what should i do for a two-faced friend?

Question

Ok, so I have this two-faced friend. And i'm trying to help her nicely, with out hurting her feelings, by helping her figure out who she is, and be confident in who she is. But what i'm doing isn't helping all the way, so, does anyone have any ideas of what I should tell her, in advice, but not in a mean way, of just comnig out saying, 'your two-faced, and you need to figure out who you really are, and stick to it...not try to be like other people, and act different around them.'

Answer 1

I think you should be completely honest in a nice way. You don't have to be mean about it, but you shouldn't act like nothing is wrong. If this is a friend you care about, I would pull her aside and tell her exactly how she is behaving and how she makes others, including yourself, feel when she acts two-faced. She will never have true friends if she continues this behavior. Ask her why she acts this way.

Answer 2

Hi. If she is a two-faced person, how do you know that she is not doing the same thing to you. Next time she says something, ask her why she said what she did, when she knows that it's not the truth. No one can figure out who some one else is but that person. Also, what if your friend is not willing to change? Even though she is wrong in what she is doing by not being honest with other people, she may be okay with that and herself. Hon, you can't change another person no matter how hard you try.

Answer 3

If I were you, I would dump her. You cant really use "two faced" and "friend" in the same sentence. Friendships arent supposed to be complicated and you shouldnt have to be putting up with stuff like that from friends. But if you do decide to keep her around, I would just be blunt and tell her how you feel. If she is a true friend she'll appreciate how you feel and you can move on. Good luck!

Answer 4

Just tell her that being one way one minute then another the next minute isn't right,,,She needs to figure out who she is because everyone is unique in their own way..Maybe she just changes to suit who she is around to please them..If so she needsto not do that and let people see her for who she is and not a two faced person. You can tell her whatever you want but she is going to have to be ther person who does the changing..

Answer 5

Tell her openly what you don't like about her, what she should change, how her behavior is making you and others feel... and leave it up to her if she wants to change, or not!
Maybe she is okay with herself as she is.
Who knows why she is doing that, maybe she was attacked by others several times and she is defending herself with her two-facedness... she is protecting herself from being exposed to more abuse! You can never know what lies behind that, unless you ask.
If you don't know exactly why she is doing it, you won't be able to help. Patience, good listening ears, love and care ... she will improve, for sure!

Answer 6

you know something sometimes it is not so bad to say the truth,sounds like you are good friends right? well friends depend on each others input on what they think they should and shouldn't do that's why we have friends .it might be hard to do but when you do ,do it you will feel 100% better believe me your friend is waiting for you to say something.

Answer 7

hmmm........ lets see...... well i guess the best way is to just tell her.... just be like "why do act different when other people are around?? why are you like that??? you know your kinda acting like a two face" and if she gets mad then try to control her or something... just dont tell it to her with an attitude just like a concern...

Answer 8

You really don't need a friend like that. I'd dump them and move on to a more stable person !!!