Alittle stressed about this, her enjoyment is what is most important to me....
2006-07-21 13:11:56 · 38 answers · asked by WhiteHat 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
wow...i'm kinda touched by that question...you'll be fine...and...it doesn't matter how it goes, i bet she's just as nervous as you too...that's kinda sweet.
take it slow and just go with the flow...your feeling will take over and you'll do all the right things biding by how you feel at the time.
good luck and CONGRATULATIONS
2006-07-21 13:17:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You probably won't..but don't worry about it. FLog the log just prior to the main event and you will do fine. Just keep it simple.
The first time with any girl is typically not fantastic. YOu both have to find out what works for both of you. But within a few days(and nights) you will catch-up and grow in experience four fold. Always remember the foreplay and the holding after sex is a biggie.
Check out the following website. It can answer your questions better than I can. The book also has a section on first times and the wedding night.
http://www.condomsbrasandstraightjackets.com/
Good luck
2006-07-21 13:23:37 · answer #2 · answered by hoyhoydc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't stress. Making love comes naturally. Some pointers to make her feel special....start with a slow, sensual massage. Use a scented oil, the smell of most sexual massage oils are an aphrodesiac. Pay close attention to the middle of her back inside thigh area, teasing, but not touching you know where. She will enjoy it and so will you. Lots of little kisses on the neck, navel and behind the ears.
Other than that, I wouldn't worry about how long you'll last, because the best thing about being married is you can do it over and over and over again! And believe me, it does work more than once a night! You will learn together and grow together!
2006-07-21 13:22:41 · answer #3 · answered by rdhedhottie 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Even with viagra...odds are there won't be much lasting, being a virgin. It'll get better, with practice. You might try pleasing her orally before intercourse. If you're a virgin, she can't be expecting a whole lot...if she's a virgin as well, she won't know any difference, and if she isn't, she'll understand.
Love and relationships are about so much more than sex. It's just the icing on the cake.
Regardless of how long it lasts....cuddle with her afterwards, hold her, talk if she wants to. Just be there with her, instead of rolling over and falling asleep as soon as you're done. That'll mean so much more to her than the length of the act.
2006-07-21 13:18:49 · answer #4 · answered by jimmy h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound stressed...and you should not be.
First of all, don't follow the advice to take Viagra or any other "enhancing" pill. Instead, do 2 things:
Whenever you feel that it will come, pull out and stop before continuing
If you think that you didn't do a good job for her, go about oral sex(the advice to watch a porno movie really is not so bad. Watch it together with your bride)
Lastly, talk to your bride. A lot of people do try to avoid the issues of sex in their list of expectations, but that one is more important than people like to admit. Both of you are probably nervous about this, so both of you should be able to talk about it to avoid disappointment.
What's also important is that you guys talk about babies, because the myth that a woman cannot get pregnant at her first time is absolutely NOT true--so you should adress that issue as well, and talk about contraceptives or other means of birth control. Good luck
2006-07-21 13:22:56 · answer #5 · answered by What Will The Spill Kill? 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I read a lot of advice here from porn to pills. You are young I assume and here's what I did long ago. When I was about to go I would always slow down and look in her eyes if I was in that position and think I want you satisfied and what I thought of was standing in a stream fishing and about the 2nd time it worked, what I mean is find something to think of that relaxes you and as you are more with her you will see and know when it's time for you to go in unison, which is the best climax ever. For me I always let her go at least 3-4 times before I did. Mind over matter..
2006-07-21 13:50:05 · answer #6 · answered by AJ 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Eat pu.ssy and let her *** first . Se will be a little sensitive down there .so give her a little rest . Some women wont kiss you after pleasuring them . so go brush ur teeth , gargle , toilet blah blah go back in start again kissing her again after a 5-10 mins start fondling her love clam work her up again, when she starts smokin make ur move , remember its not a race , and remember to breathe , slowly penetrate and work it hopefully you have pre heated the oven long enough for to *** close enough to you or even with you NUMBER 1 RULE : Dont stress , relax and enjoy . And if this all fails then to the chemist for some VIAGRA . It wont let you down ;)
2006-07-21 13:31:56 · answer #7 · answered by tucksta_73 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep on going until she is pleased. You will enjoy more than one orgasm.
I wouldn't worry too much about this. The first time may be somewhat "new" for both of you. I'm sure the two of you will learn what each other enjoys and feel more comfortable with each other as time passes. The first time may be a little inhibiting for both of you.
Loving each other and respecting each other is what is important.
Keep your sense of humor. My husband and I didn't do so good our first time but we have a great sex life and have had one for the past 30 years.
2006-07-21 13:20:24 · answer #8 · answered by mothertime2001 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wait and then you do well by the On the Job training during your honeymoon.
You can always do more if you feel the first time was not long enough.
You wife will also appreciate if you ask her how she feels as you go along.
Women want their opinions to matter to you as much as your own do.
Have a blessed marriage.
2006-07-21 13:15:41 · answer #9 · answered by doodad 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
STOP stressing...I know it's tough, but stress in itself can cause you to have problems...
Next, realize that if you do ejaculate quickly, it's okay...you can always do it again when you 'recharge'
And third, I don't think she'll be all that worried about how quickly you get off, especially if she's a virgin too...y'all will be learning a lot about each other at that point and there are MANY ways to enjoy your partner's body without penetration occuring...
Enjoy!
2006-07-21 13:15:03 · answer #10 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think lazwatson's advice was the best. I'm sure that if you're a virgin, you did it because of morals and religious beliefs, so why would he be watching porn? C'mon now guys.
I'm sure you'll do fine.. you shouldn't worry about that. Like some other's said, love is patient, caring, and understanding. You both have your whole lives to improve your sexual experience. Tell her your concerns, and she should also share hers with you. You'll be fine! :P
2006-07-21 13:21:05 · answer #11 · answered by Mizzy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋