I have never been one to have lots of friends, however I moved to a small town (lawton in oklahoma) and it seems like people are different here. They pretend to be your friend but only are when you can benefit them. I wish I could be around people I grew up with. This girl I know we went to school together, we live close to eachother but I would always want to do stuff but she's make excuses and then she called to borrow 20.00 bucks, I gave it to her and actually forgot about it but then when I called her to hang out she was busy. This happens all to often with me HELP
2006-07-21 10:28:10 · 16 answers · asked by Val 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Hmmmm, it sounds like you are a very giving person and people tend to take advantage of your good nature. They are not true friends if all they do is use you for what they want. I used to have a friend up until recently, we were very close, but she got a weird phone call one day, about a drug delivery, she does not do drugs, they were going to deliver it to her residence, how they got her address, I have no idea. She wanted me to go stay with her, this being a very dangerous situation. She had the nerve to ask me to go stay with her knowing that it would also put me at risk, it was bad enough she was. I told her I just couldn't, that it was way too dangerous, that she should think of moving. She told me she lived in a good neighborhood, it really wasn't. She was too stubborn to take my advice about moving or any other advice for that matter. Only once did I give her money to stay in a motel, since she did not have the balance to pay the man, I think it was $25. I am very much like you, a very giving person, but I do draw the line. You should seek friends elsewhere, maybe join a Junior Women's club, or a volleyball league to meet new friends. You don't need users in your life. They will just make you miserable.
2006-07-21 10:36:46 · answer #1 · answered by luneib 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well the good news is not everyone is like that, the bad news is people like that are everywhere, and of ALL AGES, IT STILL HAPPENS TOO ME AT TIMES
AND IT HURTS,
people will say "well do not associate with these kind of people" AND YES if i knew they were that way i wouldn't have i hate that comment,,
I can only say that even now if i make a friend i take i t slow, and if something great becomes of this friendship it is a treasure, i dearly love, friends that care are like guardian angels, they can make you feel so importand and loved, and coomfort you in tiimes of stress,, and sometimes let you down because they are humans, not angels,
All i know is when you do find some close friend or friends, "take care of them, dont take them for granted, and be a great friend back,,
consider the money a good investment on knowing who is good and who is just for convienence.
2006-07-21 10:43:43 · answer #2 · answered by Maureen K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This happens because you allow it to happen. You have the option NOT to lend them money, and you have the option to find new friends. Unfortunately, in a small town there are not as many options as in a larger community. If this is really a problem, you may want to consider moving.
2006-07-21 10:33:15 · answer #3 · answered by Nefertiti 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel, it's hard to move to another city. You need to focus on people who care about you. You shouldn't settle for second best. As time passes, you will find better friends. Don't let so-called friends borrow any more money!
2006-07-21 10:37:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
A friendship should not cost a thing.Don't give out any more money. If you can't have a friendship without giving out money that's not a true friendship.I live in Arkansas and people are different here too...I'm from los angeles.
2006-07-21 10:34:35 · answer #5 · answered by LASHANNA P 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe u could offer her $20 for her compan.All the same,friends R a b****,u'll have to be a friendly person to attract friends.Some people'll like u immidiately & want to hang arround all the time then u'll have to look for ways to get rid of them.
2006-07-21 10:36:42 · answer #6 · answered by Yomif 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because lots of people just like to use others, and take advantage of them. especially if they are nice enough, like u, to lend them money, when they obviously dont deserve it. i have the same problem. If they only want to be ur friend when it is convenient for them, they really arent a friend. they are a user.
2006-07-21 10:32:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Those kind of friends are called "fair weather friends", not real friends at all. Real friends are always there for you not just when they need something. Stop letting yourself get used like that!
2006-07-21 10:30:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
These people aren't your friends because real friends don't use you. Next time when they call to borrow something, you should be the one to act preoccupied. They aren't worth your time.
2006-07-21 10:33:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are probably not your real friends. Stop giving them money and see how often they call to hang out.
2006-07-21 10:32:13 · answer #10 · answered by mightymight 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋