i need any help
2006-07-21 08:46:27 · 16 answers · asked by First Love 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
Just straight up tell him - let him know asap so you can discuss what you are going to do - the longer you wait the worse it will be i promise
2006-07-21 08:49:49 · answer #1 · answered by B tizzy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This can be scary for you to do. But it really does have to be done. Remeber, you didn't do this alone. It took both of you, so this is in no way ALL of your fault. This is both of you. You really just need to be truthful with him as soon as possible. Tell him that you have something that you need to talk about, and it demands his full attention. Try to write down some stuff that you are planning on saying to him, so that you kind of have some practice before you actually have to tell him. There are a lot of ways you could tell him.
1) You could just give him a positive pregnancy test - not very personal.
2) You could give him a card and write eveything you want to say in the card. It is a lot easier to write things down then to actually speak them. - easiest way and still very personal.
3) You could have a quiet talk and just tell him then. - this could be difficult but personal.
4) You could tell him over the phone. This way you can just hang up if you need to. This isn't very personal though.
And there are a lot more ways to do it. You think of one that would be speacial to both of you. This will be a memorable moment so you will want to have fond memories about it. I would go for the card though and write down all of your feeling, scared, happy, bervous, confused, and all.
I personally told my boyfriend (Husband now) over the phone, and then hung up on him. That wasn't very nice of me. I was just really nervous because we had only been with each other for about 2 months. I wish I would have done it better now that I look back.
Good luck with everything. It will work out fine. Soon as you get the hard part over of telling your boyfriend and all your friends and family things will get a lot better. Have a great day!
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2006-07-21 16:00:22 · answer #2 · answered by twisteddistance 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
telling your boyfriend that your kid isnt that big of a deal if you guys really love each other. i once had to tell a guy that i was pregnat with his kid and him and i only hooked up at a drunken party... now thats hard to do. especially when you dont want to have the baby and this freak who knocked you up wanted you to keep it. Anywho as long as you and your boyfriend truely love each other it will be okay. And as a conversation starter, just tell start talking with him and then tell him that you need to keep this child and that if he really loves you then he'll understand, but it may take him a little while to come to, and it make take some time for him to understand, but he should be there for you.
2006-07-21 15:57:01 · answer #3 · answered by Ashley Rose 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had the same problem with my son's father. I was so nervous and we had only been dating like 6 months. I just told him to come over because I needed to talk to him in person (this will usually freak them out and give them a hint of what is coming). Then after he was there a little while he kept asking what it was I wanted to tell him and I just kinda hid my face and (too nervous to even look at him) and blurted it out. He said he figured that's what I had to say.
You could try writing him a note if you are too nervous to even say the words out loud, too.
Have you told anyone else? I told everyone I knew before I told him except for my mom. I was 7 months pregnant and she didn't even know. Shows how much she paid attention, right? She only found out because she came over and listened to my answering machine and heard a message that said something about when my baby arrived.
2006-07-21 15:51:53 · answer #4 · answered by Amy >'.'< 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has a right to know and he is also responsible for the child. You act as if it's somehow your fault you're pregnant. Just sit him down and tell him. You need to do it now so you have time to figure things out and make the best plans for all THREE of you.
2006-07-21 15:51:24 · answer #5 · answered by clarity 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him. Its not yours to deal with alone, he helped get u that way. And he is going to find out soon enouh, might as well tell him now so you can get that part out of the way
2006-07-21 18:38:42 · answer #6 · answered by tonyagc23 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
step by step first of all invite him for dinner then act like u r sick ,when he ask u whats wrong tell him IM PREGNANT..dont forget to take ur cell phone so u call the ambalance after he get shocked (jocking) ..good luck and congrats on ur pregnancy.
2006-07-21 15:52:48 · answer #7 · answered by sasa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit down and just tell him. Honesty is the BEST policy.
2006-07-21 15:51:35 · answer #8 · answered by n/a 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him to start thinking of baby names
2006-07-21 15:51:05 · answer #9 · answered by Steph 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
slap him and tell him its all his fault. and now your having a kid
2006-07-21 15:49:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋