So this past weekend me and boyfriend went out(we are serious, we live together and all)..so after many drinks we decide to go to the Casino for breakfast(that's how you end your night in DET), anyway we get there and aren't seeing eye to eye on somethings..he decides to display his anger in front of everyone, and stood up and said"I am ready to go" I was hurt and embarrassed, we always do what he wants do...he started storming off like he was leaving me, so finally after many tears I stopped trying to run after him and said forget him, I started calling other friends to come and get me, I so wanted to get a way from him, some guy friends come and end up about to fight my boyfriend, he starts yelling and saying "b****, lets go" (like I'm nothing)I am in shock, and at this point think its over, I leave with my guy friends and they drop me off at a hotel (ALONE), I am so not like that...any way my boyfriend thinks only I was wrong and I cheated on him with them all..Please help, was I?
2006-07-21 15:50:24 · 11 answers · asked by Sassy One 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Nope time to get rid of him, u didnt do anything wrong by your story , he seems like a control freak with anger problems and it only gets worse i promise u , do u want to stick it out till he starts hitting u or till u have children with him and u wake up one day finding yourself in a loveless marriage , trapped in your own world of hell with a monster??? cause from the sounds of it thats where ur life is leading to.. u were right not to want to be treated like trash that he can treat any way he wants.. U DID THE RIGHT THING, U DID THE RIGHT THING BY CALLING YOUR FRIENDS.. at that point it was better to call guy friends for fear of what your bf might do if u tried to leave.. DROP HIM GET RID OF HIM SAVE YOUR LIFE RIGHT NOW.. in this moment u can be saving urself from alot of pain .. the heart ache u feel now is NOTHING to the pain u'll feel later if u stay with someone that treats u this way, and if u go back, he'll do it again no matter what sweet things or promises he makes, if u go back he'll know its ok to treat u like this again and again cause he knows u'll always come back.. DONT FALL FOR IT.. be smart, go find a man that loves u and respects u, not someone that is going to treat u like dirt and try to emotionally and possibly later physically abuse u .. GOOD LUCK i pray u make the right decision..
2006-07-21 15:58:37 · answer #1 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You know you did nothing wrong. Why would you want to be with someone who call you a *****, in public or in private. Don't be with a man because you need him, be with because you want him. I know you've heard this before but you can do bad by yourself. You need some backbone and maybe some therapy if your questioning yourself about something you KNOW wasn't wrong. Go home, be really, really nice while you get a plan to get away from your man. Take from someone who knows, it's not worth it to live with a man and not be married even if he's your baby's daddy.
Woman deserve the best a man can give and we should give men the best of us, commited until death parts them. Not until one of you finds the right one or get tired of other. If he makes you feel bad or think less of yourself then the relationship is not the best you can give each other. I hope this helps you.
2006-07-21 23:08:45 · answer #2 · answered by skinnyone 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were not Wrong. What he did to you was Disrespectful and Yes, Embarrassing. I think you should move on and find someone who will respect you and treat you right. You are a Beautiful Woman and deserve to be treated accordingly.
What you did by leaving was Right. Don't Back Down, Stand Your Ground. He has to realize he was in the wrong. Give him time if he Loves you, he'll come around. If not Keep it moving. Good Luck.
2006-07-21 22:58:29 · answer #3 · answered by XXSEXY66XX 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were not wrong at all. Alcohol or not, his feelings have been shown. I think you should dump him because he is a selfish buffoon who doesn't care about your feelings. And don't let him sweet talk you into keeping him around. He will promise you until he is blue in the face but if he hasn't shown by now that he respects your feelings, he never will. A real man will never take advantage of a woman.
2006-07-21 22:57:28 · answer #4 · answered by Awesome Bill 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you were not wrong! He should not belittle you or embarrass you.
He is probably very selfish, controlling and you are setting yourself up to be an abused wife/girlfriend. Every relationship is different so I cant say just what you should do but every sign SCREAMS
Dump him like a hot potato! Find someone who respects you!
2006-07-21 22:57:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no hes a controling dick..you have every right to do the things you want to do too, and he has no right to say and do the things he does, he is supposed to do the exact opposite of that. You were right to stand up to him for yourself, let him know that you are not his doormat and that its time you became equal partners in this relationship
2006-07-21 22:54:49 · answer #6 · answered by rednecksurfer_roxy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At this point, I wouldn't worry about who was wrong. I would seriously think about leaving him. He sounds controlling and abusive. Nobody should put up with that.
2006-07-21 22:59:26 · answer #7 · answered by Aumatra 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all all men are the same no matter what they are nice when they are with you and then the minute something happens you are a slut or hoe or ****** everyone.
2006-07-21 23:16:53 · answer #8 · answered by adlougy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Assuming that your story is accurate the guy is a major jerk and you should run away from him as fast as you can.
2006-07-21 22:56:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u did the right thing. he called u out of u name, wont b long till he start hittin on u. get out as soon as u can.
2006-07-21 22:56:00 · answer #10 · answered by tapthisphatazz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋