i have a bestfriend who is the sweetest person in the world and he is a police officer we been friends for quite some time now but he seems like he wants to be more than friends now because the things he say out of his mouth is annoying me as far as hitting on me lines and i really dont like it because all i think of him is my best friend nothing more even though he is a wonderful man and also very cute and musucler i take our friendship very seriously and i would like to keep it but it would hurt me if hes not my friend anymore please help
2006-07-21 09:43:54 · 7 answers · asked by honey bun 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You need to be honest and tell him nothing more will ever come of you, and if he keeps hitting on you it will damage your friendship which you dont want to happen.
2006-07-21 09:47:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He wants more; you don't. Hmmmm! Are you absolutely, positively SURE that you could never have feelings for this guy? Because, it looks like you are about to burn your bridges. If you tell him you want to keep him as a friend but will never want it to be more than that, you risk losing him or he can revert back to being friends. That's a risk you'll have to take.
But some of the best relationships start out as strong friendships. A deep compatibility shot through with a few fireworks. . .WOW! All I'm saying is be very sure of your feelings. Some gut instinct tells me that you're only going to get one chance to work this out.
2006-07-21 16:53:49 · answer #2 · answered by freedomnow1950 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to let him know subtlely that you don't want to be anything more than friends. I have given this advice to a lot of people already so I think that it works pretty well.
*pay for yourself during "dates" with him, that'll show him that its not a date
*when he asks for a one-on-one date, ask him if they can invite the rest of group, to let him know that hes not the one you wanna date
*Tell him about ur new crush or someone you met at the mall, that'll tell him that he's not the one you're thinking of in that way, you're just his confidante..
*if none of that works, then tell him head-on in a subtle way that you don't see him as anything but a friend... But don't be too harsh about it, that'll ruin possible chances of friendship. Since he has been your friend for quite sometime now, I'm sure he'll understand. If he get hurt, then give him time to heal and understand your side of the situation.
2006-07-21 16:51:19 · answer #3 · answered by Mujareh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that what he is saying is offending you and to respect you more. If he does decide to make a move tell him that you are flattered but want to keep the friendship the way it is. As a true friend he will respect this. It will probably change the relationship a bit, but sometimes it is for the better
2006-07-21 16:49:01 · answer #4 · answered by Sherrie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him know how you feel! Try not to be alone in places with him, and ask him if he only want more than friends. If that does not work. Try finding him a blind date (someone that you know he would like, and never someone you would never date your self if you were him) and double date. He should get the point and he may just like his date.
2006-07-21 16:49:34 · answer #5 · answered by Justanothergirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
make sure he knows you don't wanna be with him let him know when u get annoyed, just don't judge him too harshly for his responses, guys are sensitive just they don't like to show it. don't ignore them or avoid them that hurts more than telling him straight up how you feel (trust me i know) let him know you love him as a friend...and scince he is your best friend, if you do try to be together and it dosn't work out, i'm sure that bond will still be there.
2006-07-21 16:53:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fu.k him
2006-07-21 16:55:38 · answer #7 · answered by Andres Q 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋