How can we help her? She also finds it difficult to talk to us and mentions that she doesnt want to burden us with her problem. Now we fear that she will go crazy, any advice?
2006-07-21 15:03:10 · 6 answers · asked by babybounce 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
There' a saying that goes> When you lose someone, the more you loved them, the more you hurt..
She may not be in denial, but she is still grieving. Yes maybe it is a little easier for you to move on. But sounds like she still not able to get to that point yet, Some people grieve shortly and move on, some grieve longer.The best thing, for her is being able to talk about your mom. she needs that to get over her grieving. the more she is able to talk , the faster she will heal. Sounds like you would rather not talk about mom so you can move on. That is probably why she says , she doesn't want to burden you. Is there someone else , that she can talk, and reminisce?
2006-07-21 15:16:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry for your loss. Your sister is going to have to try to find a way to deal with everything. All you can really do is be supportive. Reassure her that she is not burdening you. I myself have had a lot of loss over the past months. I lost by brother in november2005, a cousin in march2006, and my sister april2006. My mom has a tough time with the loss of my brother and sister. She has done some counseling. And now she is starting to talk a little more about it. It takes time. Just be there for her and see if she will talk to somone that's not family related. Sometimes it's easier to talk to someone that isn't involed. Someone who can just listen, and only add advice when needed. Let her know that you love her and that you want to help her get through this; because she is your sister and life is just too short and you don't want to lose her. best wishes to you.
2006-07-21 23:27:10 · answer #2 · answered by Heidi N 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are such a great sister to care about how she is having trouble with grief and you yourself are going through a hard time. Sometimes you have to hold your problems up to a higher answer and have faith that the right solution will come. Your sister can talk to someone,but only if she wants to...you can't force her healing process. Just let her know you care and are there for her. It's her burden and you can only help if invited to do so. You take care.
2006-07-21 22:12:05 · answer #3 · answered by folklore 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mom died about six years ago. It was a humungoe loss. I mean i was only 6 and my entire life i was all about her. no one else but her. But maybe you could like give her a journal to right her feelings in. But i think the best solution is to keep ur mom alive. Talk about her. Watch home videos and do stuff like yall did before. It helped me a lot. I mean i couldnt talk to anyone either. It just helps if you keep her memory alive. it is depressing and i understand completely that your sister is in denial. It hurts.
2006-07-21 22:13:50 · answer #4 · answered by Kayla J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get her to a grief counsellor. My mother died several years ago and there are 3 of us, it was amazing how differently everyone handled it.
2006-07-21 22:06:39 · answer #5 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to talk to her the most freely possible. She must be convinced to look for a physiologist.
2006-07-21 22:10:46 · answer #6 · answered by vahucel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋