she always thinks im cheating....i am not we live far apart her faimly hates me, i think they fill her head with this stuff... i tell her im not then all of a suddun a profile came up on a dating site about me... i didnt put it there and cant access it to take it down she now thinks i put it there im at wits end telling her over and over again im not a cheat and didnt put that sight up what do i do???????
2006-07-21 15:37:28 · 17 answers · asked by tsh 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I had a friend who was in this situation... er, 2 lol. The girl thought that the guy was cheating on her. I guess sometimes he might have been BUT, she also thought that he was cheating on her w/ ME !!! She was reeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeally paranoid. Nada happened b/w us & she thought there was something going on. Maybe a guy has cheated on your gf b/f... Maybe ask her that. If she says no, then she's just paranoid. You need to assure her that you're not cheating on her. I think that you should try to spend more time w/ her if possible. Maybe you should have a cell & she can call you whenever. When you're on the phone you can call her stuff like, "babe," etc :) Then she might feel like maybe you AREN'T w/ another girl... esp if you don't say to the person "I'll brb" Be honest w/ who you're w/ tho. So if you want her to know that you're not cheating, prob best not to hang out w/ girls. OR, you can just break up w/ her if you think that it's not worth it to have a rel w/ someone whose gonna be so paranoid. Can't blame her for thinking that maybe you are cheating since you live far apart. You needa ask yourself is she's worth the hassle of trying to convince her that you're not cheating on her. Good luck.
2006-07-21 16:10:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that you think since she is the accuser maybe it's because she feels guilty of something she is doing. Another reason I remember back in high school ppl used to say that just to hear you go on and on about how much you are not cheating and u love only them, like as in attention seeking behavior. At some point tell her, this is it, I'm not cheating, believe what you will and if you want to keep falsely acquising me of it then we cannot be together because I do not deserve the verbal abuse and the slanderous comments. Whatever you do, put an end to it, because it's like a big ugly virus, the more you feed it, the bigger it gets.
2006-07-21 15:43:56 · answer #2 · answered by XXXDirtyDirtyGirlXXX 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously she has doubts for some reason. Maybe someone put the dating sight up as a joke. It seems as though she is just trying to catch you doing something. However, she must have some reason to feel insecure. Somehow you must make her feel secure. I don't have any answers as how to make her feel secure about your relationship since i don't know much about it. Try talking to her. Communication is the only way you can figure out your relationship and where it is going. Good luck!
2006-07-21 15:44:10 · answer #3 · answered by teacher1969 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Drop her, she is cheating. She probably put the site up herself. How else would she of known it was there? She is probably with her new man right now. You're just her fake computer boyfriend, I use to do the same thing when I was younger. It is not the end of the world!!!
2006-07-21 15:42:14 · answer #4 · answered by Pocahontas 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well does she have a reason not to trust you are is she just paranoid? Well if she is just paranoid ask her have you ever given her any reason to doubt you, feel her out. Because the point of a relationship is about trust and if she doesn't trust you then I would ask her what it would take to get her to trust you because its wearing on your relationship. Eventually you will have to make a decision is it worth it or not to be with someone who doesn't trust you, it sucks but you might be a lot happier with someone who at least trusts you to tell you the truth. Good luck ^_^
2006-07-21 15:42:08 · answer #5 · answered by Dee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you do things that make her think that you are cheating on her. That same thing happened to me. I "had" this boyfriend and then like you know i thought that he was cheating on me because he told me that he"liked" this other girl but then all that trust that i had for him all faded away. Then since that day that he had told me that he suddenly stopped calling me and i said well if i "think" that he is cheating on me well like why dont i just ask him that if he is but then i stopped and thought" i could ask him but even thought that i think that it is true maybe he will still lie to me". then i said if i also "think" that i "love" him then i should just stop hurting myself and well just let him go and i broke up with him like 5 days ago and it still hurts but i mean the point is that even though that they may hate you in every way you should try to you know like try and make it up to her and her family. well thats it for me if you need any more help then try to reach me and i wish you good luck!! buh bye
2006-07-21 15:48:06 · answer #6 · answered by valerie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1) You start some couseling if that you may (goto a wedding counselor even by myself) 2) You have to just let him do what he thinks he wishes to do. If that's getting divorced than he wishes to try this 3) If he divorces you, you both must get separate housing and separate lives. If he desires to "over" then he wants to get counseling himself. I certainly would not are living with anyone who needs to divorce me however have me absolutely obligated to them and their habits. NO means.
2016-08-09 02:56:06 · answer #7 · answered by rothenburg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would find somebody new, maybe as hard as it may be I know a few couples that are married and go through what you describe, wow they have miserable lifes, you do not need all this bullshit, life has enough problems as it is, but thats just my thought about your problem. good Luck.
2006-07-21 15:43:30 · answer #8 · answered by sidekick 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a million) you start up some couseling in case you may (goto a wedding ceremony counselor even by myself) 2) you want to easily enable him do what he thinks he desires to do. If it truly is getting divorced than he desires to attempt this 3) If he divorces you, you both favor to get separate housing and separate lives. If he needs to start up "over" then he desires to get counseling himself. I surely does no longer stay with someone who needs to divorce me yet have me completely obligated to them and their conduct. NO way.
2016-11-25 01:05:49 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ur gf doesn't trust you that much if she behaves that way.... anyways, show her that she's wrong and that you're innocent.. sometimes girls are getting paranoid because they really love a person, so i think be more passionate with her or maybe she knows something about you that you haven't tell her.. be honest to her ok???
2006-07-21 15:41:27 · answer #10 · answered by mystery 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋