I have told my friend that he needs to stop doing this and I am not going to have sex with him. I have not seen him in a long time and he wants to see me. I am kind of wondering if I should just keep it at a talking level from now on or just not talk to him at all.
He constantly asks me if I am a virgin, and I tell him yes each time because I am. I really do not see the purpose of that question. He'll just out of the blue tell me he is jacking off on the phone, he is always asking to have sex with me, and I tell him no, not until I marry, and he always says he is going to marry me. He is also going to Turkey to see his family and wants me to come with him, I told him no, and he got very mad. The only thing I do is tell him he is very handsome, nothing else, so I do not know where in the world he is seeing the oppurtunity to have sex with me. Usually at the day time we would talk about other things, but when it is late, it's just sex, sex, sex, sex. He is very demanding and horny.
2006-07-21 11:39:53 · 14 answers · asked by uglyvanity 3 in Social Science ➔ Sociology
He's asked to be with me plenty of times and I turn down the oppurtunity because I know he cannot be trusted. It is just something very weird about him.
2006-07-21 11:40:47 · update #1
He sounds like a stalker. I would start distancing myself slowly. Fade out of touch a lot while he is in Turkey and only see him in groups of people (go with friends you trust) and don't let him drive. Limit how many times you talk to him and when he says inappropriate things tell him it upsets you. The virginity thing is inappropriate. Don't be too harsh breaking it off with him. It may upset him enough to do scary things.
Stay safe and good luck!
2006-07-21 12:34:52 · answer #1 · answered by az 5 · 3⤊ 2⤋
I wouldnt atart off saying hes a rapist. I have no idea if he is, but he definately has a fetish for virgins. A lot of guys are turned on by the idea of being the first for a woman. Its almost a challenge for them. If you know that you cant trust him i would just stop talking to him. Because you are a challenge that he cannot refuse and he is not going to stop pushing the subject. And if he is that horny, he might just be telling you he'll marry you to get in your pants. Stop talking to him, obviously he has no manners and no respecct for you. Find a real gentlemen.
2006-07-21 18:47:00 · answer #2 · answered by ~*RazzleDazzle*~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He MAY BE. If he has not done it yet with opportunity, I doubt that he would. Watch you back, Jack.
I have had a number of female friends who married Islamic men and were later VERY DISSATISFIED. It seems that they started out abusive and went really far downhill from there. Men in the Middle East often treat women like PROPERTY instead of EQUALS, and that is a shame for many women who deserve better treatment.
You should look for a man as a friend or a companion who treats you better than that. You sound like a very sweet girl, and I would hate to see you get hurt.
Some guys are just pushy, and they know that women will often eventually give in to preassure. I think that if a particular woman does not want to date you, you should just wait it out or find one that does.
Given his behavior, I doubt that he WOULD MARRY YOU or that you WOULD BE HAPPY. Good luck.
2006-07-21 18:47:24 · answer #3 · answered by Sparky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like he is more dangerous than a rapist. Do not under any circumstances go out with him. Tell him to leave you alone or put a restraining order because this guy is somehow forcing his way into your life.
2006-07-21 19:07:45 · answer #4 · answered by Art The Wise 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He isn't rapist material, you are a tease to him. He is from Turkey so there are cultural differences, and no matter what he says you keep talking to him and telling him he is good looking. He is just persistent. If it makes you uncomfortable stop talking to him.
2006-07-21 23:40:17 · answer #5 · answered by King Midas 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you do not trust him DO NOT hand around him anymore. Your mind is trying to tell you something here. I would check out www.familywatchdog.us and do a little research.
Also, if you live in an open records state you can check him out by going to the circuit court website for your state and perform a case search by using his name.
2006-07-21 20:05:21 · answer #6 · answered by seven 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you have had sex with someone else. See if he will stay away then. Or don't talk to him at all. Stay away from him. If he won't stay away from you, talk to the police. Watch the movie "Not Without My Daughter". That alone will make you stay far, far away! He sounds dangerous.
2006-07-21 19:23:41 · answer #7 · answered by ANGELa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if he's the type who would resort to force because I really don't know him myself. He could just be some horny loser. But I would be careful just in case, and definitely tell someone because he's obviously harassing you.
2006-07-21 18:46:04 · answer #8 · answered by roninscribe80 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
avoid all contact with him don't talk to him and if he still insists on seeing you or talking with you even if you don't want anything to do with him goto the authorities and report him for harrassment charges.but yes he does sound like a rapist material.
2006-07-21 18:48:44 · answer #9 · answered by illprayforyou 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like harrassment. You probably ought to halt all contact with him, unless you want it to escalate. Perhaps a restraining order?
2006-07-21 18:44:04 · answer #10 · answered by All I Hear Is Blah Blah Blah... 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋