how do i make my kids love me and be free from the contol of their mother?

Question

the problem is that she is controling them that much that i can't even have enough time with them to have good activities together, they refuse because they are afraid from her or not to upset her at least and they are convinced that they are doing the right things, it's clear that she hates to c them happy with me and will do any thing to prevent that

Answer 1

Be there for them. I don't know their ages so some of these ideas might not work but, play board games with them, ride bikes with them, do crafts together, toss a ball back and fourth, things like that, most importantly talk to them. Tell them about your childhood. Never say anything bad about their mother or anyone else to them. And never make them lie to her, even if she is making them lie to you. This stresses kids out and they will get sick of anyone who constantly makes them lie. Call them when they are with their mother and talk to them just to let them know that you still think about them even when they are not with you.

Answer 2

I am guessing this is a divorce situation. You cannot make your kids love you. Depending on the ages, all kids go through a rough time with their parents. You need to be patient and guide your kids while still allowing them to be free spirits. If there mom is controlling they will eventually figure that out. Do not sink to her level though. Your kids will love you because of the kind of dad you are, not because you freed them from the control of mom. You need to always think about what you might have wanted from your dad and put yourself in their shoes.

Answer 3

Why would you want them to be free from the control of their mother? Is she a problem. As far as making them love you just be open and honest and show them you care.

Answer 4

Always be open with them and let them know how you feel without putting their mother down. When they get older they will realize that your are their father and respect you like you want them to. They do love you but if their mother controls them then they aren't allowed to show you!!!

Answer 5

Make them love you.. no such thing as make..them love you.
Be there for them, no matter what. Have an open ear, to hear everything they have or need to say to you.. even if it is something you do not want to hear! Be ready to give hugs or tight embraces.. stick to your guns when it comes to rules and guidelines.. love them, unconditionally, always and forever.. expect nothing in return.. ever. Trust me, you will find all the love you seek from them, without realizing it.

Answer 6

you cant MAKE anyone love you -- do your best to be there for your children when they need you -- spend time with them. (time!! not money, it will not buy happiness OR love!) unfortunatley you will always have to deal with their mother, but you can limit the interaction time with her to as little as possible, but always make it pleasant for the children's sake.
nobody should be controlling anyone else, that just means they have lots of insecurities that they need to deal with, and usually means that she does not have control over her own life.
i hope that helps you. just love and be good to your kids, they are the most important. good luck!!

Answer 7

You can't make youre children lovre. You matter how hard you try. The best thing would be to show them. It is interesting how us women tend to control our childrens minds when it comes to their fathers. I don't beleive that women should talk about thie men that father their children,. That shows how immature we are at times. I wish you luck!

Answer 8

just be there for them and don't talk bad about her to them. In good time they will see things for what they are.

Plus you don't want to make them feel like they have to choose between the two of you - it's not fair to them.

Answer 9

Exact thing my ex says. Let me tell you, my kid is thinking for herself, could it possibly be that you need to take a look at that? Not to be harsh or anything, but usually if I find fault with others I really need to take a look at myself. Good luck.

Answer 10

if your divorced that will never be easy...
like myself I am divorced and have decided not to be like their Mother and just let them be them...
They want to live with me more than their Mother that says allot, but because we live in a corrupt Govt, I pay more child support than I can afford to have my Children!

can't raise children when your broke!

thanks you crap suck judicial left wing liberal system!