and he wants to get married...i tell him I also want to get married but usually its bcuz I think thats the way I should feel...but when I hear it from him like when he ask's if I want to go get the ring I'll pick a fight so we wont go and deep down I feel scared to get married wich I dont understand bcuz I do want to be with him...but why do i feel this way about marrige? any advice would help thanks!
2006-07-21 10:31:28 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I think your afraid it will change the relationship you have with each other. Your in a safety zone right now everything is going well , why change it? Right? Instead of fighting with him tell him your scared not because of commitment because you both are all ready committed to each other , just the fact that your afraid it will change him and how he feels for you. You have probably heard others as I have in my life, every thing was wonderful until we got married. You have been together six years , don't be afraid to talk to him about it. I wish you much happiness.
2006-07-21 10:47:47 · answer #1 · answered by auntkarendjjb 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
probably because u dont think u can make i through a life-long commitment, u are obviously scared, because so many people take marriage 4 granted so they fail at it at that doesnt serve as good encouragement to peeps, or u think ur spark may burn out but guess what u have been with this guy 4 6 looonnng years, not many peeps do that unless they really love each other. in life u have to take chances and besides it should be easy cause you are almost there.u've come a long way so why stop now, make it official !!!
2006-07-21 17:49:03 · answer #2 · answered by slims 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have been together for 6 years and have a kid. In many states, you are already considered married by common law. There's really nothing left to do but make it official.
2006-07-21 17:40:32 · answer #3 · answered by e_imommy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know why you feel like that, but why try to make yourself feel differently? There's no reason to marry if you don't want to. Don't ever marry because you feel guilty if you don't; don't marry to please someone else; don't marry to try to solve a problem. It's better to be unmarried than to go through a divorce. Find a useful counsellor to help you sort it out BEFORE you get married. Talk to your partner about it, don't pick fights to avoid discussions, geeze.
2006-07-22 00:43:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋