order of protection against the person. Also make sure you mention the treat against your life. Since this is someone you know it's hard to prove rape but you have a right to say no. Tell people you know about this and keep that guy away from you. If you can go stay with some people for a while, change your number and your email address. Don't let him treat you like a slave for his abuse. Let people help you get rid of him.

Answer 8

NIYA

call 1-800-6565-HOPE or go to http://www.rainn.org/what-should-i-do/index.html which explains what to do if Sexually Assualted

but the truth is, a rapist WILL rape you or someone else again and they can get worse or more violent whether you tell or not, it's an act of violence and can only be stopped when someone tries to talk with the Authorities. But call the Rape Hotline and speak in a secure location away from prying ears or from where someone could be watching you and most importantly, if you decide to tell, YOU ARE doing the Right thing.

Answer 9

It's best to report it. Although many women are afraid of reporting rape, not only if the man threatens them but also they are afraid of having to relive the experience and just want to forget about it. Please report it he can't kill you behind bars, you can let the police know about this threat as well and maybe they can get you some kind of protection.

Answer 10

This is a really personal question, because nearly 27 years ago a friend of mine was raped by a man whom she met at a bus stop. He seemed charming and nice. Several days later he came back to her house and raped her. She debated about telling the police, and I'm not sure if she ever did. What she didn't know was that he'd already served prison time for rapes and he had no intention of going back. One night he sent a female acquaintance of his to my friend's house to see if she was home; she was not. The next night, he sent that same female "friend" to my friend's house. The "friend" went up to my friend's door pretending to be a policewoman. Then the guy (who had worn a fake beard to disguise him) appeared out of the darkness and shot my friend in the head...she died. My friends and I had the sneaking suspicion that the guy who had raped our friend was the murderer. After my friend's death, women came forward and admitted that this guy had raped them in the past. He was eventually arrested and imprisoned. By not telling, you are leaving this creep out there to do the same to other women. You need to tell someone what happened and that you've been threatened.

Answer 11

I would report it, I'm a man but rape is completely wrong. Keeping it a secret could lead to future psychological problems. Plus if you do not report the man, he could continue to rape. If you reproted him to the police you might be able to get protection too. Even though you put yourself in danger. It would be worth it to put that man in jail.