My husband tells me I can talk to him but when I tell him what's on my mind he rolls his eyes and ignores me... what's up w/ that
2006-07-21 10:59:11 · 25 answers · asked by PRINCEZZ 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He needs to grow up--it's part of being in a relationship. Hold him accountable. Tell him how it makes you feel when he rolls his eyes. Tell him that sharing what you're thinking is an important part of the relationship for you, and if he expects to get his needs met that he needs to see to it that your needs are met. Some men are a little slow and you may have to point out that you have more than just needs in the bedroom.
Us guys may be a bit slow sometimes, but the majority of us really aren't stupid. We understand that we have responsibilities--we just might not be noticing that we're falling down on the job sometimes.
2006-07-21 11:08:02 · answer #1 · answered by Pepper 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry, what were you saying?
Okay, I'm kidding... here's the deal...
Men are taught (sometimes unconsciously) NOT to share their feelings. We are basically told from an early age that to demonstrate any emotions (other than, maybe anger or lust) is feminine, a "real" man shouldn't talk about his feelings, or even acknowledge them. Imagine a group of boys coming out of a movie theatre and one of them crying because of a sad movie they just saw.... now imagine that boy being ridiculed because of his emotional "outburst".
It's sad, but true, that we men have grown up to think that we can't discuss what's going on with us, so often when a woman wants to know what's on our mind, we're uncertain how to react.
The best thing to do is to just let him know that he can express any feeling he wants with you, love, fear, trepidation, anger, and you won't judge him on the emotion, but will try to help him figure it out for himself.
Good luck, I hope this helps.
2006-07-21 18:08:40 · answer #2 · answered by dark_knight92116 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's because we say to much and some men have short attention spans and after a few minutes they check out. Try practicing what you want to convey and keep losing extra words until you get down to the bare-bones and then tell him you want him undivided attention for _______minutes. Don't try to talk to him when you're out socializing or he's watching TV or you're in bed. Talk to him like he was a kid with ADD. LOL
2006-07-21 18:16:02 · answer #3 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well the bone truth of the matter is women spend way too long trying to say what they got to say. forget about the details, just state it very clearly and plainly without a lot of extra stuff. If we want details we'll ask for them.
good example.... two men are fishing. one guy says "i'm getting a divorce." the other says "ok. sucks to be you." we don't want to know who did what. that was enough for both men.
2006-07-21 18:13:27 · answer #4 · answered by dread pirate lavenderbeard 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men think everything women say is negative even if it is meant to make a relationship better. No talking allowed unless it pertains to having lots of sex! Ha!
2006-07-21 18:09:57 · answer #5 · answered by Melm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How are you approaching him. Are you telling him what's on your mind or are you giving him a piece of your mind. There's a difference. Remember, speak to him the way you would like to be spoken to.
2006-07-21 18:05:33 · answer #6 · answered by BluePassion 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good God, if you find the answer to that question, not only will you be a millionaire, but a hero to millions of women with husbands just like mine!!!
2006-07-21 18:05:21 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow, did he does that before you married or after? I think that it stupid for him to treat you like that an dI know that he never talk to you about himself.
I do listen to my wife, becasue i love her and I would want her to do the same for me. Few time we have plm like see I am deaf aand she is hearing, when I talk to her she move her head away from me when i talking to her... i stopped and she said keep talking I am listing you and I told her that don't like you notlooking at me when I am talking to you and so she learn how to look at me when I talk to her.
But tell your husband this:
Can I talk to you? if he said yes and talk to him and if he does that again tell him this. something wrong? why rolls your eyes and ingore me??? if he can't answer then just get up and said you know so nice of you to say yes then when I am talking you don't listen. I think that this not important to contuine to be married becasue you don't even care. I am not act like baby or *****, you just clearly showed to me so therefore I am ending this walk away and don't cry don't feel bad..
Watch your husband if he said fine so you know that is not really caring person. if he beg and i want to listen I am sorry and tell him before you talk and tell him that ok i want you to listen what I have to say and you know I would do the same. help me to solve this plm. You doing that becsaue so easy for you to do that and harder for me to get it out and open about it.
2006-07-21 19:16:13 · answer #8 · answered by greenbaypackers1920 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DAM don't you hate that, I have the same problem with my husband. But then again he gets mad when I talk forever with my sisters. But they listen to anything I have to say he dosen't
2006-07-21 18:17:27 · answer #9 · answered by yo_010180 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men are so busy with work that their minds work overtime and sometimes do not listen to their wifes,
2006-07-21 18:53:08 · answer #10 · answered by hrry_tws 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋