A Question for the gays and the lesbians (the Q is inside)?

Question

a lot of ppl describe gays or lesbians as a normal ppl and some of them said what is normal anyway (means becoming gay or lesbian is normal)
so i think you know the question (not "normal" issue , we done with this)




the QUESTION IS : How Or Why you became gay or lesbian? (you call it homosexual right?)

Answer 1

Since you asked, my child, I'll be happy to answer you. I fell in love with my Best Beloved at almost first sight. She also happened to be a lady. I did not plan this, I wasn't expecting it. It was like this was the person I'd been waiting for and my own soul knew it. We've been monogamous for 25 years and have a better relationship than many heterosexual couples I know. It has nothing to do with religion, at least not for me. Maybe for you it does, but not for me. God and I talk a lot and we have no problem with each other.
Whether you like it or not, I am a normal person in a normal relationship. It's called Love. It's not lust, or sex (although some days it is..but never mind) but I love my partner with my entire being. What is better than that?
Bless you, my child.

Answer 2

I believe gay and lesbian are the preferred terms since the term homosexual has its roots in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Illnesses; the term has been abandoned by the APA since being attracted to the same gender has been deemed to be a personality characteristic rather than a mental illness. Further, the term carries with it a connotation that the relationships are strictly of a sexual nature, which is far from the truth.

Any answer to your question as to why one would become gay or lesbian would have to be predicated by a reason, such as choice. I don't believe anyone is going to be able to address that question for you.

"How?" is an interesting question that some may be able to answer. There have been occasions in which a child may have been molested by a person of the opposite gender, become fearful of that gender at an early age and naturally gravitated toward the same gender. There are also people out there who may have been molested by someone of the same gender with such frequency that it becomes normal to them and they find it comfortable. Others, however, just are. There need not be a cause, though.

Answer 3

I'm not certain that there is any such thing as normal. "Normal" people really aren't normal...they are judgemental, condescending, arrogant, ignorant, violent, vulgar...you get the point.

Gays are as "normal" as straight people, they are as normal as people with disabilities, they are as talented, intelligent, compassionate, dedicated, generous ... as any straight person. They are exactly the way everyone on earth is...made of all the things that make up humans, they simply carry either more testosterone or estrogen than their straight counterparts and for that, they are drawn to the same sex as they are.

A 50/50 chance exists for every person born to become gay. It's a gene based russian roulette game. If "straight normal" people had instead been born gay, how would they expect to be treated? A little education can make a large difference however we will still have those who have been born with a personality that is not "normal" and they continue to take hits against those who don't conform.

So, How? Genes, conception, birth Why? Genes, conception, birth.

Answer 4

How did you become straight? I became gay the same way. You are in the majority, and I am in the minority. So is a left handed person not normal? A green eyed person? In this country, an Asian, or African American person not normal?

What really is your question? Why do I think I'm just as good as you even though I'm different? Apply that to your left handed friend and then come back and see me.

Answer 5

I think I "became" gay for a similar reason that other people "become" straight. We're all asexual children, then puberty hits and BAM! We start to be attracted to whatever we're going to be attracted to. I personally think it's probably a biopsychosocial model, but then I also think it REALLy doesn't matter. Nothing I can do to change it, so I stopped caring where it came from. More importantly, in the States anyway, even if it was a choice I think it's one we should be allowed to make without sacrificing any civil rights.

Answer 6

I was born this way, I didn't choose this lifestyle. I fought my feelings for a long long time, and was soooooo unhappy, that I wanted to kill myself. So i decided to go with my feelings, and I am happy now. Trust me, I was born like this...I wouldn't have chosen a life style that has alienated me from others, and makes me different. But I don't fight it anymore, and I am happy. Thats the most important part is to be happy.

Answer 7

bodily i love slender adult males with darkish hair. For some reason darkish hair is a authentic activate for me. There are some blonde adult males that i imagine are warm yet they're the exception. i love shorter adult males too. i'm 6' and that i favor to be taller than my guy. they're frequently masculine or a touch femme. Boyish is authentic attractive. would not complication me till they're great flaming and wearing makeup. personality smart i love adult males who're more suitable outgoing than me and who're sweet and characteristic a sturdy humorousness. i love a guy who talks a lot and who's pleasant.

Answer 8

I don't think you "become" gay. Many are born this way. Some don't discover it until later in life...like me. Yes, there are some that turn to this lifestyle for various reasons but most of us are born this way.

Answer 9

You just are.

People don't become gay or straight by will power or magic. What you feel is what you feel. I have never had any interest in females. I am gay. I have lots of straight friends who have no interest in males. They will and have danced with me and stuff -- I'm their friend -- but none of them have any interest in sex with another guy nor would I expect them to.

You are what you are.

Regards,

Reynolds Jones
http://www.rebuff.org
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Answer 10

How I became gay (homosexual) is the same way another person became straight (heterosexual) and there is no "why".I am what I am.