When did you come out of the closet, and did it change your life alot?
Ive always for some reason been attracted too guys but i found out i was gay when i was sixteen.Im now 22 and just came out. I find that its much easier to be me cause im not sneeking around with guys.
2006-07-21 15:21:23 · 17 answers · asked by Riley 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
i came out the beginning of last year. i was 17. my life is so much better now. i always felt that my mom was distant from me and when i finally told her, everything changed. She said "now my son is being honest with me". She said i was basically lying to her face the whole time because she always knew. I dont smash the whole gay thing into my parents face bc my dad is still a lil wishy washy but he loves me. i bring a guy home and i can see him kinda squirm. i am so thankful i told them! : )
2006-07-21 15:28:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I didn't think at the time it was that big a deal, but I think that it was the main cause of some serious problems with my parents. It was like by hiding that part of me, I ended up closing off the rest of me as well. Things got a LOT better after I came out. I'm 20 now, I came out halfway through freshman year of college (puts me at 18).
As far as my friends; not much changed. All my friends ended up being cool (3 of the five of this one group of us ended up being gay or bi; we outnumbered the straights!). We all did the summer-after-graduation-coming-out thing. About the same with my brothers (they're all older and don't live with me anymore; don't see them all that often anyway). I think I told them just this past year. Good luck.
I will say that visibility and acceptance does come with its price; you have to be a little more responsible now. It's not just innocent to have a guy friend sleeping over anymore. And if you're visibly queer (wearing a rainbow or gay-friendly shirt), you can't check out guys unnoticed, and you'll have to be prepared to deal with whatever consequences that brings about (usually the worst I've gotten when I forget I'm wearing a certain t-shirt is a dirty look here and there). Just something to consider, and by no means am I saying the closet is preferable.
2006-07-25 08:38:40 · answer #2 · answered by Atropis 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I came out at 13 years old -- now I'm 23. It definitely changed my life. If I could re-do the situation -- I think I would have waited a little longer -- there were so many issues that were presented because of my coming-out, and it just was not such a positive experience for me. Now, I'm fine -- and I don't care what anybody has to say -- it's my life -- I'm more . . . developed -- and I've realized I don't need anybody else to accept me. As long as I do -- I'm fine.
2006-07-23 09:47:28 · answer #3 · answered by Brian 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I came out at age 39 and YES - it change my life (for the better) because now it is MY life and not me living according to someone else's rules and expectations. I will not go into details, but i fought for many years who I really was and as a result I became depressed and was on medication. Since coming out I am happy with me for the first time - the people in my life either love me for who I am or they never really loved me at in the first place (they just loved the idea of who they wanted me to be at the time).
2006-07-25 01:14:01 · answer #4 · answered by rp_iowa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-07-21 23:34:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I came out the same year I became a Gay Rights activist. I was 21 at the time.
Best Wishes!
2006-07-21 22:34:07 · answer #6 · answered by Specious λ Neurotica 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good for you! I'm glad you finally did it!
Where have you been? We have been missing you for a while.
I came out when I was 35, and it felt as if the weight of two worlds was lifted off my shoulders. The two worlds were both unreal worlds; one was my false straight self, and the other was my false gay self. The false gay self took a little while to shake off, and yours might too, but I hope not. Enjoy your new life!
2006-07-21 23:41:31 · answer #7 · answered by fall2005buseng 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I came out at 24 after much mental denial games with myself...my whole life changed...I just exploded into someone else..it was/is wonderful.
2006-07-21 22:50:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I came out to my friends last year. I don't plan on telling my family. I am now 14.
2006-07-21 22:29:06 · answer #9 · answered by dannyboy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I came out when I was 23. It was difficult and a struggle, but I feel so much better for it. I respect myself more for it.
2006-07-21 22:31:58 · answer #10 · answered by jhs80123 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋