my mom is sick she has cancer what should i do?

Question

i love my mom i have 2 sisters and i am only in the 8th grade my dad is always @ work and never has time 4 me or my sisters what will i do if my dies she just found out that she cancer i aam so scared

Answer 1

I feel your sorrow, and the fears of what is ahead for you and your family.
Pray to god, ask, don't demand. He will answer your prayers, maybe not the way you want. You say she is dieing, maybe he will take her sooner, so she doesn't suffer. Maybe he will put her cancer into remission, so she may live longer cancer free.

Answer 2

There are many, many Cancer Survivors out there these days - please don't think the worst, think the best.

There is a wonderful book out by Louise Hay, called You Can Heal Your Life. i have seen this book help many people - and it could help you as well as your mom. It talks about the emotional and mental causes of disease and illness and it can help you correct it from that perspective. Similar to the guy who cured himself of cancer by watching comedy movies and laughing non stop for a whole month - happiness, peace and laughter are powerful, just like greed, resentment, hate and guilt.

I can also say that as a child, you need to be prepared for the fact that there is simply nothing you can do. Parent seldom take advise from their children and at your age, there may not be much that you can do besides praying and visualizing. I believe very strongly in visualizing and it is quick and easy to do.

Sit or lay quietly and get a picture in your mind of you mom. Imagine her happy - smiling and laughing - really at ease and at peace. Imagine her with your dad and them being close, loving and happy. Then Imagine each of your sisters, yourself and the whole group together and complete. The more vividly you can see this stuff the better and the more often you do it the faster the results. I would spend 3-5 minutes at least 2 or 3 times a day (at bedtime, when you wake up and while you are in the shower, say). You all will be feeling better in no time and at least able to deal with the situation better - though some would say the entire healing process could be handled this way.

Peace!

Answer 3

Just be there for your mum. Be helpful around the house and try to stay out of trouble. Don't be too hard on your Dad. Someone has to keep earning money to keep the family afloat and I'm sure he is struggling with the news too. Try not to be scared, but I know it is a very hard situation. Make a time that you can sit down with your Mum and ask her all the questions that you have. It might make it seem less scary if you have all the correct facts, rather than letting your imagination run wild. Lots of people make it through cancer treatment and lead full lives. There are also support groups for young people with family members that have cancer so check what is available in your area. Tell your Mum that you love her, and often. Pray if it makes you feel better and I wish you the strength to get through this tough time. Good luck to you and your family.

Answer 4

Give her lots of support and love, and the most important, make sure that she is following the doctor's advice, I mean, that she is taking her medicine or whatever she needs to fight against that desease. There are a lot of people who have had cancer and have overcame it. Have faith that yout mom can recover from Cancer, and you just need to be positive and patient.
Talk to your father and tell her how you feel, because it doesn't help that he doesn't take care of you, oyur sisters, and your mom.
Maybe ,she will not recover her healt, but you don't know that untill, she had done everything to do it. At least if she dies you will feel in peace that you helped her all what you could. I hope everything get well with you and your family.

Answer 5

This is tough at any age, but certainly harder before you've come into your
own.

It depends on what kind of cancer (how hard it is to beat, how long it
takes, etc.). Most cancer patients, after they have been fighting it for
awhile are desperate for something *NORMAL*. They don't want to talk
about chemo - they don't want to talk about side effects, etc.

So, be normal.

I'm not saying that you should deny it is happening - don't. That will
make her (and you) feel weirder.

However, it doesn't need to be the first thing on everybody's mind all the
time. Be a kid. She needs a kid just as much as she needs someone
to lean on.

You can be both.

By the way, everybody knows what cancer is and how awful it can be.
You'll get lots of help.

However, it isn't always that awful - it depends on what it is and when
it was caught. Do not assume the worst: That doesn't help and there
is no point in needlessly putting yourself through that.

Good luck - to you and your mother.

Answer 6

Be there for her. Make her as comfortable as possible. Depending on what type of cancer she has, she may be with you a long time. There are so many fantastic new treatments out there! My friend's Mom just passed away a couple of weeks ago, but she was diagnosed with cancer MORE THAN TWENTY YEARS AGO. So make sure you are there for your Mom. Tell her what she means to you. Read to her her favorite books, bring her breakfast in bed, pray and hope and help her FIGHT THIS. Think positive!

Your Dad is probably throwing himself into work to try to take his mind off the cancer. Don't be afraid to just hug him when you see him to remind him you're there and that you love him.

Answer 7

I'm so terribly sorry about your mother. Just because your mother has cancer, it doesn't mean it's a death sentence for her, there are so many operations and medications, that are helping cancer victims, to live a longer and healthier life. As far as your father goes, sit down and talk with him, tell him your fears and your concerns about him working so much. You and your sisters, have to be strong for your mother and each other. Surround your mother with lots of love and positive energy, she'll need it. Prayer is wonderful, talk to God, he's just a prayer away. I will pray for you and your family as well. God Bless You All. You are a very very brave 8th grader and your parents and siblings are so lucky, to have you, as a sister/daughter.

Answer 8

I am so sorry! This happened to my mum. It is a shock, but there are lots of things you can all do to deal with this disease. Please remember that there are lots of kinds of cancers, and several can be treated successfully, especially if they are found early enough. So keep that in mind.

Your mum will need you to help her out a bit - so do little things around the house, help with dishes, laundry, and help your sisters, as best you can so that your mum can focus on her treatment. It will be important that your dad helps her, so I hope he starts paying attention. Spend time with her and try to be there for her -- keep her company and talk to her -- but most important let her talk to you and listen to her. That will be a big help for her.

Maybe after your mum's treatments and medicines have started, you might ask her (if you want to) to ask her doctor about local groups for family and children of people with cancer. Sometimes talking to other people your age who also have parents in the same situation helps. Good luck, I hope your mum gets better.

Answer 9

I am really sorry to learn about the situation you are in...but this is the time to be brave and courageous, young lady...as like all posters I suggest you try to make life for ur Mom as much as comfortable as it can be. She's still there...spend ur time around and with her as much as you can and show her that you are there to take care of things (esp. in house), make her feel proud of you, and do everything possible within ur means to make her happy (even if sometimes sacrificing ur own desires) and just remember:

Tough times never last, tough people do....

and you are one tough gal!

Also, always hope for the best and be prepared for the worst...don't worry whats gonna happen, whatever is to happen, it will...there's no use fretting over something that you can't control...just do your duty to the best of ur abilities and things will take care of themselves...

With warm regards to you and ur family!

Answer 10

I know alot of people who have gotten cancer and are ok now. My mom's cousin had cancer and the doctors were almost positive that she was going to die, but several months later they told her that she would be fine, and she has been feeling GREAT since. So don't keep dwelling on the fact that she might die. I mean the odds of that aren't that high so don't worry about that. Just keep praying for her. God will help you and your family.

Answer 11

It's OK to be scared.

You also sound as though you have alot of deep emotional strength. Reach for it and don't let go.

Try to be strong for you Mom -- she needs it.

Hopefully, medical science will cure her.

Speak to a counselor at school. He/She will certainly be a source of help.

Your Dad probably loves you very much, and no matter what happens with your Mom, he'll be there for you.

You really should contact Cancer Care (http://www.cancercare.org, 1-800-813-HOPE) and the American Cancer Society (http://www.cancer.org, 1-800-ACS-2345). They both are set up to speak with people just like you, and will definitely help you.

My heart and prayers are with you.