I've lived with him for 4 years!!!
He's 35 and I've asked him many times
and he can't answer me. I am attractive and young. When I want to leave... he tells me he loves me and he wants to get married and he cant picture his life with out me!!! He's a very nice person, but no SEX!!! Is driving me crazy. The worst part I dont know what it could be?
2006-07-21 11:37:41 · 30 answers · asked by valenz146 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The big question here is WHY HAVE YOU STAYED there for so long???????????????
It is also crazy that he won't give you an ansswer.
I imagine he doesn't have sex with you becasue he is impotent (but there are pills for that)
He feels quiltry becasue he is religious and wants to be married before having sex.
He maybe doesn't like sex but likes having you around.
If you want to move then JUST move out. Don't let hs sob story
control you. YOU make your own decisions. If you are staying becasue he can't see his future without you and you stay for that.......geesh you are a push over. YOu need to stay becasue YOU can't imaging life without him. You need to stand up for what you need.
What concerns me here is the lack of communication for four years. I think it insane that the two of you live under the same roof and can't discuss this lack of sex subject. I fear that if you marry him you will have a lifetime of him never knowing why he does things. The communication between you will be nill.
Do you want kids? How will that happen? Will you get so needy for sex that you will cheat on him.
SEx is a big part of a relationship. Why have you given this relationship 4 years???? It doesn't make sense at all.
And if you think that marriage will change it. The chances are pretty much Zero Infact whatever is bad in before a marriage is worse after it.
Get some help and if the guy is stuck, then more on.
2006-07-21 11:51:33 · answer #1 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he affectionate and loving in other ways? Do you guys kiss and "make out"? Is he abstaining from the act because of religious reasons? You have been living together for a long time, why haven't the two of you gotten married? Anyway, if you are truly concerned, and I can tell that you are, and that you are not only frustrated, but hurting as well. You obviously love this man or you would not be with him still. I would suggest talking to him about it. Ask him to please be honest, and if he will talk to you I would highly recommend some counseling. If you can get some through your local church, do that. If you have insurance see someone professionally. Talk to some other people you know for a recommendation. A mental health counselor/marriage and relationships counselor can help you and your partner get through this. If he won't go, go yourself, counseling helps and it gives you a different perspective from someone not so close to the situation. A family member you trust could also be helpful. I wish you the best.
2006-07-21 11:45:22 · answer #2 · answered by sleepless in the ATL 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how old are you? Is it possible that you are under 18? Then it would be a crime for him to have sex with you. Because it is a crime (at least as far as I know) for a grown ups to have sex with minors. Or maybe he wants to wait until you are married. Talk to him, if you two have lived together for so long, you should trust each other enough to be able to talk about things like this. If not, then maybe he has some other issue and isn't worth the trouble.
2006-07-21 11:43:15 · answer #3 · answered by Lizzy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He could just be waiting but 4 years is a long time to be with someone. He might be taking advantage of you being there with him. Leave and see what he does. Then move on and find someone who can be a better man for you. Good luck.
2006-07-21 12:29:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may not be tellling everything. Do you have AIDS. Trust me, i dont want to lay down wit ya if ya have AIDS. LOL. Some people do not want prematial sex. which is good bc we are not suppose to have sex until we are married. Do you think he has two sex organs or was born as a woman? Or is he embarrased he has a small penis. You need to check it out when he is sleep. Bsides, you luv him, why not marry him? If you marry him, he may give you some.
2006-07-21 11:49:10 · answer #5 · answered by Hope 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gay or he can't get it up.
One day just do it..force him...and "see" the truth for yourself.
Wow, I thought I would never hear this, a guy driving a girl crazy by not having sex with her. I love Yahoo Answers!
I think I am addicted to it.
2006-07-21 11:41:28 · answer #6 · answered by The Prince 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am 35 year old married to my wife and I do give my wife alot of intercourse and becasue I love her and I can't image my life with out her and I have 2 childrend and I really glad that i am not like him...
don't get married and don't waste your time with him and you can find someone better than him becasue i know that fact there a guy like me out there... so take my word and go do what best for you and find someone that really love giving you intercorse and If i met you and i did intercourse and eat you good and you will dump your boyfriend to be with me and you know what I mean you can find someone better. not good if he can't do it and he can find other girl just like his personlity and no plm.. with you too smile.
2006-07-21 12:00:18 · answer #7 · answered by greenbaypackers1920 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow OK so 4 years and no sex so 1-have you seen his medical charts?ask to2-has he ever had his almost gay moments?I'd watch out for those.and 3-stop asking get your self some hard core porn flicks some sexy new Leandra some vanilla scented candles, hand some hand cuffs.catch him of Gard when hes sleeping hand cuff him to to bed pop in the porn in the back ground light those candles turn of those light put on that sexy Leandra and hop aboard if this doesn't work for you it'll never happen.good luck
2006-07-21 11:47:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
how previous is he? does he desire to attend til he's married? does he like adult adult males (sorry to invite yet you by no skill be conscious of)? or have you ever gave him some head? if he's not a virgin do you think of he could have an std? ...walk around w/ a t-shirt and no panties on, if that dont make him wanna do it...threaten to bypass away him till he tells you why...
2016-12-10 11:51:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
get out. he problem has someone else, he not telling you about it. he said he love you and wants you to stay then he would have sex with you. he controlling. he want it both way. i wouldn't put up with it. you need to decide what you want. do you want to stay another 4 years, and get married to someone who don't want to have sex with you. this is not fare for you. you already wasted four years on someone. sex is part a relationship.
2006-07-21 11:46:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋