Everyone keeps trying to get me to hang out but I feel like I can't. I will just be in a bad mood and I want to be alone but I heard that's worse. Any one experience this?
2006-07-21 12:53:41 · 14 answers · asked by favteacher 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You all really understand and are helping. Thank you!
2006-07-21 13:06:54 · update #1
I am going through this now.
You want your alone time. Time to think things out. You are hurting. Your friends/family should understand you want time away.
Everyone goes through this.
IT isn't worse to be by yourself, but you also need to go out and experience new things also. Meet new people.
Do what your heart and brain tell you to. When you are ready...hang out again.
feel better:)
2006-07-21 12:57:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is "okay" to want to be alone - to reflect and think. To cry. It is okay. IF however, you find yourself become recluse to everything around you - that is not good and I would suggest you seek counseling.
When everyone keeps trying to get you to hang out - simply state that you appreciate them asking you but at the moment you are needing time alone, but be sure to ask me the next time.
In time you will be okay... just don't dwell on it and make it the focus. Rather learn from it, and move on in a healthy way and prespective.
Good Luck.
2006-07-21 19:58:44 · answer #2 · answered by 'Barn 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't be alone. You need to hang out with a good friend for awhile. My last break-up I had to stay over at my best friend's apartment for a week before I was OK with being alone again. It's rough, but you'll be OK. Let your friends be there for you and help you out during this trying time.
Best of luck to you.
2006-07-21 19:57:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
from my experience its the best time you can ever give yourself.....alone time. as much as the body needs time to heal so does the mind and heart. you need to reflect, to understand yourself and that cant be done unless you are alone so that you are able to move forward without any issues from the past!!have a healthy relationship wit yourself .hanging out after such an experience is like coming from work and hanging your dirty clothes in the closet only to wear them again the next day.so take time out and do some laundry!!!
2006-07-21 20:03:13 · answer #4 · answered by bravo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my experience the best thing was to be alone. My friends did try pushing me to go out but I needed to find the real me again. You need the time to be alone to know that you can make it alone and don't need another person in your life to make you whole. Take the time to find you, and mourn the loss.
2006-07-21 20:02:35 · answer #5 · answered by Boxcars 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think being alone lets you dwell on the situation. I know what you mean though, about feeling like you can't be around people, but as soon as you can you should try to get out there. I don't mean to find someone new, but to try to get your mind off the situation.
2006-07-21 19:57:58 · answer #6 · answered by tsopolly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being alone will definitely lengthen the getting-over-it period by 3 or 4 times.
2006-07-21 19:56:53 · answer #7 · answered by djprall 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not only okay to be alone, but it is probably best. You will want to start socializing again soon enough. Right now is a great time to learn to like being with yourself. Don't mope--explore your interests.
2006-07-21 20:02:31 · answer #8 · answered by Honest Abe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely. All of us go through different stages at different paces when we are in a breakup. Let nobody force you to go out when you don't feel doing it. Mingle at your own time. It's best that you have your own quiet solitude, cry, get angry and then finally, get it over.
2006-07-21 20:00:35 · answer #9 · answered by Busy Diyosa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how strong you are as in individual. If you are not going to contemplate suicide, sure it's okay to be alone. Find things to keep you mind occupied like reading, writing or meditating.
2006-07-21 19:57:30 · answer #10 · answered by Dancer3d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋