She's my best friend but I don't believe in abortion. I'm going with her because she has no one else to turn to and as a loving friend. Should I even be going with her though, would I be contridicting my belifs by going?
2006-07-21 09:28:35 · 27 answers · asked by Needanswer 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Would you support your friend if she was holding a gun to the head of a three-year-old child and was about to pull the trigger? Of course not! You would do everything possible to save the child from death and your friend from a lifetime of regret, and that is what you need to do in this situation as well. Love does not support destructive, immoral behavior.
If you drive your friend to the clinic or even go with her, you become an accessory to the murder of a child. If, on the other hand, you refuse to go and tell her why, you may save a child's life, and you will definitely save yourself from the guilt that comes from violating your conscience.
Here is some information to show your friend:
Photos of Abortions:
http://www.cbrinfo.org/Resources/pictures.html
A Four-Minute, Must-See Video on Abortion:
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Information on All Aspects of Abortion:
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Photos and Facts About Prenatal Development:
http://www.justthefacts.org/clar.asp
http://www.abort73.com/HTML/I-A-2-prenatal.html
http://www.studentsforlife.uct.ac.za/foetal%20dev%20photos.html
http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/in_pictures/3847319.stm
Pain Perception in the Unborn:
http://www.advocatesfortheinnocent.com/fetalpain.html
Abortion Stories:
http://abortiontv.com/Words/truestoriesfrom-mothers.htm
http://www.abort73.com/HTML/I-G-2-testimony.html
Abortion Risks:
http://afterabortion.info/complic.html
http://www.abortionfacts.com/reardon/effect_of_abortion.asp
http://www.standupgirl.com/site/index.php?option=com_content&task=view&id=218&Itemid=40
Abortion Deaths:
http://www.lifedynamics.com/Pro-life_Group/Pro-choice_Women
http://www.afterabortion.info/news/abortiondeaths.html
http://www.lifeissues.org/ru486/deaths.htm
Free, Confidential Pregnancy Help (including referrals for financial, medical, legal, and housing assistance; free pregnancy tests and ultrasounds; free maternity and baby supplies; pregnancy, parenting, and adoption information; counseling and emotional support):
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Support for Pregnant Teens:
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Support for Pregnant College and Career Women:
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2006-07-25 08:24:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
If you don't think that what she's doing is right, then you have every right (pardon the pun) to deny helping her. After all it is your money. I also believe that abortion is purely wrong and she should check to see whether her reasons for aborting the baby is reasonable (although I don't think there is any excuse for destroying a life).
Talk to her about it, try not to be preachy or not to rub it in that it was her mistake. Help her in a way that says: "I'm your friend and I only want to help you.". If her reasons are something like: money, won't be able to support it, then find alternatives, like organizations that help raise money for parents that ddon't have money to support their newborns and other things like that. It doesn't have to be abortion.
Tell her that you will always be there for her, through the tough job of raising a child and beyond. Assure her that even if you don't agree with what she's doing, you're still her friend and you still care about her and that baby.
2006-07-21 16:37:53 · answer #2 · answered by Mujareh 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think your friend is caught in a very serious situation, her life will be forever changed one way or the other. I think she is too young to have a child, her life and her child's life would both be pretty bad if she had a child right now. If she can't afford an abortion how in the world could she afford diapers and food and clothes and strollers and everything else it takes to raise a child??
If you can help her, I would in any way you can. She made a mistake and she has to live with that, but I think as a friend, an important thing to do is help friends live with their mistakes, help them recover from their mistakes and help them to let their mistakes cause them as little damage and harm as possible! I don't like to see my friends get hurt or ruin their lives, and when I can help them straighten out a mistake they've made, I do what I can to help, even if I don't very much like the solution.
2006-07-21 17:29:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In some ways, you are contradicting your beliefs, but I don't think it's something you should worry about. You are not contributing to it by going, because she would go ANYWAY. You are being a good friend. Not helping to pay is the right thing for you to do, based on your beliefs, so stick to it. I don't think that people should use abortion as birth control, but I would go with a friend, because that's what friends are supposed to do. They're supposed to be there to lean on, even if they don't think you're right all the time.
2006-07-21 16:33:33 · answer #4 · answered by Andi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's your best friend. Put aside any beliefs you have and just be there for her. What she's going through is scary enough and there's nothing you can say or think that she hasn't already thought of herself. Abortion is NEVER an easy choice, but sometimes, it's the only choice that is right for a person. She needs you.
2006-07-21 16:35:01 · answer #5 · answered by mytreacheryiseternal 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, you didn't get her in that situation. As a good friend you can give her a shoulder to cry on, and I'm sure she'll need one. If you feel that abortion is wrong, don't compromise your integrity. Don't pay for it. Knowing you helped in it could also affect your state of mind.
2006-07-21 16:37:53 · answer #6 · answered by Katie K 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If something bad happens to her as a result of getting the abortion you will feel horrible. Tell her to have the guy who helped her into this situation go, or her parents need to be involved. You are not responsible to be an accessory to her situation.
2006-07-21 16:34:09 · answer #7 · answered by Danielle P 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well, I wouldn't even support her decision, that is contradicting your own beliefs. Try convincing her that there are other options than abortion. Tons of married women can't have children, I'm sure there's someone out there that is waiting to adopt an infant.
2006-07-21 16:40:53 · answer #8 · answered by tricksy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be a friend your going with her those are your beliefs not necessarily hers, a friend is a friend for not what someone believes in but for who they are whether your agree with it or not if a friend needs your help u do whatver it takes whether u agree with it or not u can tell her your opinion in a FRIENDLY WAY but u cant shame your friend for making a mistake
2006-07-21 16:34:21 · answer #9 · answered by Lil Kaluha5555555 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't help pay if you don't want but don't just walk out on her. She is doing what she thinks best for herself and making her feel alone will only make it worse. Just because you don't believe in it doesn't mean you should abandon her.
2006-07-21 16:35:41 · answer #10 · answered by Chelle's Belle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋