my daugther was married to a guy who abused her in every way,he got busted for drugs,went to prison and she divorced him. when he got out she went back to him the abuse kept up and she kept trying to save relationship.each time he keeps asking forgiveness but turns around and does it again.he thinks hes above everyone else cause she will not press charges against him so he has gotten away with the abuse.he finally left the house but continues to abuse her mentally with phone calls etc.i have tried to forgive him mostly cause my daugther has asked me to but i no longer trust him or even want to forgive him for what he has/is putting us threw.he has used us awfully then moves on to the next person to get what he wants.he thinks hes smarter than anyone else and can get away with anything he does. i no longer trust him around me with all he has said and done and still does.what do ya think?
2006-07-21 13:21:33 · 6 answers · asked by loveaoperatorfemale 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Gosh they are all good answers and helpful, you all are caring people.Thank you..God bless ya.
2006-07-22 13:32:16 · update #1
Neither you nor your daughter should be forgiving him. She should press charges.
2006-07-21 13:26:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't ever trust the guy in ANY way. Do you have friends of yours and your daughters who can do an "intervention" in which you meet with her and each gives their reason and then press her to go into a mental hospital for treatment. Other than that, will the authorities allow YOU to press charges? Why do you think it is that your daughter thinks so little of herself that she allows this guy to abuse her? Would she listen to an attorney or minister, priest?
2006-07-21 20:46:29 · answer #2 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like the fly with the spider, your daughter is caught in this guy's web -of his control. She sounds very confused and compelled by this fellow to the point of not really knowing who or why she puts up with his abuse.
This guy sounds awfully driven and craves the attention of your daughter, entrapping her physically, emotionally, yes he is a real winner!
Your daughter cannot change this guy, no matter how she looks at the situation. What she needs to do is change herself, get her self-esteem back, her self-worth. She has to get rid of this guy for good. Until she does this she will never be happy with her lot in life.
This guy's pattern of abuse has been to sweet talk your daughter into believing his sweet lies and then WHAM, he starts putting her down, making her feel like a piece of ####, to the point where she feels worthless. This goes around and round and there is no ending. Please tell your daughter to get out of that relationship and perhaps even to seek some kind of counselling.
My heart feels for both of you. God Bless!
2006-07-21 21:12:42 · answer #3 · answered by trieghtonhere 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't. I think a rusty razor blade is in order. His behaviour is reprehensible. You need to move to another state and get an unlisted number and help your daughter to find someone honest and who treats her like the princess that I'm sure she is.
2006-07-21 20:27:38 · answer #4 · answered by sibohan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NEVER..........I belive in Karma....what comes around goes around, he WILL eventually get his. I know its bull but get restraining orders....if you daughter has had enough.....just go through the legal courses to get rid of him. Be careful and God Bless you and your family.
2006-07-21 20:27:25 · answer #5 · answered by lori26101 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i appreciate your and your daughter's diligence but don't u think that to some extent its getting more of "cowardness".
after all you are humans, except for your son-in-law. so my advice is "GET RID OF HIM AT ANY COST" if u wanna live peacefully.
2006-07-21 20:49:49 · answer #6 · answered by Josh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋