My fiance likes to look (ogle) at other women. This is not such a problem. The problem is, he tells me that he finds them hot. He has never told me that I am hot, or attractive. We talked about it last night, and he said that he does not look at me that way because I am going to be his wife. Can anyone make sense of this
2006-07-21 09:32:52 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I do the same thing and when I say there hot I basically mean I want to tear there clothes off and do a little ground and pound.
2006-07-21 09:35:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ah, no. It doesn't make sense at all. You are the only one he should be ogling. It seems to me if he has never told you you were attractive and etc..., he does not find you attractive. Therefore, should not be marrying you. He also shouldn't be telling you that other women are hot and you should not be fine with him telling you that. Something is up. Do you have alot of money or something? Good luck
2006-07-21 16:38:52 · answer #2 · answered by Xena 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure, his ogling is on a strictly fantasising basis, he looks and thinks wow, ill bet she would look great naked, but he knows he would never go after her because he is with and loves you. You need to keep in mind that men are very visual creatures. We all look, all the time. If we arent looking, we have a problem.. It has gotten to the point that my wife will point of pretty girls and say look isnt she cute. He obviously finds you attractive or he wouldnt be with you. Im sure somewhere in the back of your mind that you have a picture of a perfect man that you know you will never be with, well, so does he! Doesnt mean he wants her, but dreams keep you alive!
2006-07-21 16:39:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
once an ogler, always an ogler, If this is going to bother you, which is understandable, perhaps you should wait about the wedding. I doubt if he will change, and you will be unhappy. I mean all men look,, and so do a lot of women, but he doesnt seem to see you as that Hot chick, that he finds everywhere else.. You are always gonna be worried in the back of your mind, so... Maybe look for a guy that is more into you, unless you dont mind sharing.
2006-07-21 16:40:50 · answer #4 · answered by Big hands Big feet 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well let me say this and I may get castized from the other guys. Men basically want what they can't have. He has you. The hotties dress that way for a reason.( to be hotter than someone else). Personally I want a relationship with a woman of inner beauty. Yea i would still look tho
2006-07-21 16:38:26 · answer #5 · answered by christsluv4u 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, no sense can be made of his remarks. He is very juvenile. A man wants his future wife to be many things, including sweet and kind, gentle and soft, intelligent, caring, understanding, and a tigress in the sack sometimes, sometimes soft and tender, sometimes playful and fun.
You should be the hottie of his life, and if he hasnt told you that, I would think this thing through again. Cause someday, he will find that hottie.
2006-07-21 16:39:17 · answer #6 · answered by paulie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think he respects you. When he looks at other women probably he has dirty thoughts and when he looks at you he knows that you are going to be his wife, mother of his children. So you have special place in his life. Its ok. Nothing to worry about. Atleast he is honest that he is telling all that otherwise he could have hide his feeling or whatsoever. So chill out and enjoy. Probably you can sometimes add that she could have been much hotter if she wear this or that.
2006-07-21 16:42:17 · answer #7 · answered by 360 degree 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As soon as you Marry Him he is going to trap you so think about it before you do it cuz all you are doing is hurting yourself Try to find a better a man That treats you good and you can grow old with I sware if my fiancee or however you spell it, I Would Beat the **** out of him!
2006-07-21 16:37:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, if he wants to marry you, he must think you are the most beautiful woman in the world. You should cast out any doubts in your mind. Lust is only wrong if he goes about trying to capture another woman. On the other hand, he should not be doing it in your face (if not at all) because that is just disrespect.
2006-07-21 16:37:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is natural and human nature tolook at other people however, to ogle them is very disrespectful to you and shows that he does not take his relationship with you very serious! Let him know and if he doesnt change, drop him!
2006-07-21 16:38:01 · answer #10 · answered by Pimp_Slapper 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋