We have tried to talk things over and work things out, but it just isn't the same anymore. It is a gay marriage, we are legally married too.
2006-07-21 08:30:37 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
If you are both bored in the relationship, maybe go on vacation together.
If the boredom is in the bedroom, get busy, you can both be bottoms.
If thats the case, try swinging with other couples.
There IS a difference between sex and love.
As long as it's mutually agreed upon...with ONLY other couples.
But don't cheat.
Cheating is definately not going to cure any other problems in your relationship.
You loved each other enough to be married, as long as you aren't hitting each other or trying to poison his breakfast, stick with it.
We all change. You are both individuals as well as a couple.
You BOTH have to make an effort to change together, not change apart.
2006-07-21 21:25:18 · answer #1 · answered by Chris C 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't think you should have the affair. It will only make you feel worse about the situation and yourself. It's wrong. I would recommend that you leave your current relationship and admit that both of you are not meant for each other. I mean, do you really see yourself with this person 5 years from now and happy? If not, you deserve to be happy, so it's okay to break apart and move on. Life is too short to stay in an unhappy relationship. I realize you're married but sometimes, we all just make mistakes. It's okay. Follow your heart. There's someone out there who will love you so very much and you'll be so happy together. Good luck to you.
2006-07-21 08:35:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say your relationship isn't the same anymore; what relationship is? You have been given an opportunity to grow together. If you are both truly committed and put forth the effort to get through this you may be richly rewarded. If either of you feels as if you have given everything you can, rather than everything your willing to give, then it is time to call it quits. I urge you, though, to keep your pants on until such time as the decision is made regarding whether or not your marriage will survive. Your husband will not respect you, nor are you likely to respect yourself otherwise.
2006-07-21 15:38:28 · answer #3 · answered by Speedo Inspector 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have an affair, that will end the marriage, so you might as well get a divorce. Have you tried marriage counseling? Would either of you be open to that?
2006-07-21 08:34:46 · answer #4 · answered by dmc81076 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, if you are truly finished then I would suggest that you first end your marriage, then go on to the next relationship. You wouldn't want anyone to do that to you...and believe me it will come back to you.
Good luck, and if you can, I hope you guys can work it out, especially if there is love there.
2006-07-21 08:37:56 · answer #5 · answered by Hope 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, man's rule of marriage does not make it so.
Second, it's rocky because it it wrong!
2006-07-21 08:34:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is better to agree to have an open relationship between the two of you. You might need him later.
2006-07-21 08:34:41 · answer #7 · answered by grumpyfiend 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No! You must be insane. Just because you're having problems doesn't mean "cheat." There are other ways to solve problems: counseling, separation, try going to dinner..
2006-07-21 08:33:43 · answer #8 · answered by Meghan M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you should consider a divorce or you should separate for a bit rather than just having an affair.
2006-07-21 08:32:26 · answer #9 · answered by Lola P 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
having an affair isn't going to solve your problems, it will make them worse.
2006-07-21 08:33:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋