This question is for Filipinos only please. I am a British male and I live in London with my wife(a filipina) and son. We have a Filipina friend staying with us. She had a Filipina friend visit from America and is doing a european tour. She asked to borrow the computer to look for cheap hotel locally for a few days. My wife was in work and I said to this Filipina not to bother with a hotel and she could stay at my house for a few days if she does not mind sleeping on our pull out sofa. Now my wife i am sure would not mind me offering but is it acceptable for a British male to offer a Filipina what I did or should I have waited for my wife to offer. I know some things like these can be culturally incorrect, Have I spoken out of turn. I must point our that my door is always open to Filipinos and a warm welcome.
2006-07-21 10:10:52 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Travel ➔ Asia Pacific ➔ Philippines
I applaud you for what you did! You are more Filipino than some of us who actually are. Filipinos are a hospitable lot and what you did is superbly culturally correct. Well done! A warm bravo and my kudos to you. May there be more of you out there... :)
2006-07-21 16:42:50 · answer #1 · answered by Jo Ann 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Hi there nice guy, what you done for now is awesome.. your wife would understand it depends on your intention.. I just realized now why most Filipinas fell in love with foreigners,,they are very kind and happy to see their wife happy regarding hospitality to their spouse's friend and family from P.I. not most.. I would say would do this, As for your wife consent,yes she has the right to know whoever would stay in the house as it is a respect to both of you.. if your wife offer someone's friend a place to stay and he is a man..I hope you know the answer to this situation.. some may have a point on telling you it depends on how your wife would look upon this decision you made without her..
next thing is..if someone has to travel to another country as a visitor.. remember that they have a record where they would stay ... if something happened to her.. the responsibility is to where she was staying that time... as I travel a lot, I would ask permission or consent first before I decided to stay in my friends house so they would know we agree that whatever happened to me.. they would get involved..as this girl made her decision to look for a hotel, she really knows what she is doing. but offering her a place to stay is an offer..she could also make her choice to stay or not.. she could also ask your wife's consent if this is complicated..but as they are both Filipinas, I think it would goes well.
culturally correct? yes.., the filipinos are always hospitable, even they got nothing at all, they would find something to offer.....
thanks for the welcome..
your name does not sound inviting....it is now becoming an issue...
blessings!
2006-07-22 07:40:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Filipino people would have done what you did. Filipinos by nature are very hospitable and kind, and are known to possesss these traits.
Filipinos will offer the best seat in the house for a guest, give the best food in the table, will get a loan to provide the best they could give. this trait has been present from olden times, and is still innate to the modern generations. no matter where Filipinos are in the world, however the lifestyles maybe, Filipinos are there to help.
I'm sure she wouldn't mind you offering, not culturally incorrect at all. a help however great or small is greatly appreciated by us.
bless you for your kindness.
2006-07-21 15:22:11 · answer #3 · answered by digitalfortress 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems you may have other issues. Pinoyscrewer? Not very nice name for someone married to a filipina. Not very respectful to her nor her country.
Why can you not get a reply from your wife that informs you if she is happy you offered, and if it is ok with her culture?
Maybe I am more critical than I should be but I was offended.
2006-07-22 12:29:27 · answer #4 · answered by thethief 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
although most filipinos are hospitable and would like to help and offer their friends their home to stay, you should let your wife decide first if she wants to do that.
she might think other things if you are the one who offered. most filipinas are jealous by nature. it's better if she will be the one who offer.
2006-07-22 07:09:47 · answer #5 · answered by belle♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is okey especially if she is a friend of your wife. Filipinos would really do that to a friend who is need of shelter especially on a foreign land. You've been very kind to do it and your wife have a good influence on you.
One thing though, if she is not a friend of your wife...you better ask her first because she might get jelous.
2006-07-22 02:16:50 · answer #6 · answered by Summer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, you are becoming accustom to one of our filipino culture, being hospitable. with what you have done, its good, you have heart and kindness towards our people. one question though, do you really know how your wife will react on this offer? is she a jealous type? since you already offer, why not call her ahead of time and let her know what you just did, so she won't think of anything but just showing your deep concern towards your wife country folks.
with your gracious attitude, im happy that you marry one of our country folks. i hope your wife appreciate your kindness and understand your point. good luck and thanks for sharing your question.
2006-07-21 16:29:24 · answer #7 · answered by salome 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have to respectfully disagree Art The Wise......The screen name: pinoyscrewer should comfort his wife. As the name states, he is bound to be a pinoyscrewer not a pinayscrewer...so there's no danger... you did the right thing pinoyscrewer! Remind me to advise the pinoys to beware if you offer THEM your hospitality...but I think you did a very kind thing. Congratulations... don't listen to those who criticize your decision. I'm sure your intentions are holy.... I hope you find my answer winning you over and have you bubbling with overjoy! Thanks everyone for your votes.
2006-07-22 09:59:23 · answer #8 · answered by Pedro O 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
for me you are culturally correct! one of the filipino traits is being hospitable.offering somebody a shelter is a very good trait especially being made by a certain well-off foreigner to a filipina who really needs shelter...my hats off to you sir...i hope all foreigners are as nice as you....
2006-07-21 10:44:20 · answer #9 · answered by trendycurly16 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't approve of your decision. it's very one-way. regardless of gender, religion, age, nationality a house invitation to anyone should merit both parties decision and at times other members of the family's as well. even if it's a short stay or a long stay one. it's very inconsiderate. even if you know the spouse would not mind, it's still nice to be asked first.
2006-07-23 02:43:17 · answer #10 · answered by felicia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋