Are you in a loveless marriage? I don't even like my husband.?

Question

He didn't used to be gross. Now I can't stand for him to touch me. I'm to old to get another divorce. I am not attracted to him at all. I am 46 years old. Been divorced once already.

My family thinks divorce is a terrible thing. Please only marry for Love.

Answer 1

sunny, i feel for you, but somtimes marriages happen and fall and im of the same mind as your family. marriage is forever if you make a promise do you....A: forget about the promise and move on and possibly promise someone somthing? ...B: realize you may have made a mistake but honor your promise and feel sad every morning and evening...... or C: honor your marriage and the promise you made in front of god and family. assess your situation come to the conclusion you have a lemon for a marriage, but being a smart woman you know how to make lemonade. a marriage counselor said once if you find a reason to try and love someone and you really pretend like you love them, one day you will wake up in love with that person. granted its like giving yourself a shot or drinking nasty tasting meds or even just getting the energy to exercise, you really have to commit to doing it and live the way you plann it. as far as him being gross you can delicately talk with him ( dont damage is ego ) the more you communicate the better as you already know but my mother always told me a wise woman can control and get a man to do anything if she knows how to cator his ego and lead with out being detected as a leader. sunny im sorry i cant agree with some of these people saying just throw away your marriage. i do agree marriages are for life and and you reap what you sow in a marriage good luck.



OMG. JUST READ THE OTHER ANSWERS, YOU PEOPLE SHOULD BE ASHAMED OF YOURSELF "FEEL " SEEMD TO BE THE COMMAN DENOMINATOR. YOU ALL ARE VERY SAD YOU ALL CAN MAKE A PROMISE AND BRAKE IT BASED ON FEELINGS ,,,,, VERY SAD YOU PEOPLE THAT ARE MARRIED SHOULD REVIEW YOUR VOWS MOST OF US PROMISED TILL DEATH DO US PART , NOT TILL I FEEL LIKE

SAD VERY SAD.

sorry sunny but iam almost sickend by these people in here and had to use your question to bombard them

Answer 2

If you're not happy you should get a divorce. I'm 46 and don't consider myself old at all. I was married for 20 years and my kids are now 22 and 20 and I'm doing the things that I want to do. Age is just a number and 46 isn't a big number at that. Get out, be happy and enjoy life.

Answer 3

I totally see where you are coming from. Something happened a few yrs ago and I had to take pain killers. My husband thought this meant he could have sexual relations with me when ever he decided because hey i couldnt remember anyhow. I was feeling so disgusted and finally i had enough and said if you touch me one more time while im knocked out i will personally call the police and file rape charges on you. And if your thinking yes I most certainly can because you did not have my permission. To this day i dont think i am attracted to my husband for that reason. I do not know if I can get a divorce just for being unhappy ect because I am a christian and not sure if the church will accept it or not.
You have to outweigh the good versus the bad.

Answer 4

Who told you that you are too old to get divorced. There is no age requirements. Honey, do you and your a husband a favor- file. Some other woman might think he is gross, and you can a man that turns you on instead of running to the bathroom to be sick. It's not fair to either one of you to be unhappy. So, start over again, you did it once, you certainly can do it again. Besides, I am 44 and I am going to try it. So, I have been with one man all my adult life, 27 years, now tell me that won't be fun to watch. If I can brave it you certainly can. So your family doesn't like divorce, I don't either, as you can tell by the length, but life is not meant to be lived unhappy. So, go through it again, and your family loves you and should be accepting of your decision. Mine when they get over the shock, proably will say about darn time. lol......I am sorry, but I just lost a friend today, and she told me that she wanted to see me smile again. I will be soon, and I hope you will be too! God bless....

Answer 5

I did not know that there were age limits on getting divorced! Seriously, just ask yourself if you are willing to live unhappily for the rest of your life. If the answer is no, then get out. Don't stay out of fear of being alone. Have you been to any counseling? It may be just what you need. Does he know you feel this way? How does he feel about you? Sounds like there is a breakdown in communication somewhere. I am divorced, and it isn't easy, but I'm better off.

Answer 6

Since when is there an age limit on divorce? If you are not happy then why stay? You'd likely be happier as a single, than with someone and miserable...

Ya can't complain if you choose to stay in the situation, when it's within your power to do something different...you my dear, are "settling"...it's a waste of your life and not fair to him either...if y'all were apart, even if you didn't desire to get involved with someone else again, he would have the opportunity to meet someone who might not find him gross...

Do both of you a favor and reconsider your stand on this issue...

Answer 7

you are never too old for divorce, but i understand what you mean. you really don't feel like all the crap that is involved with divorce. it decimates a persons life and it sounds like to me that you are feeling really, really tired in a depressed sort of way. divorce is not something you need to tackle right now because being single isn't something you are ready for at the moment. when being single is something you are ready for, then get a divorce. there is one other alternative sort of, it isn't uncommon for folks that are married to want to be not divorced, but not really married either, it's called having a room mate. it's comfortable as long as the two of you get along, and easily changed when and if you want to be single and date.

Answer 8

Create a happy environment on your husband. somewhat refuse to entertain frustration, anger, resentment, etc. get lower back to remembering once you all have been happy, incredibly for the duration of the initiating of your relationship. Take a play from that play e book and start to rebuild your loving relationship, one step at a time. Get your self a interest, some thing you savor doing. additionally, investigate what he likes to do as properly and heavily see in case you're able to be an ingredient to that. careful in spite of the indisputable fact that, do no longer make him sense such as you're crowding him. do no longer advance unsightly issues - those issues that make you cranky and loopy. discover helpful counsel on the thank you to have interplay your husband on his point of convenience. Take it sluggish and be style, thoughtful, loving and complimentary on your husband. sit down on a daily basis and write out what made you fall in love with him interior the 1st place. Then, share with him those concepts at particularly some cases. turn this coin from the nagging, loopy, hopeless one which you're finding at now to the different component of helpful love, compliments, gentle-heart, smiles, and dedication to creating issues greater effective on your place. in case you rather need it to get greater effective, you will first could desire to act like it somewhat is already greater effective.

Answer 9

But if you are not happy then you shouldn't be with him. I'm sure he wouldn't want you to be if you didn't want to be. Is this something that you think you can work out by talking? I'm sure it does get difficult to be in a marriage that can get routine and you have to decide if you are interested in fighting for the marriage because you want to be there and no other reason or if you know that its best you move on.

Answer 10

give it a chance surely you loved him once. tell him how you feel and spend some time together, away. see if you cant find that love again. if you really dont want to or that doesnt work, its not fair on you or him to be in a loveless marriage. you only live once and your not too old. you dont need to meet someone else, cant you be happy on your own.