i really dont want to work shifts with her but sometimes i have to. I go home with headache after such a night. it is difficult to act normal after i heard what she has been saying about me behind my back. and i first thought we were getting along fine.
2006-07-21 11:25:57 · 18 answers · asked by femari 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Welcome to the work force - There is always one two faced person at work. I would make sure you never say anything to her that you don't want spread all over. The other thing to do is confront her by saying "I overheard you saying this about me" then see what happens. Some people are just that way and no matter what you do you are going to have to live with it.
2006-07-21 11:30:49 · answer #1 · answered by middle aged and love it 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Avoid talking about anything BUT work with this person! If they start telling you the latest gossip simply say I"M NOT INTERESTED or how would you feel if you found out what everyone was saying about you??? This person obviously has low self esteem and does this to pass the time. I work with all women and i know this story ALL TOO WELL. My boss is the same way. I went to her boss and explained I no longer wanted to work sundays because I didnt like the way she was acting. I told her myself too I didnt like the things that were being said and she stopped. you have to confront this person and I'm sure other co-workers feel the same as you!
2006-07-21 18:33:11 · answer #2 · answered by ChrissyLicious 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can be cordial and friendly but not friends. Shake it off. People who you would really want as friends don't listen to gossip anyway.
Should she start to share gossip with you about another co-worker, just very nicely say, "Man, I hope that isn't the kind of stuff you say behind my back. That wasn't very nice." And then walk away. She doesn't pay your rent. It's hard, but don't be afraid. Be nice and stand up for what you think is right, that's why you have a headache, not because of her but because you didn't stand up for what is right. Like more of us should.
Good thoughts.
2006-07-21 18:33:21 · answer #3 · answered by lor 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Always remember that you do not go to work to make friends. You go to work to earn a living and sometimes friendships happen along the way. Don't beat yourself up over it. Just scale back the amount of conversation you have with this person. Don't offer any personal information about yourself and soon she will have nothing to talk about where you are concerned.
2006-07-21 18:28:17 · answer #4 · answered by Meg...Out of Hybernation 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The next time someone tells you that this woman has said something behind your back, wait until the person who told you and this woman are together and then ask her about it. After you confront her a few times, she'll probably stop. Good luck and I hope the headaches stop.
2006-07-21 18:30:37 · answer #5 · answered by stseukn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well its called revenge honey and you will not be happy until you have had at least some.. i say never risk your job for some *** whole but find some information on her and make a whole bunch of fliers and post it all in the bathrooms and on the stalls. or do something like umm... make prank calls to her or something. i mean you have to fight back the best way you can... and when she looks all messd up about the information that leaked you be right there with her and try to comfort her and enjoy the fact that you just got sweet revenge
2006-07-21 18:29:21 · answer #6 · answered by gaurdianangelic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Confrontation is an art and I think you should use it! I know this situation and it is sticky you should ask her how she feels about people who stay stuff behind others backs and then is nice to their face.. or something similar I dunno but you shouldn't have to just deal with someone like that all the time!
2006-07-21 18:29:30 · answer #7 · answered by Cali girl 06! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What to do ? Blame yourself. People only abuse us if we allow them to do so . Break it off with her at any cost. IF YOU ARE TOLD YOU ARE TO WORK ALONG SIDE HER - " SO BE IT ". BUT take the UPPER HAND off of her NOW . She'll learn a valuable lesson at this stage of her life - I Had to work along Ars-HOLES , , but that doesn't mean you have to bow down to them .@-Faced people are better off not knowing what your business is about
2006-07-21 18:47:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
what can you do? confront her about it, or leave it alone and make sure she doesn't get to know anything about you. Some people are just really small minded, and have no life of their own, so they use yours, and it does catch up to them sooner or later. . invite her out to a big shindig in her honor that no one shows up for.
2006-07-21 18:30:48 · answer #9 · answered by Big hands Big feet 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your collegue is not a good person to hang out with just do your job and mind your own business and no trouble will be caused
2006-07-21 18:28:43 · answer #10 · answered by Answerer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋