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im bored hot fed up with life and want to reach for the bottle think my mans cheatin im old 26 so ill find it hard to find sum1 new im ugly fat im on diet cant have kids what there to do in life

Answer 1

You sound in a dreadful state. I have been on your profile and read your questions.

It seems to me you are seriously depressed and you say that you are fat and ugly. I've had feelings like that too.

One of the ways to get out of this downward spiral is to do something hard and see it through with determination and effort. The sense of acheivement you get from this really gives your self esteem a boost and you can correct your faulty thinking about yourself.

If you are over weight I will share my diet with you and it will give you something to strive for and a means of beginning to feel good about yourself. See a Doctor too.

I have lost around 60 lbs in 6 months and I will tell you what not to eat. The first myth we have been told is that fat is bad. Sugar and carbohydrate are the big nasties. In fact, reduced fat food that has had some of the fat removed is actually more fattening than the regular food because the removed fat in most cases has been replaced with carbs! This is the main reason why you must absolutely stay away from ALL processed food with no exception. Eat fresh and natural. You must have 3 meals a day and get into a routine so your body knows when to expect food. Your body is capable of doing exquisite things to avoid weight loss if it thinks it’s going to get starved, so you must feed it and regularly.

The other thing you must do is keep your insulin as low as possible by getting sugar and carbs in your diet as close to zero as you can and not having ANYTHING between meals except water. Also having at least 5 hours between one meal and another. The last meal of the day must be no later than 9pm. Insulin is a hormone that will absolutely block fat and protein burning in your body and force it to burn sugar, that's how it works. You will NOT lose weight with your blood stream flooded with insulin, even with exercise. It’s impossible.

You must have at least 8 glasses of water a day, in order for your liver and kidneys to excrete the fat from your body this is crucial.

Now, what you must stay away from and I mean, non at all. Bread, pasta, rice, pastry, sugar, potato, onion, parsnip, sweet potato, pumpkin, beetroot, carrots, peas, beans, beer, spreads like butter and margarine and be very careful of sauces and condiments. Fruit and milk should be taken very, very sparingly because they are fattening. Fruit is full of sugar too, only a very small amount. Avoid all processed food including diet soda it will stimulate insulin. 3 cups of black tea or coffee WITH meals a day is OK. Use Stevia for a sweetner.

OK, if you are still with me, what can you eat? In a nutshell you replace the carbs you have removed with protein and green leafy vegetables. Do not mix protein only 1 per meal. This is what you can eat. Lean meat, poultry, fish, cheese, yoghurt and eggs are your permitted proteins. Cauliflower, cabbage, sprouts, broccoli, capsicum, mushroom, celery, zucchini and a small amount of tomato. You can have unlimited amounts of lettuce and cucumber but ONLY at meal times. You can use balsamic vinegar as a dressing; mustard is ok too but only made from the powder. Shop bought is full of sugar! Curry powder in cooking can be used as well. One tablespoon of olive oil is ok per day, in cooking and as a dressing. Garlic is OK but not shop bought; you guessed it, full of sugar. Use fresh.

I will GUARANTEE if you stick to this you will loose heaps of weight, fast. I know it's not easy and you need the support of your family too.

Just another couple of things I forgot. NO breakfast cereal and avoid really heavy exercise you will just burn glycogen in your muscles, not fat and it will just make you sore and tired. You need prolonged gentle exercise to burn fat like walking. You don't need to exercise at all on this diet as long as you're moving about. Last but not least read food labels and look at the ingredients. Avoid foods like the plague with more than 5 grams of carbohydrate per 100 grams. If you like a drink, Semillon Sauvignon Blanc (very dry and low in carbs) with a little soda water is OK with meals.

Good Luck and best wishes, Jules, lecturer. Australia.

PS. I'm from the UK too and I have a 360 site. Stay in touch. My partner and I would like to do something to help you. I've been where you are.

http://au.360.yahoo.com/julesgr7351

Answer 2

Hi there,

I'm the same age as you, so I can kind of relate to what you say. I don't have the perfect body or the perfet life, but I've learned something in this life.

Happiness doesn't come from being in a relationship with someone. And it doesn't come from anything surrounding you. Happiness and contentment come from inside you and if you try to get it from somewhere else, you'll just find yourself constantly falling short of what you expected to achieve.

It's true you need to find your self confidence again, but it can't be done just by deciding to find it. You need to start from breaking up with your man if you can't trust him anymore. You can't build a relationship without trust. I know this sound difficult, but would you rather be ina relationship where you need to doubt the other person all the time?

26 is not that old. You WILL find another person who will care for you, but once again you can't expect the other person to be there to make you feel expected or loved. That's not their job or anyone else's job, as I said.

You will feel ugly and fat as long as you tell yourself you are. Start telling yourself that you're a wonderful person, focus on the parts you like about yourself and tell yourself out loud what's good about you. It'll feel silly and pointless at first, but trust me, it will work.

I started doing this a while ago, and slowly I'm changing my opinion of myself. I'm learning to be more confident because I appreciate myself, so other people will appreciate me more, too.

Start doing things you enjoy. Get a hobby, for example. This will take your thought away from all the bad things and will help you realise that there is life beyond the difficulties.

Just don't reach for the bottle, OK? I'm sure you don't want to increase your problems, but sort them out, right? Drinking will only make things worse. The road to better life is slow and takes a lot of will power and courage. The easy solution (bottle) is easy to take, but will destroy you eventually. Be the strong young lady I'm sure you are, and make the decision to rise from you struggles and overcome them.

I wish you loads of strength in your journey,
RachelK

Answer 3

I was in your shoes before.

That bottle only harms the body.

First thing is to build up confidence and outlook in life. I was thinking, why waste my youth over that someone? Would not i spend my time on other things more memorable and healthy?

Since he does not care about me, i should care for myself. Slowly show that someone you are independent.

I have walked my life until now, and have my own career. I was dumped by my 9 years gf.Walked out on the wedding day. It is a horrible feeling. That time, i thought of ending one's life, but i thought, there is still greener pasture out there..... - chip

Answer 4

I think you need to get out more often because you sound depressed to me. God didnt mean for everyone to have children you know. The hell with a man if you think he is cheating nine out of ten he is. SORRY HONEY! I've been there and done that. Get some support it will be ok in the long run ok

Answer 5

Most people use alcohol as a substitute for the things they lack in their own personalities, as a means of escape from their problems.
People who feel immature and insecure use alcohol as a way to boost their self-confidence or simply to make themselves " more mature". But actually they are making themselves feel all the worse.
The Bible teaches us that the only way to become mature and whole is through the work of Christ in their lives.
Others drink and enter " bad relationships" feel inhibited, shy. They believe that they need alcohol, they need someone even if that person is unhealthy for them, to be able to express themselves.
Christ promise to help us overcome any problem in our lives, including our inhibitions. A Christian substitutes Christ for flaws in their lives. They receive everything they need through the riches in Christ Jesus. ( see Phil. 4:19) Jesus said, " I have come that they might have life, and that they might have it more abundantly" ( John 10:10)
Believers have been set free in Christ and enjoy all the fullness that comes from the Christian life ( see John1:16). We have no need for alcohol or an unhealthy relationship, because Christians have the Holy Spirit to guide and control their life.
Why tinker with destruction, horror and brokenness in your life such as you were posting. Especially when it's so needless. There is hope...Pick up your Bible!
The hidden power of accepting and praising God as our creator releases Him to create new life in you!!

Answer 6

Hmm, well one of the things. honestly, I think you can do to help yourself more than anything else is get some therapy. You sound like you are not happy with yourself more than anything else and the solution to your problem is to find out why. Afterward, the therapist can help you make a road map to improving yourself and making better decisions about your health, your relationships, and your internal dialouge.

Answer 7

Yes talk to Saudi Geoff he has the face of a man who cares!

Answer 8

Have a drink, go on a diet, and put all of your energy into your children like I had to do when my wife left me

Answer 9

Get some self esteem, a new life, out of that relationship, and a reality check...not necessarily in that order...

Answer 10

everyone gets days like that,you need to be around more upbeat people and chear up,dont let any bloke bring you down.try get some sleep for now.take care!

Answer 11

pow

your old at 26?

lol
fix you self esteem first