Is it wrong to leave someone because you want to explore your options, then come back to them?

Question

You were in a 2 1/2 year relationship and ya broke up because ya argue alot. Ya always got back together but this time he says he wants to explore his options. If he comes back do you think it will be because he realized I was the one?

This is the first time he told me he wanted to explore his options.

I'm sorry.We were engaged to be married Feb 20'2009.We were going to move to Florida.

Answer 1

If you two were meant for each other, give it time, you will both know. It happens to couples as they separate, and after several months, about 6, they both realize they truly want each other and no one else. Sometimes we must go through a test to find this out. And after that ,the relationship grows stronger, and they develop trust for each other. That is the most sacred part in a relationship, is the trust you have for the other. Couples don't know how to fight the right way, so they keep persisting on arguing and walk away. If it was meant to be, than just let it happen.

Answer 2

mAYBE,
However, the factthat you fight alot may be a signal he does not like you anymore, or how it is with you.. or thinks maybe he would be happier elsewhere,
It depends on what you have shared with this man, did you plan a future?
did you set goals together, or were you still just dating and really involved romantically,?

iF you were fighting all the time, why?
i SAY that if you were planning your future, and fighting , and he wants to explore his options he is saying i am not sure (or something like that) AND if he is not sure, well ok that hurts, but maybe while he is exploring his options, you should consider the same, and you might just meet someone who will "
"BREAK THE SPELL" and oh goodness, you found someone who is better suited for you, and who "lIKES YOU"
I think it is "stinking thinking" IF someone takes all of you for a long time, and lets the relationship go so far, only to say.. hey wait, i want to explore my "OPTIONS" IN other words, i want some other women, to "explore"

the problem li always had is if they get their ego hurt, they come runniing back, missing you, loving you wanting you.. to really llick their wounds, but if they do not know by now, that you are the one, they will always be checking their options you must be the one who decides what is right and what feels wrong ,,advice re love matters is serious because we "the answerers" DONT HAVE TO LIVE WITH YOUR DECISION

Answer 3

If you keep breaking up, there is a reason for that.

Don't just wait around for him to explore his options.

Maybe, when he comes back, you will have decided you'd rather be with somebody who doesn't argue a lot, or who isn't unsure about whether you are right for him.

Maybe you are both pretty young? Lots of young relationships don't work out because people change a LOT when they are teenagers and mature. Eighteen-year-old boys are NOTORIOUS for breaking up with their girlfriends. Something happens when a person goes from high school to the bigger world outside. If you do get back together after that.... and you are old enough to make commitments to one another... then you may have a good chance of staying together. But you will both have to quit giving up on each other-- that's a very bad way to go into a marriage.

Answer 4

I think that he is over you and the only times that he's going to come crawling back to you is when he can't find someone better. Then when he finds someone better he's going to have to go explore his options again. I say lose him and go find yourself a new guy. You've already wasted 2 1/2 years on him. Isn't that enough of your life to throw away? Move on you'll be better off!!!

Answer 5

That or he just wanted to have sex with some more women..but didn't want the guilty conscience of still being with you while he was doing it.
Or it could be that you're the consolation prize. Either way, I think I would have to talk to him and find out what is going on with him before I was willing to give it another shot. Tell him you aren't done exploring your options yet.

Answer 6

Sounds like he is tired of it, and wants to see if there is someone he can get along with out there. He may not come back, don't count on it. If he does, think twice about what arguements are really important. Can you honestly say, most of them where really about nothing? If so, then count your blessings if he comes back. Or next time, it might be for good. Remember, a guy will also come back until he finds someone also. Kinda like using you until what he wants comes along...They hate being lonely! So open you eyes, and think about what is really important right now.

Answer 7

Yes and I think he is more of a man for being straight up with you, rather then exploring his options while with ya and creep-in. Good Luck to you if he comes back it was meant to be.

Answer 8

If he needs to explore his options then he's not the one for you. I know it's a long relationship but maybe you need to move on. You will find someone that loves you for you and he'll know surely that you are the one.

Answer 9

It really sounds like there is someone else...his option. If he comes back this will arise again because of the arguing. What you both really need to do is try to talk thru your problems. Everyone says it but counceling could help. Good Luck :)

Answer 10

go out and live it up!

there MUST be something better than that out there.

believe me though.. once he sees you TRULY out there and having fun, he'll drop that "exploring" and will beg for you back. Then you will have the choice of taking him back or not. Im just letting you know though, there ARE some really great guys that would give their left nut to have a decent girl..