After just one year of marriage we have sex just sometimes...once a week or less!?

Question

I love sex but he always find something else to do. What does it means? Should I cheat?

Answer 1

Slip him viagra.

Seriously.

3 in his drink should do it.

Answer 2

No never cheat that should be the last thing in your mind. You are committed to this person for goodness and for bad and so on. Try doing something to spice things up a bit. Play around, set candles around your room. Be romantic sometimes us a women have to do the work. Me and my husband have been married 1 year and me and him have sex also maybe once or twice a week.

It's not because either of us is cheating on each other its just the fact that we are so occupied with our jobs, the baby and school. Maybe you can relate to the same thing.

My advice just play around or just spend some alone time with each other. Doesn't mean you have to be having sex all the time.

Answer 3

I know this is extremely frustrating for you seeing that you love sex. There is nothing worse than a man not wanting to do it with us when we are extremely horny and want to have sex. Lucky for me I have a man that is so sexual he would do it everyday of the year if he could. I don't think you need to go out and cheat first because you might do it and really regret it later on. The guilt would probably be too much for you, especially if you really didn't want to cheat in the first place. Sit down with your husband and talk with him. Let him know that you are really serious about this matter. I don't think you should mention that fact that you have been thinking about cheating because he might start to think you are cheating even if you hint at it. Tell him your sex life with him means a lot to the marriage. Let him know that a lot of marriages fail because of this. Money is the first factor with divorces, but sex comes in second. I usually don't hear woman saying this, it's usually the men that are complaining about the women that don't feel like having sex as much after marriage. Point this out to him and let him know that this could create a problem for you guys down the road. Make sure you tell him that you love him that's why your telling him. A man should always be in tune to his woman's needs even if he doesn't feel like it sometimes. If he doesn't stay on top of his responsibilities with this than another man could easily step in and take care of your needs. Go for what you want and I truly wish you the best where this is concerned!!!

Answer 4

It sounds like you have given it a though to cheat. I say, why cheat just end the marriage and begin a new if you are not happy. Cheating doesn't do anything but make it worst for the both of you.

Try spicing things up in the sex department. If that doesn't work, you need to have a sit down with your husband and express your concerns about the marriage.

Good Luck!

Answer 5

I do have a question for you, have you gained alot of weight since you got married, perhaps he is not as attracted to you as much now for that reason, although it really shouldn't matter if he truly loves you. Try adding some excitement when you two are having sex, talk dirty to your man, men love that. Sexy nightwear, silk rose petals on the bed, role playing, like you could be his nurse or a naughty school girl, I know this may sound weird to you, but guys like things that are visual and it excites them. Be adventurous as to sexual positions. There is the Kama Sutra online, it is various sexual positions. You can purchase books on the different positions which have photos to show you the varieties, your local bookstore will have these. I bought satin sheets which are very erotic when having sex, you slide all over the bed lol. Guys also like oral sex, don't neglect that part. Guys love it! You can also buy flavored condoms to use when doing oral sex, those are fun. You can even get cola flavored condoms online, really lol. In answer to the first part of your question, of course you should NOT cheat, that is not the answer. Perhaps your husband is tired after work, and you have to respect that. You can also purchase a vibrator online to use when he is unavailable for sex, they work great. I got mine at Amazon.com.

Answer 6

I do not condone cheating. Once you cheat what is to stop you from doing it again? Try counseling, try talking to him and telling him your needs are not being met. If he loves you and wants to save the marriage he will do what he has to do. I can't say what is best for your relationship but I like to think i'd get a divorce before I cheat on my spouse. That, to me, is the ultimate betrayal and I don't want to let anyone have so much control over me that I do something I don't want to do for any reason.

Answer 7

My goodness, are you that shallow that you would cheat on your husband because your sex drive is much higher than his right now. Have you spoken to him and let him know how you feel, in a loving way. Maybe there is a medical problem. Start communicating with him and go see a doctor if necessary. If there is nothing wrong with him, then just start without him, but for goodness sakes, don't cheat. Geez

Answer 8

maybe your sex ife has become a routine.
try new thngs/positions/new experiments
break away from work and put aside a nite of the week and have dinner and discuss what you guys did that week.
connect back w/ each other and flirt a bit whilst having your nite.
it can lead to a great nite.
but dont cheat. leave that as a last resort. dont let your mind over power you w/ negativity.
good luck girl

Answer 9

You may want to speak to your husband about this being a concern. He may not be aware you feel this way. I would not recommend cheating cause that is going to risk loosing the marriage. possibly seeing a sex therapist could help as well.

Answer 10

CONGRATULATIONS!! You're getting beyond the easy ( and least productive) part of the relationship, and you now have the opportunity to make a statement about what kind of person you are. This is where great people start taking responsibility for the quality of their relationships, and often it spills over into other important parts of their lives and they take responsibility there as well.

What you do next will define who you are in this relationship, and do a lot to define who you are as a person. So, what kind of person are you?

In case I was a little too indirect, let me put it in clear terms--it's time to grow up little girl. Kids are provided for by adults, as opposed to seeing to it that others are getting their needs met. You're acting like a child because no one is handing you what you want. Bad news--those days are over. Time for you to do for yourself. If your relationship doesn't have the qualities that you desire, it's up to you to learn how to improve it.

Cheat? Don't be @#$&! ridiculous. That's like having a cancer on your skin, and covering it up with makeup instead of treating it.

Answer 11

NEVER CHEAT

try counseling first. Or try putting the moves on him or , I don't know, try TALKING to him about his NEEDS. Maybe you are putting too much pressure on him. And sorry sweetie, once a week is capital compared to what some folks get.

But if you can't handle standing by your marriage vows and the committment you made to your husband,, DIVORCE HIM before you cheat on him. he at least deserves that much from you.