My boyfriend and I don't live together but I'm pregnant with our baby and he goes to the appointments with me and we see eachother every day. I have all the opportunity in the world to talk to him and I do talk when I find I have something to talk about concerning the baby and what I'm going through but I still feel alone. Is this normal? I feel like I'm the only one going through this right now. I'm only 16 weeks pregnant but I still feel very alone throughout it all. Is there any way I can help him be more involved or something so that I don't feel so alone? I'm 20 and he's 34 so there's an age gap but this is his first baby as well as my own first. I just wish I had someone else who knew what it feels like to talk to but none of my friends have been pregnant and my mother and I have a poor relationship. How can I stop feeling so alone?
2006-07-21 08:45:35 · 25 answers · asked by Lissa 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
This feeling is just your hormones kicking in. You need to find someone else to talk to, or something that will keep you busy. It would be a good time to start a new hobby. I felt really down and alone with my 2nd baby, so I know where you are coming from. If you want you can email me... Good Luck to you and the new baby to be
2006-07-21 08:56:09 · answer #1 · answered by Just Me 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Go and hang out with other pregnant woman. Don't feel alone because you are not you have a baby in your tummy now and you can talk to your baby you are not alone any more your baby might not respond with word but the baby will make movements in you that won't need a response. Sorry that you are feeling this way but think about your baby he/she feels what you are feeling. Hope you have a great motherhood you won't be alone after that.
2006-07-21 09:11:00 · answer #2 · answered by Dee R. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your OB/GYN can give you names and numbers of groups for pregnant women in your area. Some are Lamaze classes, but some or just classes for women to get together and share the experience. You are not alone. I don't know your situation very well, but part of why you are feeling this way may just be the changing hormones at this point. It'll get better.
And some men just don't get that involved in the pregnancy at first, but come around and make wonderful fathers. Just keep him involved, it'll be alright.
2006-07-21 08:55:36 · answer #3 · answered by Huh? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You defiantly need to join some pregnant groups there are groups all over the place. Like gyms that have exercise classes for pregnant women and Lamaze classes etc.
To get you bf involved take him with you to these groups and classes.
Another way to get him involved is tell him you need his help to pick out a pediatrician.
Lots of pediatricians will meet with you show you around their office etc. that way you have more to talk about.
Also is there a reason you two arent living togeather. Maybe you should suggest that he stay at your house with you more while you are pregnant.
2006-07-21 08:52:46 · answer #4 · answered by bree30 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's normal! Even people who live with their boyfriends/husbands feel this way. You are the only one going through this, no matter how much your partner supports you.
Honestly, you might want to talk to your doctor. It's likely it's just pregnancy hormones acting up, but some women do suffer from depression DURING pregnancy.
Your doctor will be able to better assess this and decide how you can be best treated.
Good luck!
2006-07-21 08:49:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is very normal when i was pregnent both times i felt alone even though i was not alone i had 4 other adults and 4 children living in my home and 3 of my close friends were pregnent at the same timei was i found the ferther i got in the pregnancey the more i felt that i was not alone it is hard to be pregnent and not feel alone with all the chainges your going through just remember that your not alone you should look for a pregnancy suport group in your area it could help to talk to other expected mothers
2006-07-21 08:57:07 · answer #6 · answered by misscb911 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm pregnant all the time...talk to me. OK seriousely...I'm a 20 year old mother of two. So I've been there. You feel alone? I would guess that that is caused from not having a female companion to call at 3am and ask, "can a baby kick feel like gas?" Then you fart and answer your own question. Sorry I just told one of my stories. I'm going to give you my email address and you talk to me whenever you feel like it OK? murph_ltt@yahho.com I hope you feel better very soon.
2006-07-21 08:58:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I felt the same way with my first pregnancy and am still kinda feeling that way with this one. I am 18 weeks pregnant and I am even married. THis is completely normal, your body is going through so many changes right now. Just take a childcare class so you can meet other preggo's. Or if you wanna email me, feel free! :) Just try and keep busy!
2006-07-21 09:20:44 · answer #8 · answered by momma2jaz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You go through a lot of emotions when you are pregnant and no two pregnancies are the same. You will come through it ok, just let you boyfrien know how you feel and things will work out on its own. Stop dewelling on it and focus on the positive things for now. Good luck.
2006-07-21 08:49:31 · answer #9 · answered by n/a 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly how you feel, it's dreadful, you need to start talking to your boyfriend more, I ended up dumping mine shortly after I found out I was pregnant because I felt so depressed and alone etc. Go see your GP and ask to get referred to a councilor so you can talk threw your problems and worries, trust me it helps.
And good luck with your pregnancy I've only 2 weeks to go and I can't wait!
2006-07-21 08:52:05 · answer #10 · answered by Chrissie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋