why? how would you feel if your spouse let go and you didnt? would you cheat? and for the special people I mean, eating whatever you want and not exercising so that you dont look as strikingly beautiful
2006-07-21 13:34:09 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Jeez, bring out the claws lady! You must be on a serious dry spell or something. But special people are they annoying peope who answer the question and then say what do you mean by letting go? And i'm sure nobody would wait until they got married to commit suicide so I think your the only one strange enough to think that since everybody else didnt assume it. Just a note from me! And why did you call yourself a special person? You make no sense at all, sorry
2006-07-21 14:01:10 · update #1
No. I have no plans to "let go" if I get married. No one should do this. It isn't healthy and it isn't the way you were when you met and married you spouse. Granted, over a long period of time both spouses may gain weight. That is not the same as just ignoring good health. To keep your spouse you need to try and have pride in your appearance.
2006-07-21 13:38:58 · answer #1 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As someone who has been married for several years, I have to agree with the people who said that they would never "plan" to let themselves go. Think that when one is in the "dating pool" they have to work hard to keep up their appearance because they are afraid of someone seeing them when they aren't at their best. Over time you become familiar enough with the other person that you're more relaxed around them & if you really enjoy your food & don't really enjoy working out, you can find yourself letting yourself go a little at a time. However, you also become more comfortable with the other person even if they let themself go a bit & you also gain wisdom so that you know that you don't have to be "strikingly beautiful" all the time to be sexually attractive. You should be able to see both the person as he/she is now as well as the one you were attracted to in the first place. Attraction is a wonderful thing, but marriages are built on trust. If one spouse gets out of shape, the other should try to help but shouldn't be too critical & definitely shouldn't cheat.
2006-07-21 21:03:28 · answer #2 · answered by Dragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never cheat. It's only your honor that gets slammed. IF you have no klids and you can't take it then dump the offending member. But first look at the facts and the situations. Why id the other letting go? Can you help. IF you can't or don;t want to then fly away. BUt remember you might be the one letting go someday. Kids, work age will make you tired and starting to let go because of the other stuff.
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Good luck
2006-07-21 20:45:29 · answer #3 · answered by hoyhoydc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no excuse for cheating. And if you are so shallow that the looks matter that much to you, then you shouldn't be with someone anyway. Unless the wieght gain or lack of exercise is a health issue, then it shouldn't be an issue. If that is the case, then you need to support them and try to talk them into getting help.
If you married them, it should have been because you loved the person inside and not the looks. Looks decay, the beauty inside of someone is there forever. Age takes its toll...even with eating right and exercising, it isn't always possible to stay as 'strikingly beautiful' as you were when you got married.
Either love the person inside, and help them, and support them...or do them a favor and get out of their life.
That's how I see it anyway. :-)
2006-07-21 20:41:20 · answer #4 · answered by jimmy h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That kind of behavior is known as letting YOURSELF go, not just letting go, which could mean anything at all....
just a note from the 'special' people.
Oh and after you've been married for a while let us special folk know how well you do at maintaining 'striking' beauty 24/7.
2006-07-21 20:39:43 · answer #5 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you ok Natalie? Your avatar is crying. Anyways to answer your question I would not let myself go when I get married. I want to look a certain way for myself so it would not be to please my husband it would be maintain a body shape I feel comfortable with. I believe if I am happy with myself I can be happy and satisfied with others. If my husband began to let himself go I would not bother him about it unless it started to effect his health and he was an unhealthy weight. Then I would sit him down and talk to him. I would go on a diet with him so he would not have to do it on his own. Hope next time you ask a question your avatar is smiling. Take care.
2006-07-21 20:44:03 · answer #6 · answered by strawberries 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i never planned to let go but I also know I wasn't in love when I got married. I cheated and found the most wonderful man who I believe is my soulmate, yes it was wrong to cheat but I found love.
2006-07-21 21:18:01 · answer #7 · answered by cutiepie81289 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure no one plans to just let go. There has to be some underlying meaning.
2006-07-21 20:39:16 · answer #8 · answered by Mrs.S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I plan to look as nice as I did the day that he first met me; I plan to keep my man out of other women's beds; can't do it if I'm looking a mess!
2006-07-21 20:46:45 · answer #9 · answered by JEFFAVEGRL 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋