2006-07-21 15:46:51 · 10 answers · asked by Arvind . 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
I am not married to my fiance and we are planning a second child (first child was unplanned) it has been our decision not to get married until his finacial issues have been solved a little better (bankruptcy and paying off his back child support for his other two kids).
2006-07-21 15:51:29 · answer #1 · answered by Crazy Mama 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it. You have no reason to try to stay together, it's too easy to leave and children need both parents. Also, it could be something that kids will tease the child about, but nowadays I doubt it. You shoul;d think about why you aren't married and will those things change? If not you dont' wanna have a baby with someone you don't wanna be around forever. It's not fair to the child. Ask any kid who has a single or divorced parents, it's not fair to the kids, they lack role modeling and will most likely have relationship troubles as an adult because of it
2006-07-22 01:15:29 · answer #2 · answered by loira74 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i take it by the wording you dont want to or aren't quite ready for that type of commitment. Have you sat down and discused this with your partner???? Communication is a BIG thing here. Sit down and discuss the good things and the bad things about your situation....it can be anything from family, costs of a child, not being married, what would happen if you two were to split, how family-oriented are the both of you (ie. what type of relationship paterns do you have with your own families)....Think about everything, bring up everything. Most people change their minds after conversations like that. Some poeople end up wanting to do things the right way or realizing that they aren't ready. What ever you two decide, let me know how things turn out.
2006-07-21 23:01:10 · answer #3 · answered by missdarkstar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ummm...have you tried proposing to her???
If the answer is yes, and she doesn't want to get married, but you don't want to have a kid without getting married, then that is a serious clash of personal values; these things really MUST be worked out, or the relationship will eventually fail.
You need to come to an agreement - one way or the other. Talk it out; get some couples' counseling; consider breaking up.
This could be a no-win situation.
2006-07-21 22:51:17 · answer #4 · answered by Brutally Honest 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage doesn't make having a baby a good thing and not being married doesn't make having a baby a bad thing. Whats important is do you love her? Can you support a baby. Is your love really strong? Ask yourself where you want to be in 10 years.
2006-07-21 22:54:36 · answer #5 · answered by ilovedragonflies6 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it matters if your married or not if you love each other and are comited and live together then I don't see a problem.Yoy don't need a paper if you love each other and ofcourse you can marry later if you realy want to
2006-07-21 23:16:28 · answer #6 · answered by m41 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's your decision, BUT are you ready. Stable job that pays well, insurance for the kiddo, some savings etc. If not then NOOOO.
2006-07-21 22:54:07 · answer #7 · answered by greenwholeness 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally think that if you were old enough to get her pregnant than you should be married.....to give the baby your last name
2006-07-22 03:32:08 · answer #8 · answered by Mrs. M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
umm nothing wrong with it if ur in love and wanna get hitched
2006-07-22 00:01:42 · answer #9 · answered by Moo moo I'm a chicken 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go for it if you're ready!!!!
2006-07-21 23:08:50 · answer #10 · answered by Kitty_Rose7673 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋