How do i ask my mom to let me go see....?

Question

I want to go see a bunch of friends that are at a fair about 60 miles away from me but my mom might think that i'm just going to see a guy friend of mine though. i need help on deciding on how i'm gonna ask her if i can go. i don't really think that she'll say no...i'm just worried about all of the question i'm gonna get when i ask.....so how should i ask?

she knows who alls gonna be there....shes met all of them...she doesn't have any reason not to trust me... and i've had my license for a week and i've drove alot of places by myself already most like 45 miles away....and i don't have a problem driving at night....i was planning on telling her that i'd call as soon as i got to the fairgrounds there. and before i left.......

i've known most of these people for years, ive even worked with about 90% of the people i'm goin to see....mom has met them all, dad is not even here and probably wont even know about it till next week when he comes home. mom wont go because she doesn't like hanging around there for a long time...

Answer 1

Just tell her the truth. If she still doesn't trust you, I'd say you have some work on your hands. Does she have reason to distrust you?

Answer 2

If you really want to go, try this approach:

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Mom, there is a fair in X-town where some of my friends will be on Friday night. Do you want to go with me so you can meet some of them and then you can go get a funnel cake? ::wink here:: And, I promise I won't tell Dad about the funnel cake.
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I assume your friends are from an online community such as MySpace, and your mother has never met them. Using this approach lets your mother know that YOU care about your own safety. It affords her the opportunity to go with you, meet the friends, and then gives her a great excuse to leave you to hang out with your friends.

Now, if you really are going to meet a boy, approach it the same way except say it is a boy. If you want to make big-time brownie points, use a similar approach on your dad.

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Dad, there is a fair in X-town where this guy I've been talking to will be on Friday night. Will you (and Mom) take me so we can meet him? Maybe you (and Mom) can ride the Ferris wheel at the same time as Boy and I.
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With that approach, you give your Dad the comfort of knowing he can still protect his little girl. More importantly, you put the boy on notice that he better put on some deodorant before he goes to the fair. :) If Mom goes too, the two of them can share a romantic ride through the haunted house.

With the many dangers in the world today, more kids need to involve their parents in their online lives. This is most important when you go to meet someone you met online. This advice is great for kids ranging in age from 0 to 199: NEVER go meet someone without having a safety plan in place. Tell at least two people (or your parents) where you plan to go, whom you plan to meet, establish a “panic-time,” and a plan to get help. The “panic-time” is a specific time by which you must alert your friends that you have returned safely, or that things are going OK. If your friends have not heard from you, they try to contact you to make sure you are safe. Set enough check-in times to ensure your safety throughout the meeting. Should your friends fail to establish that all is OK with you, they begin notifying your parents, the police, or someone else that can help you. Do not hide the plan from the person you plan to meet, let them know that you have established times to call. Since the person knows of your plan, they should have no problem with you making a few short calls during your visit.


Good luck!

Will D
Enterprise AL

P.S. Can you bring me a caramel apple when you head home? : )

Answer 3

First of all she is probably worried about your safety and you should think about that too. So many things happen to young girls these days. Tell her everyone you know that is going. And exactly where it will be and what it is. Get info to her about it.
And tell her if there will be adults there. Get the phone numbers and have her talk to the other kids parents who will be there if any.
Be honest. It's a real world out there.

Answer 4

Just ask and then you will know. Come right out with it, and be honest. If she says no, then, respect her answer. She has her reasons as a mother. And be glad you have a mother who cares enough to ask lots of questions about where you are going and what you will be doing. Too many parents these days don't ask enough questions

Answer 5

You could call your friends and let your mom talk to them to make sure that you'll be with them instead of some guy. If that doesn't work, then I'm not sure what will. Why would you mother distrust you so?

Answer 6

Don't be sneaky about it and don't lie to her and she won't suspect a thing. She is going to ask questions. It's her job to protect you. Just tell her the truth. If you are honest with her you will earn her trust.

Answer 7

just explain and ask her and tell her if she dosent believe you have her call 1 of ur friends that she trusts have your mom tell her to make sure u dont go with any boys

Answer 8

mom I want to go to thie thing like 60 miles away to see (list all the friends ganna be there) so can I go?

Answer 9

Give her every detail and like say you can call me on my phone or my friends phone or her moms phone, and just make it completely believable

Answer 10

be honorness and have some one with you a girl friend.with both of you saiding the same thing she will let you go maybe you have give your promblem to her.