im 15 and my b.f is 14 im 3 moths older then him any way me and him were on the phone and hes like do u want to have sex with me i love u alot and ide never hurt you i said yes we talked about wut could happen and we both agreed to take aciton of wut ever happens. but there is one big thing my mom i want to tell her that im ready to have sex with my b.f but im worried that she'll get mad or say your to yuong or somthing like that but we a ready we talked about it for a long time and its somthign we both wanna do togather.
2006-07-21 10:14:31 · 16 answers · asked by becca p 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You are too young. Sounds all stuffy and adult doesn't it? But it's true. I won't bore you with how it's illegal and everything at your age- look at it like this. Both of you, look at it like this. You only get to experience your first time ONCE. Are you ABSOLUTELY sure you want it to be with each other? Do you not want to wait a little bit first, spend more time deciding if you two want to be together in the long term? Ask yourself what happens if you get pregnant?
2006-07-21 10:22:10 · answer #1 · answered by darth_timon 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Look i'm going to tell you right now You Are NOT Ready For Sex. You are not especially if you are 15 and he's 14. most guys at that age just want to try and get some so they can tell their friends. I mean seriously he just hit puberty of course he thinks he is ready. I want you to wait and i know your mom is going to say the same thing. There are so many things that go into having sex with someone. There is the chance you may get pregnant and i know that you are in no way capable of taking care of a child. I really really hope you don't there is also a lot of emotional baggage that comes with it so please i hope you don't it will be a huge mistake if you do.
Make the right choice and good luck.
You know if you do talk to your mom maybe she can help with this decision. she may be able to convince you that this is not the thing to do at least not now.
2006-07-25 13:17:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you think you're ready but ask yourself these questions:
1. Am I ready to be a mother? (There is no such thing as SAFE SEX)
2. Is he ready to be a father?
3. Are you ready to give up your virginity when that is the ONLY thing you will have to give to your future husband that no one else can give?
4. Are you ready to lose your reputation (and his) and your credibility?
5. Are you emotionally ready for the guilt that will occur because you are not married?
6. Are you psychologically ready when you b/f walks out after getting what he wants (because he will eventually, probably sooner than later)
7. Do either of you have the financial resources to raise a child for 21 years if you do get pregnant (the boy will be liable for child support for all that times).
8. Are you ready for the emotional and stress reprecussions when your parents (and his parents) find out (because they will whether you tell them or not).
9. Are you ready for the physical changes that occur during and after sex (including possible pain and infection, rare but it does occur).
10. Are you ready to have your first sex experience in the back seat of a car or hurried up because you are trying not to get caught or in some place that has no romance to it at all (that is VERY real).
Those are a FEW of the questions you need to ask yourself and ask him. Then ask the question--am I willing to trade all of that for a few minutes of possible pleasure?
I doubt you're ready and I'm sure you will regret it if you do.
2006-07-21 17:39:16 · answer #3 · answered by snddupree 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can't stand up to your mom and talk to her about wanting to have sex then your not ready. Having sex is a huge responsibility and especially at your age the risks over time are huge. You can take all the precautions in the world but nothing will guarantee that you won't get pregnant. How would you and your boyfriend provide for this child at your ages?
2006-07-21 17:22:02 · answer #4 · answered by rkrell 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wait a minute your actually thinking of asking your mom LOL if i told my mom i was ready to have sex at that age she will probably scream and yell and laugh all at the same time trust me your mom is not going to let you and your to young think about really really carefully what if you do get pregnant that guy will probably leave and there you are a 15 year old single mother and even if he did decide to stay with you he cant make enough money for an apartment and a baby and have enough for the bills and if he sais dont worry we can live with my parents honey dont count on it
2006-07-23 22:12:02 · answer #5 · answered by irene h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your'e 15 and he's 14. Both of you are still, legally speaking, minors. Any action that may lead into trouble would be negatively reflected on you and both of your parents. Please do not act foolish just because you've "talked about it" as if you were 30 years old. At such young and immature age you never know what might crop-up for both of you, so just wait until adolescence comes along and then you'll appreciate this advice. Take care and God bless.
2006-07-21 17:25:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just listen to yourself! You are still at the age that you have to ask your mother's permission to do things! How are you going to handle it if you become a mother yourself? It is a lot of responsibility to be a mother, no matter what age you are at. There is plenty of time to do things like have sex and take on the fear and worry of pregnancy or maybe even worse. You have to ask yourself are you ready to be a mom, more than likely a single mom with no one to help you raise this baby. I know that you feel that you are ready, but the fact is you are just beginning to live your life please don't ruin it, wait.
2006-07-21 21:53:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your mom. She might get mad. She might say you're too young. But she loves you a lot more than your boyfriend -- trust me on this one -- and she is the one person in the world who will always put your best interests first. Hear her out.
(Also ... I believe the legal age of consent in most states is 16. Just keep that in mind. Doesn't stop a lot of young couples, but there is a reason for it.)
2006-07-23 21:31:27 · answer #8 · answered by some chick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no you guys are wayy to young. if you end up getting pregnant, then your future will be messed up. if you want to be successful in the future, you have to go to school and graduate and stuff. but if you become pregnant, you'll have to drop out and you'll have a difficult time because you'll have to be home taking care of the baby. and what if yur boyfriend leaves you because he doenst what to take the responsibility of taking care of his own child? you should really think about this. im only 13 but i tried having sex. now even thought i didnt became pregnant, i was very stress out because i was worrying bout if i was pregnant or not. you can never fully trust your boyfriend. you'll never know what will happen.
2006-07-23 12:26:31 · answer #9 · answered by BrEndErZ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im 15 also, and i have a boyfriend. my honest opinion is until u reach 20 yrs old your not responsible enough to make any decisions when it comes to sex. if u feel offended im truly sorry, but im insulting myself also. dont have sex now, because u could get pregnant, get an STD, regret your decision later, or he could just drop u like a bad habit cause he got what he wanted out of u. have an emotional relationship with him, not a physical one. that way he'll respect u more, believe me, its working for me.
2006-07-21 17:49:05 · answer #10 · answered by sarah_gotdance 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋