my boyfriend and me planned to have a kid ... on wendsay we found out i was pregnat since then i havent seen himm .. hes acting differnt and still claims everything is ok... his leaving on sat to go see his other baby in connicut and im in florida. and he dosnt even want to come say bye or anything he says hes tooo busyy...why whould he be doing this to me after i thought everything was goign to get better since i founf out the good new.s.... Does he feel bad cuase he nkows hes goign to cheat onme ... why would he change now... im so emotianl and i now i have to calm down cause its not goign to be good for the baby but i dunt know what to do ..-please help!
2006-07-21 09:41:28 · 25 answers · asked by ChuLAD3P0nC3 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
This is exactly why two people who are in love should be married when bringing a child in this world. Its really easy for men to say, "I want you to have my baby" That's because its just as easy for them to get up and walk away. Things rarely if ever get better after having a baby, in fact they often get worse. That is why you have to be a strong couple before going into having a child. Both of you were selfish and did not think about what type of life you provide this child together. Yes you can do it with out him but would have gotten pregnant if he didn't want you to? If he loves you and is happy about this baby he would do everything in his power to be with you and share the joy, not cause you sorrow. He's flying off to be with another child not happy about the one who isn't here yet. Why would you get pregnant? GET MARRIED. When you marry someone first in a loving relationship and form a bond with them and have a solid marriage its the best foundation for a solid family. When a man married you or wants to marry you it mean he is serious about the commitment he made to you. He can get anyone pregnant. I am sorry you are in this situation but you are very naive to do that. Just because you are able to have kids doesn't mean you should. Children deserve better than mothers and fathers who put their desire to have a child before the child's needs.
2006-07-21 09:48:46 · answer #1 · answered by Sarah J 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you are jumping to conclusions and you are stressing your self out for nothing. If you are going to have a baby with man and and a relationship you have to learn how to trust him. You wrote you thought things would get better after you found out you were pregnant, why baby's don't fix relationships. Having a child is very stress full it is no longer about what you want our what you need it is what the child needs. If your boyfriend already has a kid than he has a clue what I am talking about. You said you guys planed on having a kid right so why would he run out on you. You need to calm down, I do not suggest calling your boyfriend and accusing him of anything or you might push him away. One more thing before you ask another question please use the spell check on the right hand side.
2006-07-21 09:54:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not I understand his actions as well. Especially since you said you both planned on this baby. Seems like reality has slapped him in the face, the responsibility of another child. Hopefully He did make this plan with you to have a baby just to make you happy. Being pregnant number one your hormones are already kicking in and you will be sensitive and easy to cry and emotionally you may be just a scared yourself, especially if this is your first child. Cheer up and think of names for the baby and how your going to fix the babies room, Go shopping and just by something cute for it like a teddy bear. You will drive yourself crazy thinking he will have an affair with this other child's mom when there is nothing to worry about. So stop crying and be happy that you have a wonderful little miracle inside you right now. Best Wishes for you and your babie.
2006-07-21 09:54:27 · answer #3 · answered by auntkarendjjb 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh dear. Honey this is why marriage should always precede babies. It is too easy for the men to walk out. How many children does this man have? I am sorry you are sad but it will be a long hard road for you. Do you have family you can lean on for support? I think you know how it will turn out with this man. Now you have the responsibility of raising a child alone. Good luck.
2006-07-21 09:45:18 · answer #4 · answered by cyndi71mom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your emotional because of the baby.. I also thank you need to calm down and enjoy this tell your friends tell your family . And as far as your boyfriend goes he is a jerk you all should be celebrating this time and he is leaving town. something ain't right i do honestly feel that he is cheating on you and the best thing to do is talk about it . don't make any drastic decisions out of anger okay. I think he is scared of having another baby that's why he is running to see his 1st born.. But i think he is just scared give him the weekend to get his thoughts together and after the week end ya'll go to dinner talk about what's going on see if he wants this baby... But you just need to relax everything is going to be fine...
2006-07-21 09:49:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sister, calm down. You need to think realistically and rationally for you and YOUR BABY. Let him do what he is doing. Time will surely catch up on him. Right now,take a few minutes to pray to God to comfort your heart. Then call your best friends to come take you out and discuss the situation. Friends in times of need are friends indeed. God will protect you and help you to have a safe delivery and raise that child. Don't sweat it. Many of us females have done it and will continually do it.
2006-07-21 09:52:33 · answer #6 · answered by joebaby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop crying, you can keep crying but it won't change the situation. It wasn't wise to get pregnant when you weren't married to the man in the first place. Keep your options open now. Get a grip on yourself. Plan for this baby alone. Doesn't seem that he's going to be supportive about it. Best to seek your direct family for help.
2006-07-21 09:47:12 · answer #7 · answered by the_memory_of_ashes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My little 12 twelve months old brother feels a similar way. i experience a similar way too, yet without the crying. My mom talks to me "Yep" is all she hers and than angrily she is going away. You slacking off? i'm slacking in college, yet i'm ok. Your mom's B-day arising? I end giving my moms and dads present after I turn 13. P.s i'm no longer crying. in case you positive your mom so demanding only positioned up with her. i do not comprehend your existence, yet in my view you mustn't be crying..because you round 20..it fairly is even more effective embarrassing. My little brother keeps disrespecting our mom, he crys. I do it, my mom yells at me and insults me I insult decrease back she receives more effective mad and seems disappointing in me, i do not care and walk away. lengthy tale short: don't be a wimp. in case you mad at existence get a job or some thing. supply her a card.
2016-11-25 00:40:58 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to let him go see his other child and not freak out on him for that. He is prolly just feeling bad about the situation b/c he's not a full-time dad to his other child and he doesn't want to do that to you. Plus his first child is going to have a new brother or sister and he prolly wants to talk to him/her about that (maybe even ask the child's mother about how to incorporate his child into the new baby's life)
don;'t worry untill he comes back, and when he does, sit down and talk to him about everything you are concerned about
good luck and congratulations!
2006-07-21 09:46:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds to me that he has alot to think about!!!! He probably scared and dont know what to do, I do think that you should talk before he leaves, and find out what is going on....see how hes feeling too, and just remember if he does leave, crying only give you red eyes and a headache....and makes you look bad thats the sucky part, also remember that baby is part you too. So do whats best for the baby....
2006-07-21 09:48:11 · answer #10 · answered by krista a 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋