Okay I am 27 year old female. I like men. I have never acheived orgasm with a man. I can masturbate and have multiple orgasms. However it only feels good for a split second. I wonder if I am having a full orgasm. Also when a man performs oral it does nothing for me. Basically I have never had an orgasm with anyone but myself. What is wrong and how to fix it?
2006-07-21 11:39:27 · 11 answers · asked by Miriah 3 in Health ➔ Women's Health
I am 34 years old, I can relate. This is what I have learned.
Unless you have a G-Spot, you may never achieve vaginal orgasm. I would Google "G-spot", for instructions on where it is and how to locate it. This section of your vagina, when stimulated by penetration, is the source of the vaginal orgasm. Some women have a very sensitive G-spot that requires little effort to have an orgasm during intercourse. Other women can only have a vaginal orgasm with certian positions that stimulate the G-spot. Most women do not know they have one, or don't have one at all.
I have read that resistance to vaginal orgasm is also due to being tense. If you are self conscious about your body during sex, you will not be relaxed enough to have an orgasm, G-spot or not. I know this is not the factor with me, since my partner knows every part of my body, for me to be embarrassed about it any longer.
I had enlisted my boyfriend to help me find the G-spot, but realized that I did not have one. Frustrated, I even tried to search for it myself with my fingers, vibrator, all to no avail. I am one of the billions of women who can only have a clitoral orgasm.
Now, I do have orgasms from oral sex, and this is only when my partner licks me a certain way. He did not know how, or where to do this, until I taught him how. I had to tell him where, how fast, how slow, the pressure of his tongue, and so forth until he got it right. I taught him every time we had sex, until he could do it right on his own.
Since my partner knows that I can not have vaginal orgasms, he stimulates my clitoris during vaginal sex with his fingers. This I also had to teach him to do as well. Most of the time we give each other oral before intercourse, which satisfies me anyway.
You CAN orgasm, but it sounds like you haven't been able to teach your partner to give you orgasms like you are able to. I found out that clitoral orgasms by my partner are much more intense than the ones I achieve on my own. You might have a G-spot, but you have to locate it, and then decide what positions can help your partner stimulate it during intercourse.
Good luck.
2006-07-21 12:20:10 · answer #1 · answered by Tala 3 · 5⤊ 1⤋
Nothing is wrong with you sweetie. Some women go their entire life an never have a vaginal orgasm. One day you may meet the right man to send you off the deep end. Even if you don't at least you can make yourself orgasm, there are some that can't even do or feel that!
2006-07-21 18:44:52 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does it feel good when you are pleasuring yourself? That's what counts.
That you fail to orgasm when your partner makes love to you may mean that you have inhibitions as another answerer suggested---or (more likely) it may mean his technique with you falls short of the technique you have for yourself.
Show him what you do with yourself. If he knows what to do, then that will help.
And there is no difference between a so-called clitoral orgasm and a so-called vaginal orgasm. The same muscles go into spasm either way.
2006-07-21 19:04:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should quit masturbating for a while. That way you would be more into having an orgasm with a guy.
2006-07-21 18:45:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its normal some women just cant get off on penatration alone try rubbing you clit while hes on top let him see what your doing it'll drive him wild guys love to see a girl masterbate and that should bring you to climax have fun with it good luck and i not shure your having multipul orgasms sounds like your almost having one but not quite a orgasm last for a few seconds anyway and you body feels relaxed afterwards
2006-07-21 19:39:56 · answer #5 · answered by justwondering 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
with women these things are wierd.if they do not feel completly relaxed with a man or feel good about them selves or thier bodies then sometimes they cant. If a man does oral and it does nothing then maybe you just dont like it or your not as sensitve as others. like i said examine all phsycological aspects. think hard.it might be somehting small and dumb
2006-07-21 18:45:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
See a doctor it may be that the hood that covers your clitoris covers to much. A simple office procedure will take care of the problem
2006-07-21 18:43:39 · answer #7 · answered by bramblerock 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This sounds psychological. It may be that you're still overcoming some degree of shyness.
2006-07-21 18:42:43 · answer #8 · answered by practical thinking 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what u need to is just don't think about it and let him do u really fast and hard
2006-07-21 18:49:18 · answer #9 · answered by Martin C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you dont feel aroused around people but urself
2006-07-21 18:42:30 · answer #10 · answered by Answerer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋