When you loose someone in a terrible accident what should you do to keep happy?

Answer 1

It is extremely hard to pass through the deep waters of sorrow. The heartache of separation, the sense of emptiness. They wonder how they will ever cope with whatever lies ahead. But there is ways to overcome.
If you reflect on the good times that you shared, of the trials you went through, all these are therapeutic. It may bring the tears, but emotional release is good for you. Bearing in mind that the struggles your loved one had while here on earth, are over. No pain, heartache, no more disappointments. All these are replaced with the wonders of Heaven. Recognizing this also takes the sting out of bitter regrets. For I'm sure, there are things you wish you could take back, some harsh words spoken in anger, some things that were never said. Don't allow this to drag you down into despair because if you think about it, those things don't make a difference now. Your loved one is in a place where that doesn't really matter ! Rather be glad that the unkind words and cruel deeds are past-forgotten. No matter what was said or done to your loved one, he couldn't care less now.
Lastly if your a Christian, the separation that gives you so much grief now will not last forever. A day of resurrection and grand reunion lies ahead.

Answer 2

I am sorry if you lost someone in an accident. I had the same thing happen and I know it is very difficult. I tried to stay happy and ended up skipping the process of grieving. I have had many issues with this since so my advice that it is okay to feel sad and to try to remember the good things about the person. There is not set time for anyone to "get over it." Everyone grieves at their own pace. If you want to be happy though and remember the good times, it helped me to watch videos and look at pictures. It was tough but it also reminded me of how much we cared about each other and how much fun we had. Good luck.

Answer 3

I'm sorry.

I lost my sister in an accident about 7 years ago. She was one of the closest people in the world to me, and life has never been the same since.

For a little while, you're just going to feel sad, and that's just how it is. Don't try to push it away or hide it. But do talk to people, and try to be around other people as much as possible. My girlfriend at the time did a lot to help me and it made it a lot easier to live with. Plus, it just doesn't seem so desperate and lonely if you still have people to talk to. And also, it helps you to be more grateful for the people you still have in your life.

Good luck and I wish you the best.

Answer 4

Don't try to be happy right away. You need to grieve and that does mean being sad. Only when you have had time to grieve should you try to look into happiness again. By trying to be happy too soon you are only trying to hide from this pain you are feeling. You can laugh at some of the silly things this person did with friends, but that is not a bad thing. It also is a form of grieving.

Answer 5

Well, I recently lost my fiance', the love of my life, he was shot and killed leaving a bar. This idiot was trying to rob him. Let me tell you, it don't get no easier. I just try my hardest to stay busy. I clean & clean , and just try to keep myself occupied, until bedtime, then I sleep. I am a strong believer in the Lord, so really the only thing that keeps me happy is my faith. He left me behind a beautiful little babygirl, so that helps a lot too. Just find something you like to do, and try to take up some time doing it. I'll say a prayer for you as well!!

Answer 6

You're jumping ahead of yourself just a little bit. At first, your main goal should be coming to terms with the tragedy on a level you can deal with. The pain will be reduced, little by little, with the passage of time. But it never goes completely away. Instead, it becomes incorporated into part of who you are. Happiness can only return when you have returned to being able to put the event into past perspective, and move on with your life, and the lives of the other people around you. Don't forget about happiness, just don't try to rush into it or it'll be short-lived.

Answer 7

I am sorry for your loss also, you will go through all the grieving process, it will take some time, that's normal, in the meantime only think of the happy and good times and how special you are to have known this person, ask God to help you, He will, I went through this years ago, my girlfriend got killed in a car accident, and even today years later I think of her and am glad I had the chance to know her, I think of her smilling, the goofy things we did, and all, it lifts my sprit to this day, if you have to hard of a time dealing with it get some counceling, thats ok too, God Bless.

Answer 8

First of all, keep active and spend as much time as possible among supportive friends, In those private moments, reflect upon the happy times; do not fall into remorse. Depending upon how this lose is effecting you, seek out peer groups in which you may share feelings. Seeking counseling to help you. Such counseling is much more available than is commonly thought. Check with your local community services agency.
And my heart goes out to you.

Answer 9

Let your pain run it's course. Stay busy, read alot, plant a tree, visit the grave. Death is the freedom from life. That person has gone into the next rhealm so keep the memory and set them free.

Answer 10

Why do you want to keep happy? You lost someone. Mourn. Cry your eyes out if you want to. Eventually, and it will take time, you will learn to deal with the loss and move on. But you need to go through the mourning process first.