i,m 32 i,m liked at work i go out but still i feel like lonliest man in world. Y? does any1 have an answer?

Question

i,m 32 male working, have a social life, keep fit, honest, but feel lost.

Answer 1

I went through a similar phase, i'm 21, have a girlfriend and friends but felt lonely. Eventually I realised it was because i felt although i had friends i didn't have a really close friend where i was relaxed all the time and could tell everything to. Maybe finding a best friend is the answer?

Answer 2

One of the most important persons in my life is now 32 and working, has a social life, and keeps fit, honest. We had met about 5 years ago when we were both going through a lot of stuff. For about 3 years we grew to be real soul mates…We had met after I was already married to the wrong guy. A few years ago when things were getting serious between us I decided to stay married… you know the kids…well last year he called we met in a public place and he told me he was sorry we didn’t work out but we thought there was no way for us to ever work it out…I was glad that we got to see each other he really had gotten his life together and I really was second guessing my choices. I had grown a lot too because of his friendship he was the best thing that ever happened in my life. For this last year I have felt like the loneliest person in the world even though to the outward world I have everything in the world and need nothing…I just feel empty. I had felt whole and happy with my friend… just being friends with him, his companionship, we shared a lot of things in common and we grew because of each other. I don’t think he understands just how much he had changed my life.
I hope you find what I had found and you don’t let if fall through your fingers…

Answer 3

Maybe something is out of balance. Maybe you need spiritual guidance... not necessarily religious, mind you. But some sort of spiritual glue, a sense that things make... sense. That you are important and a part of everything around you. Maybe you have no sense of purpose, and feel like you are just plodding along toward death.

Look into Buddhism, if you want. It's a non-theistic religion with ending the suffering of others as a goal. Or check out Habitat for Humanity, or some other charitable organization that gives you an opportunity to really be a part of the change rather than just financing it from a distance. There are plenty of options... they all will involve change, and looking at your life differently. But I imagine that would be a welcome change, since you are feeling lonely and disconnected.

You are connected! It's not so much a matter of connecting as it is a matter of realizing that you already are. Finding yourself, as it were. Good luck! :)

Answer 4

I don't have an answer for you but I do know how you feel. I am exactly the same age, have a job and social life and I sometimes feel like the lonliest woman in the world. You need someone to connect with on your level I think. That's how I feel anyway!

Answer 5

That sounds like the life of a 20 year old. When I was 20, I had the same life. Had a good job with good friends. I went out all the time with them and various women. But the older I got the more I felt like something was missing. That's when I slowly began to realise that I needed someone more permanent. I needed someone with whom I could talk about anything and be close to whenever I needed it.

Yeah, I know it sounds mushy but what I needed was a wife. I hadn't wanted to get married until I was around 25. Then I started looking at the women I was dating as potential wives. Luckily, I found my wife when i was 29.

Men are needy. And, even though it may seem like something that will never happen to a younger man, eventually they will realize they need someone in their lives on a more permanent and deeper level.

Sometimes guys can be perfectly happy with not being committed. But most come to a point where they fear their commitment to someone alot less than they desire someone's commitment to them.

Answer 6

I'm 32 and feel your pain. I am now married and it helped immensely. I was very lonely at times before I was married. I am not ashamed to say that counseling of some kind may help. Where do you live? I moved from a large city to a smaller city and people where I live now are MUCH friendlier. It is the nature of smaller towns. Have you ever thought of getting on anti-depressants? They can help immensely in the right situations. Some people think it is weak to take them but it is not true. If you are at all spiritual, ask a higher power my friend. Hang in there. Don't give up. You CAN get over this loneliness.

Answer 7

You seem to have it all together. Since you have a social life, maybe you are doing the wrong things. If you keep hanging in the same places you fall into a rut. Try to expand your circle of friends to meet a woman. It's sounds corny, but you do meet high quality people by doing volunteer work and things. Even if you don't meet your dream girl will you meet more friends and their sisters, daughters, whatever. Good Luck, you sound like a good guy.

Answer 8

Everyone feels lonely, even those with families and friends. We are born within a self contained body, and we die in the same singular body. That's probably why many turn to religion. For myself, I reassure myself that I have family and friends but acknowledge that I am essentially alone. It's an uncomfortable reality, but life is about dealing with adversity and attempting to be happy. Just make sure you never give up.

Answer 9

You miss something that will collect all the parts of your life and keep it together. Some people would say it could be the special person, relationship, children or maybe an interesting hobby or adventurous journey or a dog..Anything would be just fine if you find the sense in your life.. :)

Answer 10

Hey ,maybe you need a change in routine? I know sometimes I feel lost and lonely, I usually try to change things up a bit ,I get tired of same ol same ol routine , I am married and also have kids , so everyone can feel this at times, and when you are feeling down ,it can make things worse. Maybe you are ready to settle down too,if you do not have a G/F . I hope this helps or someone can :)