We have tried to talk things over and work things out, but it just isn't the same anymore. It is a gay marriage, we are legally married too.
2006-07-21 08:31:16 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Yeah. Sure. Maybe after you scratch that itch you will realize how much you appreciate your partner and all that jazz, or you'll realize you'd be happier without them and you'd move on. Give it a whirl.
2006-07-21 10:29:52 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
As a mother and a woman with much experience in dealing with people, I have to say that cheating is not the answer to help your relationship, that is of course, if you have no intention in moving forward with your relationship and making amends or getting resolution.
Talking doesn't always work. Have you tried separating and living separate lives? Maybe you'll find out more about yourself, as would your partner. I think you owe yourself and your partner the chance to pursue separate lives so that you both can find out if your relationship does figure into the picture. More importantly, if you are legally tied to each other there is the matters of fiduciary responsibility. Have you assets with your partner, kids, cars, bank accounts? Ask yourself if you really want to cheat because it will boost your self- esteem and then try to image what and how you would feel after you do it.
Love is not intentionally making yourself feel better by way of revenge or prioritizing your self- worth.
2006-07-21 09:44:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
um... legally married... don't screw around or when they divorce you they could have grounds to take everything cause you messed around outside of the marriage. I've seen it happen to friends, they didn't listen to my advice. It's just not a very smart thing to do. If it's really that rocky and you don't want to be with them anymore, bring it up to them, discuss a possible divorce or seperation, and then when all is said and done. When you two aren't together anymore, or have an open marriage,you can go mess around.
2006-07-21 08:38:33 · answer #3 · answered by Danny H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
An affair only complicates things. Your life is complex enough.
Try getting some couple's counseling, or if your partner won't go, get some individual counseling. You need help making decisions right now, and although having an affair may provide temporary relief, you may mess up your life, the life of your partner, and then possibly your new paramour's life.
2006-07-21 08:50:38 · answer #4 · answered by NHBaritone 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if things are rocky now why make it worse by having an affair and him finding out....be a man and just tell him that its not working out maybe u both need counseling. but the last thing u wanna do is cheat on him
2006-07-21 08:39:11 · answer #5 · answered by orange_crush_05 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should tell him how your feeling.Then talk it out and give it another try and if that doesn't work i think you should take sometime to yourself and find yourself.
And about your affair I personally don't thinks its a good idea,to me personally cheating is like sending up a flag in bold letters I DON'T WANT TO BE WITH YOUR ***!!!!!
If your really thinking about cheating just take a break so no ones heart get demolished. The real question you should ask is could u imagine how heart broken you would be if he was thinking like this?
2006-07-21 08:58:23 · answer #6 · answered by chelle_booderz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Umm you need to be a man, and fess up to the fact that you don't want to be with your spouse anymore. You both are going to become miserable if you stay in a failing relationship. You will end up hating each other. I'm sure you don't want that to happen, and you would want to at least be amicable. Remember marriage is just a piece of paper.
2006-07-21 09:21:04 · answer #7 · answered by graciefaith1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When we "marry" our own sex, we must expect it to fall apart. It's a toxic relationship and was really never more than a shack-up anyway. Our minds were saying "I do," not our spirits, and we all know how fickle and easily deceived our minds are. I'd say don't compound your errors by having another foolish affair on top of the one you're in already.
Give your life and your heart to Jesus, the great Healer. Trust Him to make you whole. If you're sincere, He'll do it!
2006-07-21 08:52:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if you're on a rocky road right now..i think you will definitely put the finishing nail in the coffin if you have an affair.
2006-07-21 08:54:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, why don't you try picking him up at a bar and act like you are having an affair.
2006-07-21 09:21:51 · answer #10 · answered by clclmom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋