A guy asks a female coworker out for a meal, she shows up after work, he hits on her lightly.
After work a month later he invites her out once more like "we should get together"
Over the next 4 months later after nothing pans out, he notices a pattern of her flirting alot with black guys.
He says "i think you treat the brothers better than the white guys".
She claims sexual harrrassment and claims this comment plus she also was pressured to have lunch with him 6 month earlier?
Does she have a case?
2006-07-21 13:40:36 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Politics & Government ➔ Politics
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based on a true story. no charges but he was written up and on 'probation' for a year.
2006-07-21 13:41:57 · update #1
No comments on her claim of being pressured to have lunch?
This is the story as I observed and was told.
2006-07-21 14:06:22 · update #2
Panacea
About 'internal code' part, i have heard that as well from several Doctors/talk show therapists. That women lack an "honor code" that men have somehow, that they are biologically incapable of having it.
2006-07-21 15:15:48 · update #3
Your story illustrates quite clearly why you cannot date women from work. Women are not like men. They are simply incapable of acting according to an internal code of appropriate behavior. In your relationships with them, you must apply the structure of basic right and wrong from without. This is impossible to do if a woman has any sort of power over you whatsoever. If she does, her behavior will fall the least common denominator and this is pretty low indeed. In fact, it's downright depraved and insane. Although this is not normal, it is biologically driven. Your only choice is to carefully groom all situations with women so that they have no power over you.
At work is the very antithesis of this. Communist scum (aka liberals) are trying to destroy our country and are turning our values, legal system and ethics back on themselves to do it. The result in this case has been a system of laws and precidents that destroy any hope of you having a successful meeting, mating and marriage (this last is the point) of someone from work. If you don't like this, stop voting democrat and start kicking the crap out of people you see walking around with Che Guerva t-shirts.
2006-07-21 13:54:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
It is not a great idea to date coworkers...stuff like this can happen. I think that what he said was a bit rude and lacked tact, but it was not sexual harassment. His feelings were hurt and he should have "let the situation go", but he didn't. She should have been a big girl and something to the effect of; "I would like to have a positive working relationship with you, could we put this behind us and move on", and then if he continued to bug her, mke sexual comments about her or spread rumors which impugned her character, she could complain of harassment. Long story short, no it was not harassment, but they both reacted immaturely. unfortunately, his career is involved, which shows that she is a vindictive person from whom he should stay away.
2006-07-21 20:48:36 · answer #2 · answered by Mrs.Foster 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The problem with any kind of comments of any kind out side of professionally related conversation (in the workplace) is that a person of the opposite sex can say it made them uncomfortable... then companies pretty much have to be perceived as having done something about it so they can't be sued.
Is that ridiculous? YES But, that's the litigious society we live in... people have to make decisions to cover their butts instead of to do the right thing.
My advice to people is: don't date at work... don't even think of coworkers of the opposite sex as anything other than androgynous...
Is that a boring way to live? YES
But, bottom-line, you won't have any problems...
2006-07-21 20:51:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your story leaves out the woman. Presumably she said things to the coworker to indicate that she wasn't interested. Notice she didn't go back out with him. This leads to the strong inference that his comment about her having a racial taste in men and providing treats for them was said in less than good fun.
A reprimand is not outrageous here.
2006-07-21 20:53:00 · answer #4 · answered by C_Bar 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends where you are. In some places the victim would be seen as the staff member recieving unwanted emotional attention. In others, the poor little unwanted guy would be pitied.
2006-07-21 20:51:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This "guy" should really consult a Lawyer about this if she has claimed sexual harrasment. But I am no Lawyer, so in my opinion I don't think she has any case.
2006-07-21 20:44:11 · answer #6 · answered by windflower_177 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people who have been locked up for awhile, when they get out, think that they own the world around them and the world owes them something.
Mainly they are mad at their self and will not come to terms and face it.
2006-07-21 20:48:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No case if I were the judge. But I have seen some screwball cases decided completely illogically.
2006-07-21 20:47:33 · answer #8 · answered by Hot Stuff 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
possible case but you probably left out a bunch of details. hard to summarize 4 months of history in a paragraph.
2006-07-21 20:43:58 · answer #9 · answered by Iomegan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, the way things are.. yes.. to both. It is considered sexual harassment, and she does have a case..
How wrong is that..
2006-07-21 20:44:12 · answer #10 · answered by sassy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋